Depression Support Thread

redruby

morning all,

i hope you dont mind me posting, but i could do with a bit of advice/ support re my OH, he has always suffered from depression, and has huge highs or lows, his mum also suffers but much worse than him, anyway i went out shopping yesterday, and when i got back he had taken all of his stuff and gone, we had been having a few words due to his lack of commitment towards me, but i never expected that, he would not answer his phone all night, and has only texted me this morning because i told him it was making me ill. i have asked him if its over and he said he does not know.

what i need help with is it best if i just leave him now and give him space to think things over, and is there any thing i can do to help with his depression

hope its ok for me to post xx

whitevanwoman

shazrobo wrote: »

morning all, i'm as ok as can be expected, bit stressed bout the meeting with ds, school, and police tommorrow, but nothing i can do about it today, so gonna go for a long drive, over to lake windermere, never been before, so somet new for us, and kids taking their portable dvd players to keep them occupied in car.
thanks to everybody for your support, love and understanding, it means so much to me.
hope everyone has a good day, or best they can under their circumstances.
love and big hugs
shaz xx

Shaz, the Lake District is my part of the world and whilst Windermere is worth a visit if you've never been before, there are some beautiful places with much fewer people, cars, shops etc if you want to just spend some time taking in the natural beauty and chilling out. The kids would be able to run, shout, scream, clamber over ruined castles, and get rid of excess energy. If ever you decide to head up this way again, let me know and I'll give you some ideas. I hope you really enjoy your day, the sun is shining up here and its not cold (well, not as cold as it has been) and you should see windermere at its best.
Have a lovely time x

whitevanwoman

ilovegreatdanes wrote: »

hi,
shaz....enjoy the windermere trip.ive been watching the wainwright walks on beeb 2 and now really fancy the hill walking myself.hope you have a lovely day.im glad you are posting again.i dont think you did anything wrong before, just what any mum would do.look after yourself. xx

Hi ILGD, fellow dog lover (Tiff, don't take exception, I admit that cats rule)
Like I've just said in my post to Shaz, the Lakes is my patch and being a hill person (when I'm well) I know some super walks that dogs love. If you're ever heading up this way, let me know and if you and your pooch want to make friends with me and my mongrel, we could meet. A word of warning though, the Wainwright walks are on the whole fairly strenuous and there aren't signposts along the way so you need to be able to use a map and compass in case the cloud comes down. Lecture over.
x

whitevanwoman

redruby wrote: »

morning all,

i hope you dont mind me posting, but i could do with a bit of advice/ support re my OH, he has always suffered from depression, and has huge highs or lows, his mum also suffers but much worse than him, anyway i went out shopping yesterday, and when i got back he had taken all of his stuff and gone, we had been having a few words due to his lack of commitment towards me, but i never expected that, he would not answer his phone all night, and has only texted me this morning because i told him it was making me ill. i have asked him if its over and he said he does not know.

what i need help with is it best if i just leave him now and give him space to think things over, and is there any thing i can do to help with his depression

hope its ok for me to post xx

Hi, I fairly new here myself and I'm sure you will get responses from some of the old timers here. But for what it's worth, I'd like to quote a magnet on my fridge ...
"Don't try to understand me, just love me" (That's why my dogs so important - he does just love me)
For me, often what I need to know is that people just accept me as I am.
I can't speak from a carer's point of view but I know how difficult it is for my friends and family to deal with my depression, mainly because they want to help but don't know what to do.
I see my depression as like putting rechargeable batteries on charge - I've just suddenly run out of energy and need to put myself on recharge. Sometimes I just need a bit of a top up for a day or 2, sometimes I need to be on a complete recharge which might last weeks. During recharge, the only thing I can focus on is me. That sounds selfish but its more like a survival instinct kicking in. From experience, my very best friends have realised that just because I don't answer the phone to them or refuse to see anyone doesn't mean that I don't care, it just means that my fragile state of mind is such that I simply can't cope with doing any thing more than surviving. I know it is really hard for them and I still go through massive guilt trips about causing them worry.
All I can say is hang on in there, and remember that what people say or do during times of mental distress is often not what they are really thinking or wanting - its simply the symptoms of their illness.
Best wishes

ilovegreatdanes

hi wvw.
dh and me went to blue john mine and another one near to it years ago and i really enjoyed it.we are always promising ds we will take him.is that near you or are you more in yorky than derbyshire?
also visited edale many years ago, just outside sheffield and enjoyed it hugely.
we have alot of great walks round here as well.got to be careful with charlie dane now cos hes 7 and thats old for a dane ,and he has a heart murmur so its little and often for him.i think shaz lives quite near to me cos she says shes near to new millar dam near wakefield and im not too far off there.

Sazbo

Hello my lovlies :wave:

Hope you're all having a good sunday. I'm thinking about having another cuppa, when really i should be doing something useful:)

Anyway, Tiffy just wanted me to pass on a quickie message to you all. She's got rather a lot on her plate at the minute; a lot of stuff needs sorting at Tiff Towers and she's finding it all a bit of a struggle, bless her heart.

She asked me to stress that she loves each and everyone of you very much, but doesn't want to be a burden. Which is silly of her, but you all know what she's like!

But this will only be a short time-out - or maybe that should be a short "paws"...? Normal Tiffing service will be resumed soon!

Take care our Tiffy!

Much love,
Sazzyx

ilovegreatdanes

hi to redruby btw, wasnt ignoring you, just was a little unsure, same as wvw as to what to say.wouldnt want to give you the wrong advice cos id feel awful, iykwim.

whitevanwoman

Hi WeeK, thanks for the pm, will reply once I've got more caffeine into my system. Not been up long and got a bit distracted replying to other posts. Have a good day, enjoy the power that a screwdriver gives you! Who needs a man anyway?! (Miro - don't take offence; if I had a man around, I'd gladly let him do my DIY but there is something very empowering about doing stuff which is usually seen as man's work).
x

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope you are alright,today is my parents 40th Ruby wedding anniversary,went home for a nice dinner,gave them a box of celebrations they have more presents to come eventually I am so :mad: why are there not nice people on this website.I go and find out something from a company and phone them up re my orders I had made and this person thinks I have told them they have made an error and I did it because I was wondering if I was going to get the orders I had placed.It was for Dunelm Mills btw for their free items.I said ok next time I wont bother saying when I phone a company,I just cant win

I am going offline to let off some steam now,I had a nice time with parents and to come back to this is so bad.

sorry for the vent

welcome redruby to the thread

love and light,

Katie xxx

meyore

Hi everyone, I've been too scared to post for a couple of days, its felt like such a bad atmosphere and I was scared I'd upset someone. I hope you're all ok. Sorry to hear so many of you are having a bad time.
Hugs to everyone old and new

Xx