Depression Support Thread

ilovegreatdanes

hi,
tiff...sorry to hear about your mum.any fall is worrying at that old age.btw, i still have all my lurgy and more besides.....the abcess and toothache have kicked in again........honestly, im just glad im not a horse cos they would have shot me last week!!!!:D
juno....please dont put yourself down.you wouldnt have got the interview if they didnt think you were a good bet.good luck.xx:A
welcome to limana and shelley......sorry to limana if noone was around.its so hard trying to fit in with an established thread and you feel like you are intruding on some kind of closed society, but we are all very friendly, honest, and i would hate to think that we had pushed anyone out or ignored anyone:o .we are a good crowd and i know that you will be so glad you joined our gang, so i hope youll post again.dont worry if you cant rem any names or stuff,(thats me most of the time!!).we will do our best to help, advise,listen,smypathise,or get on your nerves.....at different times!!!!in no time at all youll be an old fixture like me:rotfl: they are all wonderful ppl on here so hope you will come back soon......you can tell us off and rant as much as you want as well.

hope you all have a wonderful 2008.....im hoping for a definite turnround healthwise, i can tell you:D .....think ive had everything going up to now.have taken so many potions and painkillers and powders and antibiotics that its starting to resemble a branch of a well known chemist at my house:rotfl: when i can get my breath, i start coughing then it sets my toothache off which makes my abcess hurt up my face and gives me a worse headache and the antibiotics give me heartburn which gives me stomach ache and that gives me the runs so i have no appetite and im in a bad mood cos i cant sleep cos my throat keeps making noises cos of the stuff on my chest.......

but apart from that im feeling wonderful:rotfl:

best wishes,ilgd xx

BigMummaF

Hi Fallen Angel, just wanted to say ditto to Tulip's post. I admire your reasoning & hope you will remember your folk with a smile in your heart tonight.

Have a good time Tulip...you are turning into our resident wild child with all your social events lol.

Here's to a safe evening & Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

ilovegreatdanes

forgot to wish tulip a wonderful time tonite............see there goes the memory again.........

gillette147

Well it's one more day til next year.

I've just done three 30min tests as part of trying to get a job with the HSE. Although I'm not sure I'd want the pay cut to work there LOL.

I'm out tonite with what now sounds like just a friend and her finace *groan* - there's nothing like walking behind a happy couple holding hands and kissing on new years eve night to really make you feel single!!!

I am not going to drink because tbh I just wanna show my face, see midnight and get away. I'm not in the mood for a disco (I agreed to go out to a pub for a quiet time, not a bloody £15 disco). I have 2 beers in the fridge to drink and then back on diet on the 2nd.

Everyone have a new year midnight kiss from me - so anyone alone at midnight is on a promise from me at least.
I will probably get a pity kiss off my friend!!

XXXXX

Tulip

Now Where are all those Smarties,I must have a scrounge around



Hope you like the picture

Katie

Tulip

For Gillette,

Mwah


Happy New Year!


love and light,

Katie xxx

shazrobo

hope everyone who is going out tonight enjoys themselves.
i've got a couple of cans in for later too, then hopefully my new years resolutions are
1, try to eat healthily
2, give up the booze
3, have no contact with ex, even if that means changing phone numbers
4, try to spend more quality time with kids
5, try and take some time for myself, when they are at school
6, gonna fight this bl**dy depression
has anybody else any resolutions that they'd like to share?
ilgd hope you feeling better real soon hun, you sound in a lot of pain, big hugs
shaz x

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Now not out tonight as I have a headache and let my friends know not to expect me,so just off to my parents for the evening.I had a good sleep this afternoon as I so needed it again.I am seeing my friends again in a fortnights time

have a nice evening everyone

*hugs* to those that need one


love and light,

Katie xxx

Sazbo

Tulip wrote: »

:hello: Everyone,

Now not out tonight as I have a headache and let my friends know not to expect me,so just off to my parents for the evening.I had a good sleep this afternoon as I so needed it again.I am seeing my friends again in a fortnights time

have a nice evening everyone

*hugs* to those that need one


love and light,

Katie xxx

Have a good evening Katie :j Hope the headache lifts hun. Cute pic by the way, the nut looks bigger than he is!:D

Happy New Year hun.

Much love,
Sazzaroooo xxx

Tiff_2

li!
How are you hun? I'm sorry you felt ignored - that never happens here, li. Wonderful clan of peeps on here sweetheart. I'm afraid that you'll have to forgive the sporadic post response times at this tme of year, angel. Everything's at 6's and 7's for many - yet, if it's anything like the old thread, we can expect a flurry of new posters here in January, 2008.
Let me stick my snout in here hun and share a thought or two...

