Depression Support Thread

Tulip

slowlyfading wrote: »

take care katie x x

You take care too SF I also love watching Casualty and Holby City


Katie

Tulip

I am off now,

Night! Night!

chat tomorrow

love and light,

Katie xxx

BigMummaF

I'm going too...think I've used all the colours in my paint box!

Busy day tomorrow-no1 child moving back home[yohoo!] after six months being independent. His firm have moved the contract with the overtime to another depot, so he can't really afford to stay where he is.

Night Night All.....Peaceful Minds. BMFx

slowlyfading

night everyone, i'm off too x

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
I hope everyone is safe and sound and feeling well.
Today has a promising start with glorious sunshine and a peaceful dawn - just the birds and me.

Sorry I couldn't get back yesterday but I'm always
thinking of you all.

Huge Tiffy hugs to everyone with an appointment, treatment, tests, counselling and to anyone who's feeling low - aw go on, you can all have one!:A

It's a new week guys with plenty of opportunities to mess it up so don't feel you have to do it all today!:D
Have a good day everyone.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi ilgd!:hello:
How are you hun?
quote=ilovegreatdanes;
am trying to survive the school hols.tbh,have been feeling alittle down but think the weather doesnt help cos it seems to be constantly raining and dark, so its not mood enhansing.
I hope your mood has lifted angel. I agree - we all need a little sunshine in our lives. This last few weeks have given me a little insight into how SAD sufferers must feel.:o The school holidays can be torture in some ways. I vote for summer school!;)

to be on the safe side i took some st johns, which i find helps alot and been trying to keep myself thinking positive.saw all the flood victims on the news and what they are going throu and was ashamed of myself alittle for getting upset with my lot in life when i suppose its not that bad.
Oh hun, I know there are so many people who have had their lives turned upside down by the floods, but your entitled to your own pain. That's part of depression and we're very good at dismissing our own feelings when we see others suffering - and that can sometimes make us feel worse because it can make us feel like we don't matter in the grand scheme of things.:o

If you look really hard angel, you'll find that there was a lot of the 'Dunkirk spirit' and that people were helping others in the same position.:T I'm sure new friendships were forged and that some people finally got to meet their neighbours. I remember the people affected every night and wish them the best of everything.

I feel that if there's a way to prompt our depression or mental ill health, it' achieved by watching the news.:o Any good stories or funny ones are tucked away neatly just before the weather - if you're lucky!:rolleyes:
I wonder how much this affects our moods? It's no wonder we feel even lower, with half an hour of troubles, pain, crime and fear. I'm I know the 'bad' news is very important, but maybe there could be a better balance, especially on local news. I naievely felt that news should be news, but there seems to be a feeling of opinions getting into the arena sometimes.

sorry, didnt mean to unburden you with that lot but hope you forgive me.it helps me to talk to peeps on this thread as i find it really theraputic to put my thoughts on screen.
will stop with the essay now....:o
love julie xx/quote
Now you know the rules on apologies ilgd! We can't help when we're down. Your post wasn't an essay hun. I think that we've all felt the benefit of this place angel - it really helps us to know that we can express ourselves without being judged, to let the pain out and see that others have felt the same way.
And it does something else - it gives an insight into other mental ill health conditions and issues and it shows that we can survive, we have choices and that it's not all over yet.;)
Most of all, this thread shows just how truly amazing and compassionate you guys really are!:T :A

Now that's an essay ilgd!:eek: I bet some of you moved house and had children in the time it takes me to post sometimes!:D
Have a nice day ilgd - the sunshines's here as requested angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

*zippy*

Morning all :hello:

Beautiful here today too. DD woke me this morning by coming into my room shouting and balling, I jumped up with a start thinking something was wrong, all it turned out to be was she was annoyed that our chickens were being noisy and had woken her up, they must have been pleased to see the sun. Feel like my nerves are frayed now, not the best way to wake up...kids!

BMF must be lovely to have your son back home.

Hi Tooties lovely to have you join the thread.

Tiff_2

Hi sandy!:hello:
How are you angel?

quote=*sandymogs*
I guess my distraction is only temporarily masking the way I feel and no doubt the novelty will soon wear off and it's back to reality.
You know what hun, if you schedule some relaxation time or hobby time on a regular basis, then when you do hit a low spot and need it as a distraction, it'll work quicker. As with everything else, the more we practice, the easier it gets and it's a really useful tool to have.;)

I did give a brief overview of my situation a few weeks ago.
Ah, that must have been when the Tiffster went to Harrogate - we must have crossed paths and just missed each other. (Haven't forgotten about the photos guys!:eek: )

I am not on AD's at present but have been on them twice in the past. I find I can mange most days, but there are days when life just seems so unbearable.

