Depression Support Thread

dawnylou

Sorry guys...firstly I am waaaaaaaaaay behind again. Fiance has had a week on hol so I haven't been online as much. Now I am finding it difficult to find exactly where I left off on here?!
I hope everyone has been well over the last week though x

shazrobo wrote: »

morning everyone, firstly, thanks tiff for funny post made me smile.
((((big hugs)))) dawnylou, try not to let it get to you, what people online say to you, they dont know you like we do. it is disheartening gaining weight, i know i've gained this week too, despite trying hard and cutting out alcohol.

i'm feeling ok this morning, been to my day centre and done some woodwork, nearly finished the spice rack that i'm making, can't go next week tho, cos i have kids at home for the half term hols. going to see my health advisor this afternoon, i find i can talk to her easily, as she is a really down to earth person. then tonight i'm going to a support group for parents of kids with ADHD, my dad has volunteered to baby sit for those couple hours. be nice to moan about my sons with somebody who understands, and hopefully give advice for those with younger kids, as i've been there.
off to make a sandwhich for my lunch now, as i keep getting told off for skipping meals.
big hugs to all those that want or need one
shaz x

Shaz - I simply do not understand why I snapped like that. I thought I was managing to regain control over my emotions, but I guess not
I have had to quit alcohol because of my meds. Well doctor advised me to, I didn't listen and had a binge one night - boy did I regret it!!! So now I am trying my hardest to quit. She says one or two glasses now and then should be ok, but I find it hard to stop after one or two I know it's bad isn't it??!
I have eaten out more in the last week though with Fiance being home.

Anyway I walked for 2 hours on Monday and yesterday I walked for an hour AND did an exercise DVD. Waiting for my new Ministry of Sound workout to come, feels like ages since I ordered it.

Glad you have been feeling ok. Day centre sounds like so much fun!! I wish I had the energy to go to some sort of classes and indeed the creativity to make such nice things! You must be so proud of yourself

geminilady wrote: »

((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))) Dawny don't let them upset you they are not worth it.The free cinema ticket board was where i would have posted to as it seems the most obvious place.Unfortuanetly some people have a thing about rules and think people are psycic.I have posted on the cinema discussion board to say how badly they reacted.As you say they do not know you and it is easy to post words on a screen the are proberly the type of people that would say nothing if you were face to face.Some people take pleasure in being nasty for no good reason.Hope you are feeling a little better now honestly they are really not worth it.You should be proud of the careing helpful person you are.

I know, I really don't know what happened to me!!
That is what I thought with regards to where to post it - but next time I feel like being kind to someone on here I can definately say noone in that thread will benefit from that kindness.
What makes it worse that not one, but TWO, people felt the need to throw it all back in my face and be downright mean is that both people I noticed had a very small post count too. So what gives them the right to treat me like that??
AND someone else went on last night and did the same thing - no one told them off and someone did actually take the tickets!! So it makes it feel very personal!!
I am really struggling to get control of my emotions! I need to sort myself out as I can't go back to work when I cry so easily over such pathetic things!

Thank you for sticking up for me though
I guess the problem with being online is that you have no way of knowing how you might hurt someone. I remember when I first started on this thread how much I upset Tulip because she thought she had made me go away when she hadn't at all and then I was so upset because I had upset her!! lol. So I know how easily it is for something to be taken the wrong way - but the way it was written was almost like I was being shouted at!!

I felt better after taking Kiki for a walk.
Tuesdays are always bad for me as well because I have counselling!
But like I said earlier - the people in that thread would obviously prefer to feel some sort of power and let tickets go to waste rather than have one post offering tickets that could be deleted when they are gone and so if it happens again that I can't use my tickets I will offer them elsewhere.

Sazbo wrote: »

Dawny please don't get upset hun. Some people in this world are unfortunate enough to have both a tact AND sensitivity bypass. You WERE being helpful. It's just an online thread - ignore their pettiness. Please don't let them get to you sweetheart, you are far more special than that. (((BIG HUGS)))

And well said Gem hun :T :T

Love,
Sazzy xxxxx

I know, I am embarrassed now!!! :rotfl:
Thank you for your kind words huni x

queensway_boy wrote: »

Big hug for dawny


come on lets play this


ring-ring-a-roses,


......................................:D

Ooooooooooooooooooooooooooo you are making me dizzy...... :rotfl:

gillette147 wrote: »

I prefer sardines (not the fish tho....yuk)

I read this several times not quite understanding...so I came to the conclusion that sardines must be a game??
Yes the fish is yuk!! Give me salmon anyday!!

razorbladekisses wrote: »

dawnylou (((HUGS))) What a lovely idea making pancakes for your fiance and chocs. for his cousin I hope they appreciated them. I'm not very good at cooking at all. I really envy your cooking skills

Please don't let those people on your thread get to you. What you did was a lovely gesture so please don't don't let them make you feel bad about yourself. You come across as such a lovely person and I hate to hear that people have upset you (((HUGS)))

Tiff, Ethel and geminilady :hello: It's lovely to see posts from you all. I hope you're all looking after yourselves.

