Depression Support Thread

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope you are all ok,I had a good day today,I went out to my bank to sort something out and it was closed :eek: .I then had lunch out,then I saw a friend for a bit I then went to my parents for tea and then I went to see the fireworks,I had mmed and argghed about going so mum didnt go but in the end I had gone to see them with my Dad,she said when I rang her if I had said I was definately going she would have come as well.I am watching Casualty in a bit

love and light,

Katie xxx

Miroslav

Tulip wrote: »

wow you minx Miro saying I nab and scoff the smarties while seeing Casualty and Jericho everyone I am gentle anyway and as for the smarties I can put your mind at ease by saying I dont nab and eat the smarties


Katie

Minx? :rotfl:

Did you watch Casualty tonight? (With or without smarties )

If you did, was Maggie in it and did you blow her a kiss from me? :rotfl:

I've had to put up with the woeful X-Factor and Dancing Ballroom or whatever it's called

X-Factor is the worst - so American, so pantomime, so woop woop :rolleyes:

At least in the dancing, there is Penny Lancaster. Don't get me wrong, as a person I have no idea what she's like, but she looks good and 1 woman has to even up the fact all the blokes get all the votes based on looks - not that I vote - i'd never vote for something like that (unless Britney was involved)

Anyway Rod Stewart is a short a$s :rotfl: A short !!! with alot of money. No idea why Penny would go for him.......none at all :rotfl:

Miroslav

So where is Tiff? It's Caturday and no Tiff

Reckon she must have an upset stomach after a bowl of dodgy milk

Tulip

:hello: Miro,


I didnt watch Casualty tonight because I am so tired and I had just found out I won a competition on Virgin Radio of Holiday Vouchers woohoo ,Just think I could fly to visit Britney I will take the stash of smarties as well to stop anyone taking any I went to a fireworks display this evening


love and light,

Katie xxx

dawnylou

Oh so you stole my prize??
*sob*

Only joking! Well done - I am glad you won, you deserve it!!!

geminilady

Quote Miro Anyway Rod Stewart is a short a$s :rotfl: A short !!! with alot of money. No idea why Penny would go for him.......none at all :rotfl:


Well your a guy so no wonder you have no idea.Rod has a certain appeal some women go for his sort of rugged looks and height has nothing to do with it.:rotfl:

Miroslav

Tiff wrote: »

Hi miro!:hello:
How are you today? Any plans hun?
You asked for it - a titanic Tiff tract!:D

Your post was 11 days ago, so I probably had lots of plans - eating, sleeping, drinking (soft drinks!) and erm.....snorkeling Well, 3 out of 4 aint bad

quote=Miroslav

I know you feel low miro hun.:o
I want to help you - help everyone! - so that you're not in such pain. Sometimes words on a page can work magic and at other times, they leave you feeling helpless.
But if there's something you can take from all this hun, it's that people here think enough of you to reply.:T

I'm up and down, the last few days down down down but I always try to humour my way out of it and not come on here if too bad

You can stop this miro. You don't have to dread this cycle anymore.
You're not sure whether stepfather is doing this out of spite or because he's so thick-skinned he doesn't realise how it affects you. And there are people like that angel - you literally have to spell it out for them! It doesn't matter what his intentions are - this is YOUR personal life and you can reclaim it! Maybe this is something you can plan for with your counsellor angel.;)
I want you to find the courage I know you have hun, & next time he says this to you, look him straight in the eye and tell him that although you appreciate his concern for you, but that you would appreciate it if this other person was never mentioned to you ever again. Instead of reacting angel, you're then preventing it - some damage limitation, if you will.
Once he sees that you are serious, I would hope that he'll think twice. A side benefit of this imho, is that it will hopefully show you that you can be in control and not have to live by other people's actions hun. You have the right to lay down some boundaries miro.;)

Step Father is just a git to be honest. I rarely see him. I don't think I have since May at the latest. If I bring it up, he'll just see it as a victory in his battle with me. I won't give him what he wants.


Getting over it, is not what it's about sweetie.
It's about grieving for what happened and finding a special place in your heart for those you loved and lost. It doesn't have to take up all of your heart angel. There'd still be plenty of room for more love. It's not being unfaithful or forgetting about them hunnie. They'd want you to live your life as best as you can miro.