I have a 14 year old son with High Functioning Autism. For anyone who doesn't know what that is, he does have speech, but has difficulty with non-verbal communication, naive - inappropriate one sided interaction, social situations, language and understanding, lacks empathy, hyper-sensitivity, he cant cope with change or when things go wrong, intense absorption in certain subjects, clumsy ill-coordinated motor skills and he has challenging behaviour. He recently underwent a total colectomy after suffering with ulcerative colitis, so he now has an illeostomy. He wont even look at his stoma, so I have to do every thing for him regarding personal hygiene. What with the autism the illness and all the hospital stays, it's really taken out of me!
I really feel for both you and your DS angel. It's a crying shame that he's got so much to deal with and has had to have such major surgery. Do you get any help from carers with him hun?
You have every right to feel the way you do sweetheart. Imho, you're in the running for some kind of sainthood and I admire your strength, even though sometimes you must feel it's deserted you and you must be exhausted most of the time.


There are days when my son is calm, but most days, something will set him off and he will shout, throw things, verbally abuse me and even attack me! It takes a while for him to calm down and then he apologises to me. He knows he's done wrong but has no control during the rage cycle. His younger brother is 12 and is showing signs of jealousy, due to the amount of attention his brother has.
It's such a lot to deal with alone angel. It's natural that 12 year old DS feels jealous and he's about to run into puberty and may need support too. How many people can you split yourself into sandy? You're achieving the impossible right now with a struggle.:A

I really think that you need more help hun. If you break under the strain, everything is at risk of collapsing. It's not just your two DS you have to consider angel - you need a quality of life too.
Are any agencies involved sweetheart? Social services? Does he get DLA of any kind? I'm sure you've probably sorted it all out but here are a few links that may help - sorry if you've already been there.;)
www.youreable.com (advice, help and products for the disabled),

www.nas.org.uk (National Autistic Society) and also
www.nas.org.uk/nas/jsp/polopoly.jsp...( an article on their site about High Functioning Autism.)

www.youngia.org.uk (info and support group for young people who've had an ileostomy.)

www.autism.org.uk (what it says on the can.;) )

www.direct.gov.uk/en/DisabledPeople/index.htm (disabed people government site.)
I found other areas covered like providing respite care, and charities that take very disabled children on holiday if yiou're interested sandy.

To top it all, I hardly ever see my two eldest children who are 24 & 21. I don't know why my daughter never comes to my house anymore. I haven't seen my grand-children for weeks either. Whenever I pop down their house, she never seems to be in. The last time my daughter came to see me, I lent her £100 which I haven't had back and I refused to lend her money to buy a car. It makes me feel that she only wants me for my money! I have helped her out a lot financially over the past few years.
I don't know your family hun, but it does seem that they expect far too much from you. Don't lend them anymore money angel please. Have you spoken in the phone with her sandy? If she's out next time, pop a little letter through her door saying you miss your children and grandchildren and also say you'd love to see them if you want that. You could mention the money in the letter to DD so that you don't have to go through a whole emotional scene. I'm sure they do have their own problems but they have to recognize the situation you're in! They can find help elsewhere from varius agencies - don't let them take advantage of your kind heart angel.

I know I haven't been able to help her look after the children much, but I'm busy caring for my son. I have to be careful when my son is around my grandchildren, because he shouts at them and could hit them due to their unpredictability.
I feel so guilty that I have to spend more time with my disabled son than I do with the others, but I have no choice! This is what makes me feel so depressed.
Your disabled son takes priority hun. If they don't understand at their ages, then they're being selfish imho. I'm sure both you and they would love to be more involved with the grandchildren but that's not humanly possible right now. As I said, how many roles can you play hun?
Maybe if you had a carer come in say even 2 afternoons a week to look after DS, one could be spent with visits to the family and the 2nd should be spent concentrating purely on yourself.

Anyway, enough about me. Hope you are all well and I've noticed there are a couple of you not posting recently, but you are around, because I can see your thanks! We all care about you, even though you may not think so. Life is too short for bitterness and we should all be here to support one another and put our differences behind us.

(((Hugs))) to all.
Sandy xx/quote
I agree sandy!:T
Many thanks to you for finding the time to even post and share your story. If there's an area you think I can help in, I'll run down to consult the Tiff Archives.:D
You are very brave and a survior angel - but even heroines need people there for them and I know the guys here will support you sandy.;) :A Please don't forget to take care of yourself as well hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Morning! hope all is well,I am fine I am off out today to the pub for Karioke and I am going to have a nice day as its really sunny

Have a lovely day everyone whatever you are doing

Love and light,

Katie xxx

slowlyfading

Good morning everyone :hello:
Hope everyone is okay today, the weather is nice and i'm off to work in a bit. have a great day. x x