What would you do?

jetplane

I'm not sure how HA estate officers manage their patch but I do know that our local LA housing officers wouldn't want to be authorising a swap if it was likely to lead to trouble on their estate. Does your wife's sister have any influence over her that makes her want to be two doors away? Or does she just want out and her sister has alerted her to a property?

I would certainly be contacting the housing officer to discuss the potential for trouble and although it may be too late to prevent the exchange at least the HA will be forewarned and could help facilitate a move within the HA quicker than the usual waiting time. Alternatively they will be in a position to monitor the situation and take action, although I know this can take time.

Ultimately if your wife wants to go then she may well make the move without you, clearly this has been an issue for a year and if she's lived through similar twice before then maybe this is the final straw. If there was a real possibility of any of my family being attacked I wouldn't be expecting them to ride it out and see what happens I would be looking for solutions to protect them.

However I would explore every option with the HA before I even thought of giving up a secure tenancy.

Prothet_of_Doom

Always do what the wife says....In relationships there has to be compromise...If wife wants to live near her family, just go with the flow.

LandyAndy

Person_one wrote: »

Yes we do, he told us. He seems quite capable of speaking for himself without his mum rushing in to take his side!

Although even when he did it didn't stop several posters ignoring what he said and making comments that demonstrated a total ignorance of Asperger's syndrome or, worse, a wilful disregard for the effect of their posts.

meritaten

Atrix has given me more 'background' on these people and I quite understand why his wife wants to move ASAP.
He can stay registered with his current doctor for a while - which means no risk to his mental health status.
OK, I will miss seeing them all so often - but am convinced myself that its not safe for them to stay.
I will leave Atrix to tell you what the response of the HA was.

atrixblue.-MFR-.

we had a viewing of a house and im afraid its not going to suit us, the living diner is open plan then moves through into the kitchen via a door that leads into the kitchen extension, they concentrated so much on cupboard storage they have left no space to place a fridge of any sort, so would have to put a fridge in the dining area of the open plan living space. they have blocked up what was the under stairs storage access door that was in living/diner area and made it part of the bathroom that sits to the bottom floor rear of the house where the kitchen is, the space under the stairs is only wide enough to place a washing machine side on and youd be bending your head down to get under there every time you wanted to do the washing, if someone was in the bath then you couldn't do the washing, moving on upstairs, the one smallest room has the boiler in so it enclosed in a floor to ceiling cupboard and protrudes from the wall by about 2 feet so you get a bed in there and a chest of drawers and that's it, the second room is not much bigger and I would have to buy bunk beds, the master room is larger but narrow, and you would only get a chest of drawers bedside drawer and a double bed in it.


stairs are steep and not much footing room which is an issue for me.


HA really don't care and happy for me to sit on the transfer list for a few years, in the meantime contact them with issues when and as they arise.

meritaten

I am sorry that it wasn't suitable atrix. but, there are plenty of properties to rent between here and your SIL. Shame the one next door to mum has gone.

I know the trouble you and your neighbours have had getting rid of 'problem' tenants - the HA are carp aren't they? they don't care as long as they are getting the rent. and just as you all in YOUR street are getting the place 'nice to live in' - another problem family move in!

Its a case of searching for a nice place now between us and your SIL. should be plenty of choice.
See you tomorrow luv.