Depression Support Thread

feelinggood_2

dawnylou wrote: »

FG, I have yes. My doctor doesn't know about this.
I am on a waiting list for counselling as we speak.

If you are comfortable, I'd suggest mentioning it to your GP. I think its important that they know all the facts so they can recommend the right action.

I mentioned about my 'experience' at my Mental Health Team assessment, and they think there might be a possibility of have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Shall be seeing the pyschiartist in a few weeks, and shall hopefully get a definate diagnosis.

How are you feeling today?

dawnylou

I can't mention it to my GP.
I am currently very confused as everything is so hazy now. Sometimes I wonder if it did really happen? Maybe it is just my own sick imagination?
Maybe it was a just a nightmare that I had had at a very young age and none of it was real?

I am very up and down at the moment.
Very confused.
Need to sort myself out though as due back at work on Sunday.

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,


Hope you are all ok *hugs*to you all that need one I am out today to the pub for lunch and then its Karioke,Not sure what I will be singing today but they will be nice songs

I hope you all have a lovely day

chat later


love and light,

Katie xxx

feelinggood_2

dawnylou wrote: »

I am very up and down at the moment.
Very confused.
Need to sort myself out though as due back at work on Sunday.

Please don't worry about work - don't put unrealistic deadlines on yourself. It takes time to recover from these things, and if you aren't ready to go back to work, you don't have to.

I actually found it really helpful to talk about what happened, even though it wasn't in any great detail. I'd always assumed that it was my fault, that I asked for it, and that I was to blame. I just told her what happened and how I felt about it, and she assured me that it wasn't my fault. It did help to hear someone say that to me. I'm aware of 'grooming' and everything, but I never thought that that was what happened to me.

I know what its like to be up and down, and it can feel really scary. I think a lot of us have experienced it though, so you aren't alone, even if it feels like it.

Could you set yourself a goal for today? Something managable but that does require a bit of effort? Just one thing you could do?

I should be going out for a walk with a friend I've made in AA, which is a huge step and I'm excited. Never had a friend before :rotfl:

geminilady

rose07 wrote: »

geminilady wrote: »

:hello: Hi Rose

HI GL

Its good you were in contact again, I hate it when I get ignored, esp if it someoen that means something to you, it can hurt, but i tell ya something rosie here is a bit of an old thing really, i hate texts, all they do is get you worried, if you text someone you worry if they dont reply, you wonder all things in ya head, and before long youve wound yaself up all because of no reply, when it could be something like there busy, nothing like a good old phone call if ya ask me, texts show nothing, just words, to hear someone means more.

Awww its hard isnt it, people do care about you hun, i know that, but i understand what ya mean, sometimes we all need that special someone that can hug us, hold us and tell us everything will be ok, you will find them hun, I know im a young thing kinda, but i dont ave that special someone, that someone that you look forward to seeing every night, someone to talk to and hold you when it gets tough. Makes me wonder whats wrong with me lol :rotfl:

keep fighting hun, and you will find someone soon

xxx

Hi Rosie,Well as i said i did hear from him but heard very little since.As you said he could be busy but it takes very little time to send a text,so i think he has got bored with me and found someone more interesting to chat to.It hurts as when someone texts 20 plus times a day then hardly at all it gives mixed signels and i am the kind of person who wants,reasons,explanations for things.A few days ago i said i would rather have no friends than farewether ones and just got a lol ok, i don't know what it is about me but everyone seems to find me funny when i don't mean to be.I said glad you are amused and just got a what the hells ur problem so i did not answer and have heard nothing since .As to talking on the phone i have a bit of a phobia about it maybe because its something i seldom do.
As to you not having that special someone,as you said you are a yong thing and have all your life in front of you so he will come along some day.I know you are finding it hard at the moment but from all your posts i can still see your fighting spirit so you hold on to that and you will get through.I know you have been though a lot in your short life and some of it can leave damage but the positive thing is it makes you stronger if that makes sense.Even though you are suffering yourself you still find the time to help others and in my book that makes you a very speial person.

Tiff_2

dawnylou wrote: »

I can't mention it to my GP.
I am currently very confused as everything is so hazy now. Sometimes I wonder if it did really happen? Maybe it is just my own sick imagination?
Maybe it was a just a nightmare that I had had at a very young age and none of it was real?

I am very up and down at the moment.
Very confused.
Need to sort myself out though as due back at work on Sunday.

Hi dawny!:hello:
Just popped in while taking a break from my 5 hour reply to miro's post!:eek:

As has been said angel, it really would be a good idea to tell your dr about your experience.
Don't worry about what you can or can't remember hunnie - that's often a sign when someone's been through a bit of an ordeal. Our minds are very powerful angel, and it may just be keeping things hazy to protect you - which is fine dawny.;) I doubt very much that you're just experiencing a sick imagination hunnie.