Well Fiance was over the moon with pancakes for his brekkie as he had indeed forgotten what day it was!!
His cousin will get her chocs today - we tasted them as they didn't all fit in the gift box (what a pity!! :rotfl:) I actually think they are quite nice!!
I used my ice cube trays and made stars, hearts and bottles and used hazelnuts in some, pecans in some, coconut in some, brandy in some, chocolate strands on some - so a nice variety box I do hope she likes them

Some days I am really good and can make lovely meals (but I struggle to get everything served up in a way that everything is still warm!!! :rotfl:) other days I struggle. Like the other day I was practically stamping my feet with frustration as I couldn't make my gravy right!!! :rolleyes:
I really need to gain control again!!

Thank you for your kind words. :A

I'm so sorry that you were feeling so down yesterday. I do hope that today you can see how valuable you really are.
Pity you live so far away - maybe we could have supported each other a bit more in person if it was possible? And if we were closer you would have such a good friend in me that you would always know where you could turn as I understand how you are feeling. x

feelinggood wrote: »

RBK, sorry that you are feeling low. There is hope. Things can improve. You can find friends. You can make your life something that you are happy with. I know its hard, but things can, and will get better. Is there anything you want to do with your life? I've got a list of things that I'm going to try before I consider suicide. If you aren't happy, can you think of anything you can do to improve the situation? Is there any help on offer that you could accept?

Hi FG, hope you are well. Do you mind me asking about this list you have and maybe an example of one or two things on the list? If you feel I am prying too much then just ignore me.


Anyway I had counselling again last night and I said I felt I was getting better and other than one little outburst I had been fine. He wanted me to talk about it. I felt pathetic explaining why I got so upset and what it was over :rolleyes:
But just talking about it made me really upset again and I cried.
Then the topic turned to other situations where I struggle to keep my true feelings under control and the floodgates totally opened!
I had my last 2 sessions without crying at all and I was so proud of myself!

At the end of my session he said this was going to be my last session but that we would extend it for another couple of weeks.

I am so mad at myself to think that could have been the end of my couselling and I blew it!!! :mad:

How does everyone else cope?

You know if something upsets you or makes you angry...how do YOU keep control? How do YOU manage to act calmly and just get on with things??

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
Welcome to Mensday!

Erm...WHY am I jumping for joy?!
Apologies guys - I've obviously over-done the...



just a tad!
I hope everyone is feeling as well as they can be this morning. Apologies in advance for whatever may escape from the Tiffster today - not feeling so good tbh.

Against my better judgement, I went into town yesterday to take care of a couple of pressing matters at the bank and I also had to pick something up for Mum. So there I was, just coming out of a shop, when I saw a man holding an old lady up under her arms and she was unconscious. There were shopping bags on the carpark ground and her cane too. The poor soul, who was the frame and weight of a sparrow, had tripped over a speed bump (THAT IS NOT FUNNY!!!) as her cane had slipped.

The elderly guy was her husband and he stood there in his short shirt sleeves, having put his fleece jacket over her. She was bleeding from her nose and her hands were bleeding and when her husband had tried to help her up, she passed out. Never one to mind my own business, I went over to see how I could make the situation probably worse. Another woman got to them too and then a man came. I called 999 for an ambulance, explaining that the lady was 77 and had previously had a broken neck and had major surgery for it and that she was in and out of consciousness. The Tiffster has a knack for finding out information (don't I, katie, miro and saz?!), plus I knew first aid, as did the other lady.

I always carry a bottle of water with me when I go out due to anxiety and physical tiredness - that's a good Tiffy Tip that if you have anxiety - not only can you take a drink and get rid of that nasty dry mouth but you have something in your hand to distract you from your anxiety too. I took my water bottle and one of their kitchen rolls and wiped away the blood from her hands as it was worrying her but, of course, I didn't give her anything to drink. She was getting more alert and talking and even managing to smile, which was great. Hubby said they'd been married 60 years. Warms yer little cockles, doesn't it?

