Wife fixated on moving to area because of a school.

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We can afford to live in either areas but would have to compromise on house in this other area (not much and also there is nothing we like there at the moment house wise) but when we agreed to move we agreed that the next house would have all the things we needed, double garage, 4 beds, study/playroom, close to local amenities, a quiet area with a safe reputation and good schools.
the schools are all the same as judged by Ofsted and a school guide app we use. My wife did go to the school she wants our daughter to attend (secondary) but I am not wanting to look that far ahead due to things that can change and as it stands now there are outstanding schools in our proposed house area where she can learn at primary.

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Plus where my wife prefers there is a massive housing development going up and the locals are already saying the schools are overcrowded in that area now let alone when these new houses go up.

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And to another poster, we only want to move once now for the next 15 years, we can't move then do it again in 8 years time it just costa too much to do that.

FBaby

rpc wrote: »

The two are likely linked if the schools have good reputation

It is the exact opposite in my town. The best secondary school is in the worse area and the primary schools with the best Ofsted reports are not in the best areas we are lucky that most schools do very well. Last year I think everyone got their first choice of secondary schools.

jackyann

It must speak very well of your wife's experiences that she wants your daughter to go to the same school.
Something similar happened in our family and when the time came, the school was not the same at all!
Similarly, when I moved back to my native town I was deeply saddened to hear people saying they would never send their child to my old school, which had given me such a good education 30 years previously.

As for those who say that a good education is priceless, I would say: first of all home, second school - but be very clear what a "good" education means for *your* child.

One of our friends, who came from a family that had always privately educated, put both of their children into the local "good" private school. One flourished, one didn't, until she went to the supposedly bog-standard comp across the road (now they both have PhDs from Russell Group Universities)

FBaby

Deciding where to live on the basis of wanting her children to go to the school she went to I assume some years back is quite limited. Funnily my colleague was telling me this morning that she was pleased her daughter will not go to the one she went to although it was the best one at the time.

Prothet_of_Doom

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My wife wants .....


Please help...

Oh come on now really? You know the rules.... If the wife wants, and you can afford it, you do it, unconditionally. :rotfl:






My wife had a similar requirement, to live close to her parents and within the catchment area of a particular secondary school.

Now for the same price, 5 miles away, still within the catchment area, but an additional 10 minute train journey to school, (so in reality adding 30 mins each way if you have to wait for a train), you can get a much nicer house on, (what I consider to be), a nicer estate, but less 'pretenious' with the wrong postcode.


I just remind her when she complains that her kitchen is too small, that she was given the choice and she is half a mile from her parents, 200 yrd from her sister and was (until he moved half a mile) 50 yrds from her brother.

Now that the kids are fleeing the nest, I would like to move about 80 miles to 150 miles south, on to the Welsh Borders, (but in England..:rotfl:), and I if she mentions the clausrophobia of being too close to family, I'll show her right move images of our dream house, and say I'm happy to do whatever she wants. :rotfl:

warehouse

Prothet_of_Doom wrote: »

Oh come on now really? You know the rules.... If the wife wants, and you can afford it, you do it, unconditionally. :rotfl:






My wife had a similar requirement, to live close to her parents and within the catchment area of a particular secondary school.

Now for the same price, 5 miles away, still within the catchment area, but an additional 10 minute train journey to school, (so in reality adding 30 mins each way if you have to wait for a train), you can get a much nicer house on, (what I consider to be), a nicer estate, but less 'pretenious' with the wrong postcode.


I just remind her when she complains that her kitchen is too small, that she was given the choice and she is half a mile from her parents, 200 yrd from her sister and was (until he moved half a mile) 50 yrds from her brother.

Now that the kids are fleeing the nest, I would like to move about 80 miles to 150 miles south, on to the Welsh Borders, (but in England..:rotfl:), and I if she mentions the clausrophobia of being too close to family, I'll show her right move images of our dream house, and say I'm happy to do whatever she wants. :rotfl:

...and I bet she reminds you that the house you're now in is worth so much more than the other house .

pollyanna24

But how close do you have to be to guarantee a place at the school? I'm 3 minutes' drive from the school I wanted my girl to go to and we live about 600m away, but she still didn't get in.

DKLS

Might be a good time to let your wife have her way but you get a harley/ sports car or annual lads trip (or whatever rocks your boat) in return.