You've been through an awful lot in recent years hunnie, with your dad's passing, your mum being ill and moving in, moving home, OH and children, work, debt and your depression. When we run it through like that li, it's no wonder you're depressed.

Hello there to you all
My lovely dad dies 6 yrs ago..........went downhill from there really, been on tabs, got better, okay for 4 yrs, working, loevely hubby, 2 great kids, then in Jan last yr, my mum got ill and we moved house so she could live with us. That was fine for a bit, I am main breadwinner, hubby looks after home and my mum.
I was off work again for a while but went back in May, and went back on tabs( Citalopram) and fely ok, but came off them last mth after doc said I seemed fine......... well I have hit rock bottom again............and back on tabs again.
Im feeling so guilty that I am unable to cope with what everyone else does, ie work, home etc. Work have been great so feel guilty that I am letting them down again but couldnt cope if I went back. I dont really like my job but Im stuck with it due to pension and its good money.
I am also in alot of debt which isnt helping as we have not been living within our means, most of it is in my name.
Hubby dosnt really understand and I feel so useless, because I should be able to 'get a grip' theres people worse off than us.( his words)
Anyway, just want to say hi and that I am trying to get sorted.
Li

The first thing I want to say to you angel is that feeling guilty about anything is not going to help and it usually comes along with depression. You have to remember that you have an illness angel that it is as every bit as credible as diabetes or asthma. Well done you for persevering and going back to the dr and accepting the help offered! It's important that you keep returning to your gp hun and keep them up to date with how you are.
Has gp referred you for any grief counselling regarding your dad, li? It's never too late hun. You can also get this through the charity CRUSE, which you can search the web for. Has your dr referred you for any other counselling or mental health support or assessment or psychiatic support?

Don't feel guilty about whatever everyone else seems to manage angel - you don't know what goes on behind closed doors. And they probably haven't got your issues to deal with either. When depression really hits us, we have to let go of what we feel we should/must/have to do. Because we can't do it - not when we're ill.

Debt can be helped by visiting the angels at CAB hunnie, who will contact the people you owe money to on your behalf, if you can't face doing it and who will also help you to work out a new budget and can do a benefit check for you.

As for work, you may want to talk to CAB too. If you are unable to work and do everyday things due to your mental ill health, you would be quite likely to qualify for Disability Living Allowance, which would be granted purely on your state of health and not on work, marriage, debt etc. You can qualify for this benefit purely on mental ill health grounds. I STRONGLY urge you to allow CAB assist you with filling out the claim form during an appt with them, because the wording has to be meticulous and they are extremely experienced in helping successful claims. Don't feel guilty about work being so understanding hun - be grateful! Life is hard enough right now and you don't need to worry about them as well if they're being so nice.

There will come a point where you'll possibly sit down and reassess everything that's happening angel. This can be a necessary part of recovery. There may be changes to make for the sake of your health and no-one can blame you for that. The worrying is the worst thing. Once you've made up your action plan as it were, you'll feel better because you'll feel more in control. If you can't work angel, then you can't work. They can't hang you for it and your health is the most important thing to consider.
You have to give depression some respect guys because, as most of you will know, you ignore it at your peril.

I'm sure you've probably got all the info you need li, but just in case here are some national charity info links which may help, even if it's so OH can get a clearer picture of depression.

http://www.depressionalliance.org/docs/help/friends_and_family.html

http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Understanding/Understanding+depression.htm

http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Understanding/Understanding+mental+illness.htm

http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/index/personalfinance.htm

http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/index/Managing+on+benefits.htm

http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/index/Staying+in+employment.htm


...and this one from the Royal College of Psychiatrists...

http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealthinformation/mentalhealthproblems/depression/depression.aspx

quote=li
because I should be able to 'get a grip' theres people worse off than us.( his words) quote=li

No offence meant, but Tiffy would like 5 minutes alone with everyone who uses such phrases as this one.
If anyone could just 'get a grip', don't they think we'd have done it by now? If it was as easy as that, there would be no NHS waiting lists for mental ill health help and an awful lot of psychiatrists would be unemployed - both of which are not happening.
It's a very glib answer to give someone who's depressed angel and only makes them feel worse, which doesn't help. We have to allow for the fact that it's hard to understand unless you've experienced it, and that it can be a scarey time for them too, but some info and good communication can go a long way to helping you both. I'm sure your dr would be pleased to speak to OH with you present, if you think it would help.
I hope something here has helped angel and please feel free to post any time - there's generally a heavy flow of guardian angels passing through regularly.
So hunnie, take everything a step at a time, take care of the basics and work up to the rest and, above all, be kind to yourself.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx