Ordered an engagement ring...

daisiegg

I don't understand why it is such a big deal and certainly not why you would describe it as a 'horrible experience'. Of course your proposal is not ruined! Besides, if you have been together 8 years she probably has an inkling anyway; she will know you well enough to guess you are planning something. And so what if she does? The anticipation will only make it all more exciting for her anyway! My husband took me away on holiday to propose and I had a suspicion (hope!) that it was what he was planning to do....it certainly didn't 'ruin' the proposal. If anything, the excitement and the tingly feeling of 'will he? Won't he?' made it all more exciting

Good luck with your proposal, and try not to worry about this. Nothing is ruined - you still love the ring, and so will she. Even if she suspects you have bought a ring (and she can only suspect, not know) she won't know when or where or exactly how you will propose.

Besides....the most important thing is that you ask, she says yes,and you go on to commit your lives to each other and have a wonderful marriage. The proposal being a gobsmacking surprise is really not that important.

tea_lover

'Horrible experience'?? Oh for heaven's sake, get some perspective.

Amanda65

Hi ff7fan

Gosh there's some touchy people on here today aren't there In my naivety I always assumed spam was to promote companies, not give them a bad reputation so I've learned something new today.

Back to the original question, I would email the company and advise what has happened and ask if perhaps they have some other way of 'disguising' their company name in future, although this is difficult as when sending a tracked item I believe the post office insist on a return address on the packaging in case it goes astray so they may be obligated to include it.

However what has happened cannot be undone and it is unfortunate that you were both at your parents house when it arrived. As for spoiling the proposal, as your GF hasn't got a clue presumably what the ring will be like, or where it will happen, I am sure she will still be delighted.

stir_crazy

I don't really see what they can do - surely the company name would have to be on the packaging in case of non delivery?

newcook

Why not get a pair of earrings and give them to her to throw her off the scent – do you have an anniversary coming up or her birthday?! You could then even joke that you thought you’d been rumbled the other week when it arrived at your parents…!

MrsE_2

I think its a lovely romantic idea.

pinkduvetdiva

newcook wrote: »

Why not get a pair of earrings and give them to her to throw her off the scent – do you have an anniversary coming up or her birthday?! You could then even joke that you thought you’d been rumbled the other week when it arrived at your parents…!

Good idea new cook.
OP, you could even say you saw them and thought she could wear them to dinner one night when you're on holiday.
I do agree that maybe you should email the company to suggest that maybe they make their packaging a little more discreet - I would have thought that would be standard for a jewellery seller! Anyway, good luck with the proposal.

Buzzybee90

Definitely think its a good idea to give her some jewellery to put her off the scent!

Fuzzy_Duck

I do sympathise with how annoying this must be, especially as you specifically asked about the packaging, but personally I wouldn't think jewels = engagement ring, so I can see it from their point of view as well. As hazyjo says, better she thinks it's something for her than something for another woman- and she may just think it's nice jewellery rather than an engagement ring.

I was going to propose to my partner but he beat me to it with the very romantic statement "you don't want to get married, do you?" It was pretty annoying at the time but I had to just get over it and keep in mind that the marriage is what's important, not the proposal.

Oh, and I really wouldn't change the plan just in case she's found out. The way I see it, if she knows she will be excited about it, and if you then don't propose it will be a huge disappointment for her.

Georgiegirl256

Jeez, give the guy a break people! There are a lot of spammers, trolls etc on these forums, but for what it's worth, I do think the OP is genuine, and I can also see why he is upset about it.

For a company like that to put derails on the package is IMO pretty stupid. It's given the game away to the OP's girlfriend, and ruined what is (usually) a once in a lifetime event, one that for some people is usually a big deal, and now the girlfriend is going to be on permanent proposal watch now!

OP, you're gonna have to get creative, and spring it on her when she least expects it!

In the mean time, I would email the company and let them know of your concerns.