Depression Support Thread

rose07

geminilady wrote: »

rose07 wrote: »

Hi Rose,glad you posted was wondering how you were,you were very down last time you posted.Hope you are feeling a little better now.something you said to Gillette made me think "Sometimes its easier to go along with what we have then break away from the norm as it were"
Thats me to a T LOL,i sometimes feel so lonely for someone to care and just give me a hug but i am finding it really hard to break out of my rut and get out there.Nobody is going to come knocking on my door,i have to get out there but after been on my own(apart from my boys)for nine years it seems such an effort.Have joined a dating site that seems ok,its free and they have regular get togethers all over the country.It is just taking the first step that is hard.Anyway you take care and keep fighting you give good advise on here so next time you are having a bad day give yourself a talking to.

Hi GL hun
How r u? I hear what ya saying hun. Its soo easy for us to stay as we are, to be happy with our routines that we get used to. But its time to give yourself some you time hun, get out there, dont regret on things later. Time to do, and not just think. You deserve someone just as we all do:D, and im sure there is someone out there just waiting for you.
Ive been lucky to have been in love, but also unlucky to have lost them. But to feel what you do with them is priceless. Take the step hun, you will never know unless you go.

Im ok, soildering on as it were, soz i was on a bad day last time around, bit better atm. Have came to realise a few things, today i had a meeting and it made me realise just how much i have achieved. Nothing is impossible .
Ive had an interview this week, and I also went to the unit on Monday, gave me a kinda perspective.
I have to go to Hospital tomorrow to have a cardiac monitoir strapped to me, ooh the joy lol. think i have to wear it for a week too, not gonna enjoy it:o. But out on saturday, and seeing someone very special.

Take care hun

xxx

gillette147

Hi folkes,

Just did a very quick casino offer.
Put in £50 and if you lose it within 24hrs they give you the £50 back. So it is a risk free gamble. Basically I had £50 on the toss of a coin.
And I won!!

.....so I made £45.
Next time I complain I am unlucky...remind me about tonite.

Hope you are all ok. I'm tired now, so hugs and handshakes to you all and cya xxxx

poppycracker

BigMummaF wrote: »

Ummmm, could be wrong here, but I think AP is talking about his OH & not necessarily us?

Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

Sorry, feeling extra sensative yesterday . Sorry andi

Tiff_2

poppycracker wrote: »

Sorry, feeling extra sensative yesterday . Sorry andi

Hi pc!:hello:
How's you hun?
Sorry you were feeling out of sorts hun.:o

Don't worry, there wasn't a big deal at all - just a simple misunderstanding angel and we can all have those.;) Why, I remember several times on old threads that there were fur and feathers everywhere - right sazzy?:D
And I'm sure andi doesn't think there was any problem hun.

Right sweetheart, that's yesterday sorted - now let's see how well we can mess today up!:D
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi andi!:hello:
How are you today angel? I know yesterday was hard going for you and I was thinking of you hun.

quote=andipandi;
Hello folks,i would just say that when your OH projects their drama to you that really one has to try to cast it off,we all have our own drama to deal with,theres enough !!!!!! going round in my head as it is,don't need anyone else's,
Are you talking about your wife andi? I know you guys still see and help each other and that she has mental ill health too but denies it? Have I remembered correctly?

I know what you mean andi about feeling overwhelmed with your own problems and not being able to take in anything else, no matter who it's from. She obviously still feels she can turn to you.
You've been through a lot recently andi and there's nothing wrong with pointing her in another direction of help, especially if you're so low. If OH doesn't turn to this professional source of help hun, that's not your fault. Sometimes you have to say that you can only look after yourself right now.;) It's not being nasty, it's being honest.

