Cheating husband or paranoid pregnant wife?!!

*Diva*

notanewuser wrote: »

I think your husband is going to struggle with having to play 2nd fiddle once the baby arrives.

I will be honest I do think he will get worse once the baby arrives as I wont be able to keep an eye on him and his aches and pains and occupy him like i do now.


I need the normality of my mental state. I feel like I am going insane too, I try to hold everything together but it is VERY VERY difficault but I dont have anyone I can really open up to.
I told my mum and sister once about how he is a worrier about things and I think their ignorance just pi ssed me off! they literally laughed in my face and said its like he is ur wife!

notanewuser

Have you not made any baby buddies at antenatal groups?

I think you need to get your husband to a GP quickly.

*Diva*

notanewuser wrote: »

Have you not made any baby buddies at antenatal groups?

I think you need to get your husband to a GP quickly.

No I have had issues with midwives etc- not turning up or running late and then they have rushed out appointments.


When I realised I wanted antenatal classes they said it was too late.Plus im a work a holic and I just took my maternity leave on the day I was due which was not very long ago- 4 days to be precise.

notanewuser

*Diva* wrote: »

No I have had issues with midwives etc- not turning up or running late and then they have rushed out appointments.


When I realised I wanted antenatal classes they said it was too late.Plus im a work a holic and I just took my maternity leave on the day I was due which was not very long ago- 4 days to be precise.

:doh:

That wasn't clever, TBH. You're going to need one hell of a support network based on what you've said here.

My local hospital forgot to invite me to the antenatal classes until it was too late. Luckily we did NCT classes so I didn't need the NHS ones anyway. The people we met through those have been my rock over the past 3 years.

pawsies

He sounds very controlling. Take care of yourself

heartbreak_star

He does sound controlling.

Also, he is not a child. He needs to go to his GP to sort out his issues.

HBS x

FBaby

*Diva* wrote: »

If I was younger or if he was just a short term boyfriend then perhaps I would not have kept quiet about it. I would have stormed up and dragged him out of bed and screamed and shouted etc.. but reality is I am a 25 yr old married woman whose having his child. Im not sure what is the right way to deal with it but certainly not this - as tempting as it is!!

There is no right way. Personally if I was about to give birth and found my husband texting my friend telling her not to tell me I would be very angry and upset and i would want him to know asap. I did say avoiding screaming and sorting. Toy pondering what to do is almost accepting that his behaviour could be acceptable. I can't see under which circumstances it would be (for me mainly the part about 'don't tell my wife' would be enough to have cross the boundaries. )

4Chickens

I am almost speachless. ALMOST

I think your husband read a little more into the threesome conversation than you actually intended him to. You need to nip this in the bud FIRMLY and FINALLY.

Your husband sounds very needy and trust me when baby is born things are not magically going to get better, they are in fact going to get a helluva lot harder.

Does he ever go to the doctors about his "aches and pains" or does he just seek comfort from you? Does he use his "aches and pains" as a method of getting your undivided attention?

I do so hope that you have not opened a pandoras box here.

Mojisola

*Diva* wrote: »

Basically my husband is very demanding- he is an over thinker and worries about the smallest of things making life VERY difficault sometimes..

If he bumps into someone he will ask me to wash his top numerous times, he washes his hands unlimited amounts of times, before during and after eating.

Why isn't he washing his top numerous times?

How on earth is he going to cope with the wee, poo, sick and snot that's part of having a baby around?

anotheruser

Ronaldo_Mconaldo wrote: »

Cool story, bro.

That's my line!