I'm sure my dearly departed want me to be happy - I just can't be, whether because I don't feel able to or I don't feel anyone could get in to me. I don't feel able to love and I don't feel lovable

Imho, & smack my muzzle if it's in the way, but maybe the question shouldn't be why would someone want you when you can't get close to them. Maybe it's how can you overcome your fear and learn to let people in? I do get a sense of fear from you sometimes angel - and that's quite natural.;) By saying people won't want you hun, you're giving yourself reasons for not trying. But that's your ill health that's talking sweetie, trying to protect you but actually being over-protective.
By saying people won't want you hun, you're giving yourself reasons for not trying. But that's your ill health that's talking sweetie, trying to protect you but actually being over-protective.
The proof that you are still very much alive angel, is the fact that you're still hurting!
I am so sorry for your loss miro - please don't think that I am dismissing this awful event. I know all too well about pain and loss in similar ways hun & can respect how you feel. I'm no professional angel & these are just Tiffy thoughts.

Well indeed it's easier not to let anyone in. The 2 times I have, i've been cheated on and told sorry but i'm too good for them and not let me decide if I consider myself too good or not (which I don't) It's easier to be alone and easier not to trust. I'd love to be able to, but it's not easy

Well hun, that has surprised me. It would be interesting to see where the nearest one is.

GP's etc are hopeless - trust has never been my strong point, but with these people, it's non existent


You don't have to make do hun. Explain to the next dr you speak to, that this has deeply affected you and it's a seriously sensitive issue for you. For any surgery, you are now given a choice of hospitals to be treated at! I know it's hard angel but surely it'll be better to get your problem sorted than to worry about the drs gender - after all, you'll be asleep then anyway. You're lucky to see a surgeon just a few times, it would mostly be his juniors checking on your progress. Is there another gp there that you could talk to hun - one you like better?

They don't let you know, you have choices, they just tell. Is local anaesethic not awake? That's what i've been told I still don't want to see the GP, I just wish I had support rather than do everything on my own as always. Oh how I dream of one day....


You think?

I know you're very low angel but you are so wrong! How do you think we'd feel on here? Do you think it wouldn't affect us? What about your flatmate? Your family? People you know? The person who would find you?
If people are making you feel this way, then change it hun! Again easier said than done I know, but it's something you can work towards.
Find the strength to deal with the physical issues angel and that will be a huge weight of your mind.

Well......on here......people come and go, flatmate, she'll be fine.....family.....don't have much to do with them, people I know.....not close to anyone, no-one will find me. I'm lost and drifting and no idea how to change it.


There are always answers sweetheart - they're just waiting to be found. It can happen for you hun, when you're ready. I'm sure you do smile and laugh - you give plenty of evidence of havng a great sense of humour just on here alone!

Laugh in the face of adversity - always done it

Ok angel. Why not give NHSDirect a call? They can tell you where your nearest NHS dentist is. I think your gp would know this too possibly. If the pain gets too much as I said hun, go to A&E; your local hospital can treat you and/or refer you.

I phoned them once, was rude too and told a pack of lies and then sorted it out myself. Same with A&E - told no dentist within the hospital


If they even try that hun - make an appeal, then straight to CAB. Do you have a Mental Health Advocate miro?

Is a Mental Health Advocate like a CPN? I did have one of them but I told him where to go as he was hopeless Kept saying he would do things and never did


I alone, won't be able to change your mind miro. You can't see it any other way due to your experiences & I understand that angel.
So instead, I'm going to agree with you from the 2nd sentence on!

You're right miro - I hate it when a man is polite to me! I don't want to meet someone who is interested in my personality and I don't want to bored by conversation.:rolleyes: Where he works, what he drives & how much he earns are much more important. Then I can use my womanly wiles to lull him into a false sense of security in the bedroom. An added bonus if I'm lucky enough to find a man experienced in that area. I know I've slept with half of England - & Wales, Northern Ireland and Scotland too! - but a girl's got bills to pay and a lifestyle to maintain.

Horrible paragraph hun and so not me!
But my point is miro, swap the sexes around angel and you will find that just as many women feel that men think like this! If we accept that there are bad people out there like this, then it seems logical to assume that there are good people out there too. And we have no solid evidence that there's more bad than good hun.

That was quite funny :rotfl: Sadly, it seems to be the women I meet If you knew how many shallow, materialistic women I had met compared to ones that are not, you'd be surprised. My experience is of most women being exactly what your sentence says. Maybe it's my fault for looking like I do, I dunoo Maybe I should lose all muscle and try and shrink :rotfl:


Don't you mean 'Britney reject-ed'?! lol:D

Never trust a man with a higher voice than your own - which means only Barry White should not trust me :rotfl: JT is too girly for my liking :rotfl:


When things have been so very hard for us, it's understandable to feel like this. You've not ''had your chance'' miro - they're an ongoing thing. Every day is full of the unknown. We probably can't change the world hun, but we can work on ourselves. And that doesn't mean turning out badly.

I feel like a little boy in a grown up world when it comes to relationships




I would feel sorry for anyone who's not had the chance to love or be happy. Maybe if we applied the moral of 'A Christmas Carol' by Charles Dickens to modern love, we may find joy at the thought that there's another chance, another someone, to come.
If the counselling is lacking hun, you need to go back to your dr and tell them this! You're not going to feel better if you're on the wrong treatment. Please try and love yourself enough to change this angel.

There are many free courses at colleges everywhere miro, that teach short self-confidence and self-assertiveness courses. You'd be learning with people who also find this hard. It really improves your communications with others and gives you a value of selfworth. And they're free usually. Also, you can work on this with a psychologist. Mention it to your dr, miro. This may be half your battle won hun.;)

Waiting lists and 6 sessions only - that's all you get at my surgery - six 50 minute sessions and then bye bye

Well, maybe in the new year i'll try and do a course, we'll see


If you feel that this is how it is for you miro hun, then ol' Tiffy doesn't stand a chance!
..... ..... ..... ..... ..... TAXI!:o

Different for men and women - women are always minxes right up to the age of 100 :rotfl:


Yes hun, there are.;) But we also all have different body chemistry and some people may be ready for an intimate relationship before others are. It doesn't mean that they're wrong - there's a bit of biology involved too.
It is good to have standards sweetie - just don't set them so high that no-one can ever reach them.;) We must try and avoid comparing relationships hunnie, as hard as that may be, because each one is a unique combination.

Maybe my standards are too high, I don't know. I just know it's going to take someone special to get to me

turn back to yesterday and have your fresh start again.

I feel too old now - so old I keep deleting and typing in the wrong place :rotfl:
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Come back - it's Caturday!!!!!!!!!

Miroslav

Tulip wrote: »

:hello: Miro,


I didnt watch Casualty tonight because I am so tired and I had just found out I won a competition on Virgin Radio of Holiday Vouchers woohoo ,Just think I could fly to visit Britney I will take the stash of smarties as well to stop anyone taking any I went to a fireworks display this evening


love and light,

Katie xxx

Well done on the win :T Go visit Britney and tell her to register here and PM me

Take the smarties :eek:

I hope you enjoyed the fireworks display - none for me this year

Miroslav

geminilady wrote: »

Well your a guy so no wonder you have no idea.Rod has a certain appeal some women go for his sort of rugged looks and height has nothing to do with it.:rotfl:

I do have an idea, it's called ££££'s and $$$$'s, women's favourite subject:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

The only reason women notice me is my height - oh and that I look like i'm gonna beat everyone up Apparently I look really tough and mean - yeah i'm strong and tall but i'm gentle (unless someone annoys me :rotfl: )

:wave:

Miroslav

Talking of mean, i've been really mean of late to everyone

I'm taking my bad mood out on everyone and people have been taking extra special cover :rotfl:

Flatmate had a go at me saying the reason people are withdrawing from me more at the moment is that they are pooping themselves because i'm like a bear with a sore head at the moment even without me realising it.

I guess i'm in a bad place and it's projecting into everything I do.

I do know I have been mean of late as i've been a bit sharper tongued with people and i've upset alot of people

Oops :eek:

Hopefully i'll get through this phase before Christmas