well my eldest dd is up in court as i write this,don't really know what she will get but first offence and all that hopefully a fine,court costs and maybe some compensation,hopefully she will learn from this because she will have a criminal record now which will affect her employment prospects and travel/working abroad.
regards
Andy/quote
I hope things went as well as they could for DD andi. As parents, we're pretty helpless when they go off as adults and get into things like this, sadly. I hope she'll have learned her lesson too hun. At least now the waiting's over and it's done and dusted.;)
I hope you're feeling better today hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

andipandi_2

[quote=andipandi;
Hello folks,i would just say that when your OH projects their drama to you that really one has to try to cast it off,we all have our own drama to deal with,theres enough !!!!!! going round in my head as it is,don't need anyone else's,
Are you talking about your wife andi? I know you guys still see and help each other and that she has mental ill health too but denies it? Have I remembered correctly?]

Hi tiff,yes my OH does project her anxiety onto me that is how folks are but i was talking in general ,could be anyone ,like i had (note had) a mate once who was always projecting his issues and drama onto me,i had to cut the chord,i don't need these people or their sh1te but i still have compassion for them ,hope it all works out for them but i'm out of there ,can't do that with family or OH so i have my own coping mechanisms to deal with it all.

mY dd has been bailed for 2 weeks ,she will probably get £300 fine or more but its the criminal record that is the big prob here,

when she was interviewed under caution she refused legal help,said she wouldn't admit to the assault ,was told in court if she had admitted to it then and there she would have been cautioned, end of.

so hopefully she will learn,she is so head strong she listens to no one and now its going to cost her big time,she was told if she gets a criminal record she will be suspended from her job as well,

although she is my dd and i love her,she dug the hole shes in and she has to get out of it,i can't do it for her,she only has to go to work,pay her keep to her mum(which she doesn't do,i told her she must but no )and thats it,
22 this month,when i was 22 ,i was married,morgaged,working 7 days a week and dd in question was on the way.

ahh :mad: the youth of today !

regards
Andy

*zippy*

Afternoon :hello:

Feeling fed up today. I'm trying hard to make new friends, but I have been blown out twice this week. The one today didn't even let me know, I was really looking forward to it and feel like i've waited all afternoon for her. The other one said she would call to re-arrange, but hasn't. I know its going to be hit and miss for a while, but its knocked my confidence.

On a positive note I tidied up for her coming so the house looks nice for the weekend at least.

poppycracker

*zippy* wrote: »

Afternoon :hello:

Feeling fed up today. I'm trying hard to make new friends, but I have been blown out twice this week. The one today didn't even let me know, I was really looking forward to it and feel like i've waited all afternoon for her. The other one said she would call to re-arrange, but hasn't. I know its going to be hit and miss for a while, but its knocked my confidence.

On a positive note I tidied up for her coming so the house looks nice for the weekend at least.

Afternoon zippy . People can be so thoughtless can't they. But at least you don't have to listen to them talking about themselves.... As they say, it's their loss if they don't want to spend the afternoon with you.

(((hugs))) to you

PC

Tulip

Hi Everyone,
Hope you are all ok,I feel a bit down today because of the heat,I went out though for dinner and had fish and chips,then I asked my parents to take me home and they did,I just slept and slept again as the heat takes it out of me,I will sleep well though tonight I hope,I usually do anyway
love and light,
Katie xxx

BigMummaF

I went to the Service this morning--glad I did, if that doesn't sound too morbid.

I really thought more people would have been there, but I guess the Bosses control us minnions so tightly, that it is too difficult to get time off from work. I remember when my darlin dad passed...my brother-in-law of [then]23 Years----who worked for the same company as Dad--had to take a day's holiday for the service because 'it's not family'.:mad:

I had to smile when I read Zippy's post! No2 child lost the pass keycard for work... The pair of us searched high & low all weekend, digging in corners that would pass for an Indianna Jones adventure, only to find it hanging on the door handle at 11:45pm on the Sunday evening:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: But could you answer me this--why is it nobody ever calls round when the house IS tidy :rotfl:

I think I'll go make a :coffee: & settle in to watch The Dog Whisperer....it's a good job you can't get fat on 'eye candy';)

Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx