MONEY MORAL DILEMMA: Should Grant and Tiffany charge for their wedding?

One_ting

I would totally object to being charged to attend the wedding.

When my wife and I married (having previously lived together) we could not afford a large wedding.

We arranged a party to celebrate out engagement, out house-warming and my birthday. On inviting people to this we asked that no gifts be bought but that collection boxes would be available for a charity of our choice. The party (including hire of hall, food and cake) cost £300 for approx 80 guests.

We then married in secret and announced it at the party.

We married because we wanted to, we provided the party because we wanted to - expecting the guests to pay for it would have been totally out of order!

Imelda

Over the past 2 years I have been to over 12 weddings!

Each have differed, most have had lists from John Lewis. None have asked for cash outright (although my best friend is doing this and I pleaded with her not to put a note in with the invitations [STRIKE]begging[/STRIKE] asking for cash- sure enough it was there in my invite).

I am going to a wedding in a couple of weeks where the couple are very arty and wacky. They have asked for no shop bought gifts but for guests to make something or provide a service for them. Oh is a qualified accountant so he has pledged to do their tax returns next year (they're self employed). I have pledged to work in their showroom at weekends whilst they are on honeymoon, this is costing me nothing but time but is saving them over £200.

I would not be happy overtly paying for someone's wedding, as others have said, if you can't afford it don't do it!

nancypearl

If the couple were very young and had not lived together then I might consider giving them some cash to help then set up home, as they would really need and appreciate it. But I would certainly not give money to a couple who had been in employment for years and already had a home.

durster2006

Simple, if I couldn't afford to get married i wouldn't.

Even paying for drinks at a wedding takes the !!!!.

If you came to dinner at my house I would be offended if you bought food or drinks and that includes wine.

If I'm hosting anything I wouldn't expect my guests to lift a finger or pay for a thing. And No im not rich.