miserable me

ailuro2

Then the evening class you should attend is the one that give you the courage to stand up for yourself- maybe a martial arts class or assertiveness training?:D

I agree with the otherp osters- go and do something for yourself if you're tired of waiting for it to be done for you.

jackieb

That's horrible. Does anyone in your family know you're having a hard time of it, or are you bottling it all up?

moanin'minnie

jackieb wrote: »

That's horrible. Does anyone in your family know you're having a hard time of it, or are you bottling it all up?

I dont think that anyone realises how i feel they are used seeing a happy smiley mum I try to put a brave face on it, I dont like to bother other people with my problems when they probably have enough of their own.

jackieb

You might be surprised. They would probably be supportive and maybe even a bit upset you hadn't mentioned it before.

Karrie

MM - are you still in love with him?

I only ask because you mention that you wish you had the [EMAIL="b@lls"]b@lls[/EMAIL] to leave him.

moanin'minnie

Karrie wrote: »

MM - are you still in love with him?

I only ask because you mention that you wish you had the b@lls to leave him.

tbh i really dont know, he has put me through so much that I'm not sure if its love that I feel for him anymore or just feel sorry for him as he is so moody and negative about everything, he never wants to go anywhere or do anything he has no friends and cant understand why!! well I can, as he can be quite opionionated and moody and friendships are two sided and he expects the other person to do all the running, though he is a very quiet person in general he finds friendships very hard he also finds it hard to maintain a friendship even with his children , one who really just cant be bothered with him cos of his moodiness. So as I said I'm not sure if I stay with him out of love or habit as we've been together 32yrs, but the negativity and moodiness are dragging me down and I think at 50 I'm entitled to a life

flossy_splodge

Hmm. Life can be unbelievably tough sometimes can't it. Can I ask you: what would be your ideal solution? What do you wish for most? Is it to have the courage to build a new life for yourself away from your OH? Or maybe your ideal would be to find a sudden transformation in your relationship? Or maybe to have some extra money to do some things you can't otherwise do? I believe we all need to sit in the moment sometimes but if this is a bit of a long term situation that your birthday has brought to a head perhaps it would be helpful to see if you can peel back the layers of the onion of life and see what sits at the centre for YOU. Remember, YOU are entitled to want what YOU want. Doesn't have to make sense to anyone else or seem logical or sensible or anything else. It just needs to make sense to YOU. Wanna have a think and post back if you feel like sharing and there's lots of us on here will stay with you on your journey. Belated Happy Birthday and hugs.:T

jackieb

Of course you're entitled to a life. Just a thought, but your dh wouldn't be depressed by any chance?

jackieb

Of course you're entitled to a life. Just a thought, but your dh wouldn't be depressed by any chance?

Scarlett1

moanin'minnie wrote: »

So as I said I'm not sure if I stay with him out of love or habit as we've been together 32yrs, but the negativity and moodiness are dragging me down and I think at 50 I'm entitled to a life

if you arent happy then get out of the marriage while you are still young enough to have a life, im sure your children will help you if they were aware of how unhappy you are, as for ignoring you 50th what an @sshole :mad: