Ordered an engagement ring...

Georgiegirl256

daisiegg wrote: »

The proposal being a gobsmacking surprise is really not that important.

Of course it is. For some people at least. Not me personally (I hate surprises), but the OP obviously really wanted to surprise his GF without her having any inkling about being proposed to....but now unfortunately she does, and for him, t's obviously taken the shine of it somewhat.

ETA: I do actually agree with the OP that is it kinda a big deal that the company have potentionally ruined his proposal. I know it's not a matter of life and death, and there are bigger things to worry about, but it's a shame all the same.

fivetide

Sounds like a terrible bit of coincidence, nothing more really. You could provide feedback to the company but i wouldn't expect anythign else.

As for getting the BIL in on it, can you get a inexpensive but nice looking necklace for his mrs? That would be good cover. Unless your girlfrined is a diamond expert that should do it.

The alternative view is all this has been so unlucky the relationship is doomed and you are best parting ways as it is clearly a sign from a world beyond our own. (not really)

cheeswright

newcook wrote: »

Why not get a pair of earrings and give them to her to throw her off the scent – do you have an anniversary coming up or her birthday?! You could then even joke that you thought you’d been rumbled the other week when it arrived at your parents…!

this is a great idea - there are some great white gold "created" diamond earrings on ebay - I just mention this not to promote them - but the gold plating is enough to stop your ears knowing the difference between these and the "real deal" so youd get away with the "jewel" label that way

I know what you mean about companies taking the shine off surprises with thoughtless packaging though..if our postman wasnt more than a little bit wonderful / thoughtful about parcels our super nosy kids would know most of what they had for gifts well before they got them.

Gavin83

Don't propose. That'll be a surprise.

peachyprice

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Of course it is. For some people at least. Not me personally (I hate surprises), but the OP obviously really wanted to surprise his GF without her having any inkling about being proposed to....but now unfortunately she does, and for him, t's obviously taken the shine of it somewhat.

ETA: I do actually agree with the OP that is it kinda a big deal that the company have potentionally ruined his proposal. I know it's not a matter of life and death, and there are bigger things to worry about, but it's a shame all the same.

If it were really that important to OP he'd have had the foresight to buy the ring from somewhere he could collect it personally so that there was absolutely no way something like this would happen.

The way he's gone about it, there was always going to be a risk, which was increased when he took his GF to his parents even though he knew the ring was due to arrive. He should have gone alone.

Georgiegirl256

peachyprice wrote: »

If it were really that important to OP he'd have had the foresight to buy the ring from somewhere he could collect it personally

Not really. While I don't think I would personally buy a ring offline, he obviously wanted to, and saw a ring he really liked. I'd agree with you and think you had a point if he hadn't actually confirmed with the company that it would arrive in non identifiable packaging....but he did, and it didn't, which is bad.

fairydiamond

It's not really a horrible experience is it? How about you buy a necklace and surprise her with that. Say, ''Oh, you know that package? It was for you and its this, bla bla bla''

She might be disappointed for a bit, but at least you can then go and surprise her with the ring.

PlymouthMaid

I would have been annoyed too in your position although maybe 'horrible experience' is a tad strong I love the idea of buying her some earrings or a necklace for the holiday to put her off the scent.

SavingPennies_2

I was going to suggest you call her bluff too. Buy something else from the same website though (she may be shrewd enough to look it up online to see how much it was - yes many will do this) and give it to her for a gift. Tell her that was what the package was and hops she is disappointed so you can give her the real surprise on holiday.

totallybored

Why not just propose now? If you want to marry her and she wants to marry you then everyone is happy?