Weekly Flylady Thread 3rd February 2014

JennyJewell

Love and (((HUGS))) bossymoo xx

boddy

Dailies done
Washing done

Catch up tomorrow as I've been working the last two days.

bossymoo Hugs and thinking of you.

Hugs, sticks and spoons where needed.

roxy7699

Ahh Pix

Jenny congrats on the NVQ, hope your mouth continues to mend

Bossy hugs

Well as I put my plate in the kitchen to get big one at 2.45 the nursery called, suggested I come and get Tiny early. She was very unhappy, had slept 20 mins and woke crying. So I cried, then pulled myself together. When I got there she was outside with a worker and a rattle sobbing. Fell fast asleep in the car, I really thought she would settle, we will try again tomorrow.

pigpen

I'm sorry but I need an offload.. I've loaded the DW, caught up with washing and emptied bins so I have done something list worthy.. oh.. I also threw out a broken tin opener!!!


KH rant.. I'll white it so feel free to skip..

Tiddles (9) told DD2's bf that her and her dad had 'secret plans' for her to go live with him and she was not allowed to tell me.. so he told me lol.. I knew there was something like this going on, just not in any detail. Anyway.. I got her and Moomin (11) and asked them what was going on and Tiddles started crying and said he had told her when his house is sorted she can go live with him and she misses him and she is jealous of her friends who live with their dad... you know when someone removes that brick of the emotional wall and everything just pours out.. we had that..


Anyway we discussed people who have lost their mum or dad.. KH was 5 when his dad died so it isn't like he had this situation but he also was robbed of knowing not only his dad but they had no contact with his dads family either. I also told her how I felt growing up living away from my mother and how it was just the same for me as it is for her and it is ok and normal to feel that way.. but.. we have new people who care about us.. she has 5 people she would not have had before.. OH and our girls for a start and KH's baggage too (I use names to the children!)

We discussed types of secrets it is ok to keep.. birthday presents etc and bad secrets.. things which make you feel bad or which might upset others. Secrets which make you worried or feel sad are not secrets at all and they must tell someone and if they have something making them unhappy they should tell me or someone immediately.. even if they think it will make me sad.. I would rather they shared anything if it means they aren't sad inside.

We discussed how he has time and money to do the fun things and when he lived here he didn't and wouldn't do any of those things so it is better that he isn't here or he would never do the days out or cinema or park or anything.. and while he can do those things I do the endless boring things like nagging to get ready for school and appointments and buying clothes and shoes and checking for head lice and stuff which he does none of.. they also now get extra presents for birthdays and Christmas which is always good

So, I asked when these 'grand plans' would come to fruition .. When his house is done.. when will this be?... 3 years!!!!!! Seriously... 3 effing years he is wanting them to lie to me etc.. I was livid.. she is 9 and hurting and he tells her that pile of crap.. I'll want you to live with me when you take no looking after and can get yourself off to school and home again and I don't need to do anything for you.. I offered to do 3 days here/3 days there which Tiddles said she would like to do.. but he doesn't want that.. I offered half of all school holidays.. last year he had the 3 girls 5 extra days.. 3 at easter and 2 over summer hols.. if he doesn't want them that bit of extra time I can't see him wanting them 24/7. The older 3 are not welcome at his ever again apparently! but that depends on the day.. he doesn't even ask if or why they aren't going now.


I hate lies.. I hate him making my littlies feel confused and hurting and upset... I am really very angry..


Anyway.. I've vented my spleen now so it is safe to carry on reading.


My cold is feeling much better, though I have a sore/infected finger now but my sore infected boob is also feeling better so I'll just type with a finger less

Little Poppy is doing really well.. and has grown from just 3-6 month clothes to nearly out of 6-9 month clothes since her last op
The grandboys are all grand


And I am in the mood to fling stuff out!!!!!!!!


I have ebay bids too... *fling*

mummyyof5

Ahh Pigpen...your poor children to be made to feel that way is truly awful...what a P***k...and I dont swear .......No one should make them feel that way and is worse as it is a parent....Well done you ..was a lovely way to explain things to her, without making her feel guilty or as if it was her fault at all..she should never ave been put in that position...you have every right to be angry,I would be furious.


Lovely to hear good news about Poppy..her mummy must be so relieved xx

roxy7699

Totally agree with mummyof5, disgusting behaviour.

Emily926

Morning every one, I achieved no flying yesterday . DD came home from nursery having not eaten anything all day and crying a lot, I think her remaining teeth might be coming...3 to go I think.

Hopefully today will be better!

just_the_two_of_us

Morning all - just popping in to say hi and send hugs to all those needing them. Bossy special hugs - and glad you have a great boss.

Yesterday was a wash out after 3 hr meeting I then spent rest of day on research. Plan today to HH on and HH off laptop or else nothing will get done at all:o
The "F" word already - done 2 hours on laptop:eek:
Added Wed's small lists below and will work through those and remainder of Mon and Tues lists.

Weird Wednesday - Living Room, Hall and Stairs
15 minutes...
Vacuum floors and sofas,
30 minutes to spare...
Dusting, even if around everything
Remove clutter making sure stairs especially are safe
Clean TV, other electricals and cabinets
Water any thirsty plants, wipe their poor neglected leaves!!
Extra Mission:
Paperwork clearance.. spend 15 minutes minimum sorting through those piles of paper.
HHI.. another mound gone!

Report back later.

Sending electricity repairing vibes to those without power today. xx

Dustykitten

Good morning all

Bossy I hope you slept sweetie and that you will spend your day popping in to see us.

Piggers well handled, I hope the morning sees the girls feeling a weight lifted from them.

Day at home for me until cricket nets later. Plan is admin and flying swapping from one to the other as I get bored of each .

I may walk up to the library if there looks like a gap in the weather for a bit of exercise and fresh air.

bossymoo

Oh pigpen that's just awful. No wonder they are confused. I don't have any advice, I'm not sure talking/shouting to him would help it sounds like he's just point scoring and doesn't give a t0ss how they feel :mad:

Well I got the littlies off to breakfast club only to realise we'd forgotten DS water bottle and DD packed lunch so I had to make two trips - never mind. I think I will just accept I'm a scatterbrain today then at least I won't get frustrated with myself...

WM going, DW emptied last night but there is more to go in, and I'm about to start work, just got time to boil the kettle.

Bin day today, I can vaguely hear the wagon :T mine is overflowing... From flinging