Nice People Thread Number 11 - A Treasury of Nice People

Generali

LydiaJ wrote: »

That is, of course, the best way of doing it. It's what we started doing with them when they were little and there were two of us. It is much easier when there is more than one grown-up eating the meal to set the example. I'm sure it is possible with only one grown-up, if you have the energy to invest in making it consistent, which I haven't.

Yet another aspect of life in which I have failed to provide for my kids something good that I was provided with by my parents.

I think/suspect that you are being hard on yourself. If they are happy and healthy then you've done your job.

These days there is a strange belief that parents should strive for some mythical perfection. It will never happen so don't even aim for it.

neverdespairgirl

LydiaJ wrote: »

That is, of course, the best way of doing it. It's what we started doing with them when they were little and there were two of us. It is much easier when there is more than one grown-up eating the meal to set the example. I'm sure it is possible with only one grown-up, if you have the energy to invest in making it consistent, which I haven't.

Yet another aspect of life in which I have failed to provide for my kids something good that I was provided with by my parents.

Lydia, you've not failed in any way at all. DS is now at an age where you can't make him do things in the same way, you can only guide and nudge from a distance.

And you can try your best and still fail to make children eat lots of different things.

Sister # 1 was always very skinny, and went through stages where she'd hardly eat anything. For about 6 months, she'd only eat ryvita, tuna, cottage cheese, apples, carrots and pineapple. Nothing else. My mother got lots of "helpful" advice from both my grandmothers about not giving in to children, being firmer, showing sister #1 who was boss, etc.

Then my parents went to America for 3 weeks, and my grandparents came to look after the two of us (as we were then) for that time, and Granny saw it as an ideal opportunity to sort sister #1 out and show her what was what.

After 4 days, Granny realised there was a real and serious chance that sister #1 would starve herself rather than give in, so Granny did indeed learn who was boss, and it wasn't her. The plus side was that she stopped going on at my mother about it afterwards.....

And sister was only 3 then!

zagubov

NDG, I had a mate whose gas was cut off. For six months he only cooked using a camping stove and lived on cornflour chapatis he made, stuffed with chopped (usually raw) vegetables covered with yoghourt.

I was horrified by the monotony of it but he lasted surprisingly well on it. Having a small amount of fish is not a bad supplement to that so sis's diet looks pretty sustainable in comparison.;)

Edit: I was going to mention I'd take all this back if you pointed out that her teeth fell out soon afterwards or her elbows changed colour/ head became transparent/shoulders emitted a ringing sound etc.

neverdespairgirl

She expanded her range a bit with time, but it contracted in different ways once she was diagnosed as a Coeliac a few years ago.

PasturesNew

vivatifosi wrote: »

Speaking of which, I've also been trying to knit metal using one of those french knitting dollies and suspending coloured pearls on invisible thread inside.

Sounds nice. I've never been interested enough to put that on my To Do List. When I was about 5-8 I remember having a real wooden dolly (painted, with a face etc) and a whole bunchh of old cotton reels with nails .... and doing that stuff with wool.

neverdespairgirl

I'm drafting a set of grounds now - was supposed to be able to do them in a relaxed fashion earlier this evening, but got trapped at the hospital when I went for a growth scan for Aethelbald's head. That was OK, but they detected protein and wired me to monitors for several hours, and having established we were both absolutely fine, I didn't get home until well after 11pm.

Spirit_2

vivatifosi wrote: »

Speaking of which, I've also been trying to knit metal using one of those french knitting dollies and suspending coloured pearls on invisible thread inside. It's bloody hard. Took me ages experimenting to get the right gauge and even then I'm having to use wire with a high percentage of copper in for 'bendability'. I'm now worried it will be too fragile:(. I've been using a silver plated copper with grey freshwater pearls.

Don't get too excited about this project though. I've been working on it for about 18 months and haven't produced too much, other than a lot of bent wire. I keep breaking the hook. I now need to try a metal crochet hook.

It sounded beautiful and skillful.

Then you made it sound like something I might start and have going for a long time.

I have underway a cross stitch sampler for a fly fisherman. It was started for my father in law...when DD was aged about 8. He died in 2003.

Spirit_2

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I'm drafting a set of grounds now - was supposed to be able to do them in a relaxed fashion earlier this evening, but got trapped at the hospital when I went for a growth scan for Aethelbald's head. That was OK, but they detected protein and wired me to monitors for several hours, and having established we were both absolutely fine, I didn't get home until well after 11pm.

Glad to hear all is well, and will be relieved for you when the Nice Baby finally puts in appearance. I know it is dull and you had better things to do, but I am glad they hung on to you and that you cooperated.

Spirit_2

LydiaJ wrote: »

Yet another aspect of life in which I have failed to provide for my kids something good that I was provided with by my parents.

Generali wrote: »

I think/suspect that you are being hard on yourself. If they are happy and healthy then you've done your job.

These days there is a strange belief that parents should strive for some mythical perfection. It will never happen so don't even aim for it.

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Lydia, you've not failed in any way at all. DS is now at an age where you can't make him do things in the same way, you can only guide and nudge from a distance.

And you can try your best and still fail to make children eat lots of different things.


After 4 days, Granny realised there was a real and serious chance that sister #1 would starve herself rather than give in, so Granny did indeed learn who was boss, and it wasn't her. The plus side was that she stopped going on at my mother about it afterwards.....

And sister was only 3 then!

Just because you got off to a good start that was no gaurantee it would continue. As a small child DD ate everything, cabbage, liver, fish soup, muesli, fruit etc. We were smug.

By 7 she would only eat chocolate spread sandwiches for breakfast, all vegetables were off the menu, no fish except Tuna, most fruit was avoided, no milk or butter.

Generali is right, Do not compare yourself to the mythical perfection model, therein lies disaster. Realistic, practical NP and NP Mama's are much better role models:).

Spirit_2

I have been up for a while as I woke up feeling 'odd'.

Tested and was well on my way to my first night time low/hypo. So I have sorted that out and eaten a crumpet to see me through until morning.

It has made me think...does it always wake you up?What if it doesn't?

I am going to need to find out and make a plan. I do not usually google health stuff (wimpy) ...but I am going to be brave and do this.