Depression Support Thread

Horasio

weegie.geek wrote: »

Leave the !!!!!!!. Or at least tell him to start treating you better or you will.

Maybe there's stuff going on in his life that you don't know about that might explain - but not excuse - his behaviour. Maybe he doesn't realise what he's doing.

Either way, you two need to talk about what he's doing, why he's doing it, and how it makes you feel.

It doesn't sound like much of a marriage to me, so why waste your time with him when you'd be happier on your own, if not with someone else?

This sad feeling came on last night. I felt it again at 5pm todsy. What am I doing staying with a man who has made me feel like cr*p since lord knows when? I am for the first time able to get away. Didn't want to split up with son etc and had no money before. I am scared tho. Scared it won't work out, scared I will run out of money, not get a job because I have been a stay at home mum and off work due to ill health and having to endure being bought down by him on top.

Whenever I have worked, he always spoils it for me when I come home, not do his share around the house and be distant when I would expect him to be close. He talks about us going into business together and the thought fills me with horror as he will treat me badly to the point of not being able to function.

I know I am capable and all I wanted from our marriage was to feel cherished, him do his share around the house and feel wanted. Most of the time I stay in my room to avoid him because he makes me so miserable. I feel too miserable to make and keep friends, so I feel I will never meet anyone who will treat me well.

shazrobo

happy birthday qwb
xxx

shazrobo

(((((big hugs))))) ccstar, you really sound down tonight, if your oh makes you feel like this and dosen't support you, i think you will be better off alone, nobody deserves to be treated like this, its emotional abuse. you should't have to hide away in your room. i know how you feel, i just wanna be loved too, but i seem to end up with the wrong ones, so i'm staying single nobody to upset and hurt me anymore
big hugs
shaz x

weegie.geek

CCStar wrote: »

This sad feeling came on last night. I felt it again at 5pm todsy. What am I doing staying with a man who has made me feel like cr*p since lord knows when? I am for the first time able to get away. Didn't want to split up with son etc and had no money before. I am scared tho. Scared it won't work out, scared I will run out of money, not get a job because I have been a stay at home mum and off work due to ill health and having to endure being bought down by him on top.

Whenever I have worked, he always spoils it for me when I come home, not do his share around the house and be distant when I would expect him to be close. He talks about us going into business together and the thought fills me with horror as he will treat me badly to the point of not being able to function.

I know I am capable and all I wanted from our marriage was to feel cherished, him do his share around the house and feel wanted. Most of the time I stay in my room to avoid him because he makes me so miserable. I feel too miserable to make and keep friends, so I feel I will never meet anyone who will treat me well.

!!!!!!!! to meeting anyone. Make a point of being and staying single. Learn to be happy with yourself first, then you won't need someone else to treat you well to feel worth something. Staying with someone who treats you this badly means one thing - low self esteem. It's a vicious circle though. You put up with it because you've got low self esteem, and the more he treats you like this, the worse it gets.

*hugs*

Be strong. Also, the situation's not doing your son any good. Get out of there, for both your sakes.

rose07

a big



to all the newbies

sit down, chill out, and join the family

huggles to all

xxx

rose07

QWB

the big 50th eh, haha you old thing :rotfl:

Hope youve had a great day

and Happy Birthday to ya





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rose07

Hi guys

hope your all ok this friday night

soz for my lack of posting, but ya wouldnt believe the week i have had, im wondering does it ever stop. :rotfl:

Sazzie, how r u? I hear they are doing gladiators again, i think you should go in as a contendar, bet it would be fun. TFI friday eh? woo hoo its the weekend. hope your ok? xxx

Katie, how r u? Im touched that ya thought of me, lotsa a huggles for you, everything ok? heard bout the keys going missing, i hate it when i do things ike that, im forever forgetiing people at work have to remind me of the most obvious things, eg: you finish now btw :rotfl:, yeah im slow :rotfl:, hope all ok wid ya xxx

shaz , how r u doing? hope you and your kids ok? I think there nothing wrong with being single, i still gets texts from an ex of mine saying how much he misses me and why didnt we work, so its trying to strike a balance, me and him just soo arent compatiable, he didnt treat me right, so that was that. Its all about finding the right one, but they never seem to come along :rotfl:

mumma, how r u doing? I think the people at work think im some kinda superwoman, they got me doing everthing, oh rosie can do it, well they can f off if they think im gonna stand for it much longer, tho today my manager said can you do this, and we came to a compromise :T, so its ok, still stressful as ever, the store in wrexham has closed down so we gettin all there clothes, but guess whose the one that has to unpack, hang, tag, and do the paperwork for all that, ....yep me. 45 boxes yesterday, good job im going to the gym :rotfl:, trying to carry boxes prob half my body weight, not ideal, massive boxes, health and safety .....alarms lol , hope your ok , xxx

WEll im off out tonight, i have managed not to eat chocolate, crisps, biscuits or well that kinda thing in 2 months, :eek:, but the only thing i cant do without is drink . So off on a all night bender :rotfl:, i have a feelin i will be the one carrying my mates home tho:rotfl:, im trying to think if i look ok, i always feel fat in what i wear, but ya know if people dont liek it stuff em :rotfl:, i need a drink and no one gonna get in my way :rotfl:


ok better go get sorted, going out in 30mins :eek::eek::eek:


take care everyone

huggles
xxxx

Horasio

I have tried to talk and all he can see his me attacking him - typical, I don't get any consideration and made to feel the bad guy - again:(. I have taken 26 years of feeling unloved by him and the more things that go wrong, the more I wonder why I am staying. I deserve more happiness than I get and got. I feel I will look back and wonder what I have got from life and see that I have stayed in my room to avoid my OH because I feel unloved and hurt by him. It sounds sick writing it. My son left home a year ago.

shazrobo

CCStar wrote: »

I have tried to talk and all he can see his me attacking him - typical, I don't get any consideration and made to feel the bad guy - again:(. I have taken 26 years of feeling unloved by him and the more things that go wrong, the more I wonder why I am staying. I deserve more happiness than I get and got. I feel I will look back and wonder what I have got from life and see that I have stayed in my room to avoid my OH because I feel unloved and hurt by him. It sounds sick writing it. My son left home a year ago.

you say you have felt unloved for 26 years, did you really feel unloved in those early days? and if so, then you have certainly tried to make the marriage work, and maybe now its time to spend some time looking after yourself, making sure you are happy

Miroslav

Evening all, I shall reply to others shortly, but be patient, Britney's in hospital again, bless her, and I have a headache, so i'm not having a good day :rolleyes: My replies may be very morbid :rolleyes:

I also have some PM's to reply too, which I hope to get around too at some point.