So there was hubby, the other lady, the other man and myself standing around her. There was a foul wind blowing that would freeze a bag of sprouts & she was saying her hands were cold. So I took her furry hat from the floor and wrapped it around her hands and I stood behind her head, trying to act as a windbreaker. The man wouldn't let me put my long coat over her so that he could put his jacket back on - I was at least wearing a jumper.
We were right by the carpark ticket machine and apart from the odd one or two kind souls, people were just going up buying their ticket from the machine and one man was trying to push me out of the way to do it!!! I was spitting fur, let me tell you. How ignorant can you get?! As Tiffy is the size of a sumo wrestler in training, I anchored myself and tensed all my muscles and my right elbow suddenly stuck out from my right side and I held it there. When he pushed again, his ribcage pushed against my elbow.:whistle: I honestly didn't elbow the man but if there's one thing I hate, it's ignorant people.
I could hear the ambulance siren and then we saw them trying to drive into the large carpark. The ambulance couldn't get in under the bright yellow metal gateway that seems to frame a lot of carpark entrances these days. It was stuck! Believe me, a Tiffy letter is on it's way to the local paper and the council! This could cost someone their life, for heaven's sake! And no-one from the ambulance came over to us to check on her either. So we had to wait for a paramedic car to arrive, which then took her to hospital. She was a lot brighter as she left and hubby was very grateful, bless him.
But we all only did what anyone would - and you know what guys? It was really nice just chatting to the elderly lady and her hubby.

So that's your challenge for today peeps - try and speak to or help a senior citizen (perfect description for them) today!
But PLEASE don't go dragging them back across the road they just crossed, or talk to them suddenly from behind! I won't post bail for you!!!

Silly agoraphobic Tiff decided she'd had enough after this and I got shakey when I got home and noticed that my water bottle had blood on it - it was all a bit of a shock. Thank God I was able to call 999 directly on my mobile - remember that guys - you usually don't need any credit on it to call 999 and if you didn't know this, you could waste precious time looking for a public phone. But in a strange kind of way, it was reassuring to this particular fraidy cat to know that if anything happened to me while I was out, someone would help - there are still some good guys left.
Right - DS has been dispatched to college nearly 2 hours ago - the show opens tonight - and now that I've had a nice , I'm off to apply for a role in Holby Kitty!
Safe journeys guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

dawnylou

Aw it is so nice that you went to help Tiff.
I wouldn't have dared go over!

I am feeling even more wound up now because I just realised I am now being 'named and shamed' on another thread for my apparent stupidity!!

queensway_boy

dawnylou wrote: »

Aw it is so nice that you went to help Tiff.
I wouldn't have dared go over!

I am feeling even more wound up now because I just realised I am now being 'named and shamed' on another thread for my apparent stupidity!!

Where where let mi at em

Horasio

Having a better week.

It is my son's 20th birthday today - I can't believe it:D

Going away for a break next weekend to explore the south, the quest for deciding where to live and seeing my parents.

Had a good night out last night.

feelinggood_2

dawnylou wrote: »

Hi FG, hope you are well. Do you mind me asking about this list you have and maybe an example of one or two things on the list? If you feel I am prying too much then just ignore me.

I'm a fan of lists, I've got a list for everything. The big one on my 'pre-suicide' list is to get on a boat and move to France. It'd be a big change, but if I'm going to end my life, I might aswell try a few things first, if you know what I mean. I've come very close, I've packed my bags before, but never left. Going to China to live in a Taoist temple is on the list too, depends if they let me in or not though!

dawnylou

Aw you make me laugh QWB x

Glad to hear it CCStar - hope you enjoy your break!!

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Morning! hope everyone is well,I had my breakfast and 2 coffees to wake me up,just wish I could survive on just 1 but I cant.I then rang my parents to find out that my craft teacher is unwell so no craft class this afternoon.I hope there will be an extra one in its place so will ring when I return from Scotland I am off out to my church later on to see friends and go to a womans fellowship.I then had a bath and washed my hair as It needed doing as I dont like it when its greasy as I cant do anything with it,no interesting post today.

I hope everyone has a nice day


*hugs* to those that need one


love and light,

Katie xxx

Tulip

well I am off now,

I will chat later


Have a nice day everyone


love and light,

Katie xxx

slowlyfading

have a good day katie xx