Neither your dr or counsellor will push you into talking about anything that they can't help you with. I won't lie to you dawny hun - it's bloody hard work and it's painful to revisit old traumas. But the experts are trained to bring you through it as gently as they can. Don't forget that you always have the option of saying ''I don't feel ready to talk about this today.'', if you can't face it then.

From my own experience hun, it's something I wish I'd done many years ago. The fear of it all was stopping me from living. Once I'd dragged it out into daylight with their help, it wasn't so black anymore and a lot of the pain, fear and guilt I'd carried for so many years, turned out not to be mine at all.

But that's me.

You have to make your own choices sweetheart and no-one should force you into one direction or another.;) Just take your time angel and take it all a day at a time.

And of course dawny, how can you get all the help and support you so deserve, if they don't know everything there is to know?:o Maybe this extra piece of knowledge would help them to know how best to help you.

If you don't feel ready to go back to work angel, please see your dr. If you're not well enough, then you're not well enough! Don't push yourself too hard ok hun?

I know you're tying yourself in knots & inside out trying to figure out what to do for the best, and how to feel better. It's easier if you've got a professional to share it with sweetie. They'll have heard it all before, I promise.;)
If you take practical action like dealing with work by seeing your dr angel, that's one less big thing to fret about off your list.

Regardless hun, you know we're all here for you always. Keeping you in my thoughts dawny.;)
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
I've got a problem guys!

It was really careless of me I know, but I put sazzy down for a minute & now I can't find her anywhere!

See, we were playing this game and it was sazzy's turn to hide and well, before I knew it........

...it was Monday!
I suspect it was all planned - she knows I'm prone to the odd catnap,:whistle:, but she insisted on playing this game.
I can't find the hat fund either! She may even have gotten into the smartie cupboard.:eek:

So if any of you are going out to a bar tonight, or to the sweetshop, would you please have a look around for her and bring her over to see ol' Tiffy?

Watch out though guys - she's a fast mover!

Don't work too hard sazzery. Hope you're ok sazzy hun - thinking of you!;)
Much Love,
Tiff xxx
Tiff xxx

rose07

dawnylou wrote: »

I can't mention it to my GP.
I am currently very confused as everything is so hazy now. Sometimes I wonder if it did really happen? Maybe it is just my own sick imagination?
Maybe it was a just a nightmare that I had had at a very young age and none of it was real?

I am very up and down at the moment.
Very confused.
Need to sort myself out though as due back at work on Sunday.

Hi hun

You need to take things in ya stride hun, dont rush, take one day at a time, and remember to breathe

As others have said it might help to talk to your GP. Have to be honest my GP doesnt know about things that have happened to me, he just knows that i had a very bad experience, (or many a bad experiences :rotfl:)

But if you dont feel able maybe write it down, least then its out in some way, sometimes things will just build up and up till pop, ive done that a few times, not pleasant and not something you should go through if can be avoided, have you spoke to anyone about your bad experience? a friend, hubby?

Those questions you keep asking yourself, are questions i ask meself sometimes, sometimes you gotta face things to believe them and accept them, and as hard as it seems to do, it can be done, you can do it hun, you will get through this, but you need to for yourself be able to deal with your bad experience. Can i ask how long ago your bad experience happened?

If you ever need to talk or just a shoulder drop me a PM hun ,ok, thats rosie orders

take care xxx

dawnylou

The thing is I don't want to cause any more damage to our family and this could possibly destroy them.

rose07

BigMummaF wrote: »

Ok..:o ..I'm really pushing my luck, but here goes....


Rose Wow...you've been busy! But you talk a lot of sense & folk could do well by heeding your words:o It sounds as if you've turned a corner & are heading back out of the maze..could you leave a trail of breadcrumbs for the rest of us:rotfl: :rotfl:

Some wise people have said it before, & only now do I realise the wisdom in their words.
"You are only a victim if you let yourself become a victim. Only you have the authority to take control of your life and how you lead it. It is your own perception that forms your life...no one or no thing can take that control from you unless you actively give it away."

HTH, & wishing you all Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

Is ya compooter behaving itself?

Busy like a bee thats me , jeez its cold outside tho, have to go out in a bit and get me meds as have ran out :eek::eek:, but its nicer inside , best put me jacket on


I think sometimes you gotta go wayyyyyyy down, and then wayyyy up. It hit me yesterday that im one lucky bunny, least im still walking and all, if not a little creaky :rotfl:

In time people will find there own way, all it takes is time, and some hard work. But I can be here to motivate yas

Do you know i agree halfway of what you say there, we can let it get to us or take control, but sometimes, it not as simple as that, i was a victim, and sometimes it hard to turn it round, as people treat you as a victim, and then you feel more vulnerable, confused, and just dont know where ya at, dont know how to feel and dont know where to turn, and getting outta that is like being in quicksand :eek::rotfl:


take care
huggles

xxx