miserable me

Counting_Pennies_2

Some times putting a brave face on things makes it all so much worse as no one knows how you are feeling.

If you were able to voice your woes maybe things might improve.

moanin'minnie

jackieb wrote: »

Of course you're entitled to a life. Just a thought, but your dh wouldn't be depressed by any chance?

well he is not depressed as about a year ago I couldnt stick the moodiness etc any more so got the doctor to call and speak to him as i thought maybe it was depression but she says he is not depressed its a personality problem he also spoke to a psychiatrist who said the same.

lynzpower

Why should you always carry everyone else! Whens it your turn! Living with someone who doesnt speak to you sounds like a terrible way to live, and wheres the fun in that? 50 isnt old, most people live into their 80-90s- you have almost your whole life to go!

Course you deserve happiness, course you deserve to have fun and do stuff, your life is still in its early stages!

If I were you Id call your sister and say, "oh cheers for the birthday card really appreciated that one" in a sarky way see what she says. there could be a genuine reason why she hasnt bothered, or if not, at least youve made youreself heard

Stop hiding your wants under a bush- youdeserve better, but as they say oooop north "shy bairns get nowt" Sing up, and if your family doesnt give you what you need - fire them off and sort yourself out

Little_Miss_Saver

((((HUGS))))

And belated birthday wishes, if I was you I would go and treat myself to a day out (maybe a spa day or something and be pampered someting rotten )

LMS xx

moanin'minnie

thanks to everyone for their kind words of support, I have taken a bit of advice from here and booked a hairdressers appointment and beauty salon appointment for next week, I will pamper myself even if no one else will, so there!!!

TheWaltons_3

You say the Psychiatrist said it was a personality problem - does this mean that nothing can be done?

Has he always been like this.. or just lately?

32 years is a hell of a long time to throw away - I wouldn't give up without a fight.

If I were you, I'd find something to do and let it occupy your time so much that you don't notice so much his behaviour.

Good Luck.. you will feel great after your hair/salon appointment. x

mae

Do you mind me asking does he want help or does he not realise the extent of the problem or the extent to which it makes your life hard?

moanin'minnie

TheWaltons wrote: »

You say the Psychiatrist said it was a personality problem - does this mean that nothing can be done?

Has he always been like this.. or just lately?

32 years is a hell of a long time to throw away - I wouldn't give up without a fight.

If I were you, I'd find something to do and let it occupy your time so much that you don't notice so much his behaviour.

Good Luck.. you will feel great after your hair/salon appointment. x

Hi, thanks for the reply, he has always been like this but lately it just seems to be worse or is it me, am I going through a mid life crisis as I cant seem to be able to accept it the way I used to, thinks!! maybe at last I am growing up, lol. I know 32 yrs is a long time but what I see is maybe another 32 yrs of the same and I just could'nt stand it!!

jackieb

Maybe it's him who is having the mid-life crisis.

Glad to hear you're off for a bit of pampering. If I were you i'd mention how you feel to your kids. Try and work it into a conversation. I wouldn't advise you to up and leave because I don't know if I could do that myself, and I wouldn't tell you to do something that i'd be too cowardly to do myself, even though it might be the right thing to do.

Bananabelly

Your situation sounds awful, especially that he 'deliberately' didn't get you a present - I assume that means he was deliberately trying to hurt you for some reason.
I don't think you should worry about friends having problems of their own - I am sure they would really like to know how you're going because they are your friends and they care about you.
perhaps you could take a smaller step if you're not sure about ending things, and have a trial separation or a 'break' for a little bit. On the other hand, that may make things worse if he is depressed. But it may help you decide whether you prefer life on your own.