New Freemason wife

jm2926

mountainofdebt wrote: »

As far as I'm aware, if a policeman is a freemason then they have to declare it.......I know that when I was looking into becoming a magistrate, I was told that if I had been a freemason, then I would have had to declare it.

Personally I can't think of any LAWFUL organisation that I would have to admit being a member of in that sort of circumstance....so it makes a mockery of saying its a secret society when you openly have to declare being a member !

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No requirement to declare it

mountainofdebt

jm2926 wrote: »

No requirement to declare it

I stand corrected.....I know that it was a couple of years ago but obviously its changed now.

Georgiegirl256

meritaten wrote: »

tours of the lodge? but have you attended an actual 'meeting'? NO?
or you Errata?
by now they have learned to 'hide in plain sight'.

you will NOT get any member to say what happens in meetings. or have I missed something here? any member posted whats happening in meetings?

That comment makes me think of how in public members are respected pillars of the community, good down to earth blokes, BUT, when they get inside the lodge, creepy things start to happen...dum dum dum! They unzip their skin and turn into....ailiens! :rotfl:

*disclaimer, yes I have possibly watched too many movies!

jm2926

mountainofdebt wrote: »

I stand corrected.....I know that it was a couple of years ago but obviously its changed now.

Perhaps it varies by force but dh was police for 25 years and is out 6 years and it was never declairable

Edited:: and joined a year ago

jm2926

mountainofdebt wrote: »

As I said the OP has deleted her post which is a shame really as I think I can relate to how she felt when OH first joined.

But as I say,over time I've learnt that its just men being boys again (think of the blanket camp in the forest that only members of the gang can enter lol) late nights once or twice a month and if I'm feeling charitable a wife-driven taxi home.

Oh and a good excuse to get tarted up like a dogs dinner a few times a year!

Yip, this is how I feel. It's good he has pals, and it 1-2 times a fortnight. I don't see the problem really

Quentin

Do they roll up their trouser leg all night, just when goat riding or to give the women a laugh on ladies nights?

zaxdog

It's all just a bit sad and silly in general IMO. "I is playing with my boy pals (and the chicken :eek:) and you can't come in and play cos you are a poo girl"

What IS sinister is the favours done for and by members................

Although maybe I am just bitter as a female and from a *whispers it* Catholic family lol!

Georgiegirl256

zaxdog wrote: »

It's all just a bit sad and silly in general IMO. "I is playing with my boy pals (and the chicken :eek:) and you can't come in and play cos you are a poo girl"

What IS sinister is the favours done for and by members................

Although maybe I am just bitter as a female and from a *whispers it* Catholic family lol!

You could say the same about the WI though. I know with that one the clue is in the title, but if the women can have their own club then why can't the men? You don't hear the men whining "awww but it's not fair *stamps feet*, I want to join the WI and knit scarves and bake cakes!"

I also don't get why you think doing favours is "sinister"? Surely it's human nature in any walk of life? For example, if my BIL was a plasterer, and someone told me they needed one, then I'm going to recommend him first to get the business, or if my SIL was an accountant (she is actually), same goes, I'd recommend her. What's so sinister about that?

Spendless

My husband until last year was a Freemason. He resigned due to not having the time to keep going to meetings.

When he initially wanted to go I was really worried about what he was getting mixed up, having read all the propaganda about them.

The reality, it was the most boring thing I could think of. I actually have a theory that they perpetuate that it is full of sinister happenings in an attempt to make it sound far more interesting than it is. :rotfl:

I went once to the ladies dinner, thinking it would be a nice meal (it was) and that I'd receive a nice present it was a headscarf! The speeches were the most boring I've ever sat through!

And in terms of favours given out - zilch! It just wasn't true that it happened. Husband's friend who isn't a freemason but who played semi professional cricket we've had far more 'favours' from his fellow cricketers. I don't mean in the sense of doing something shady and it being covered up, but we've certainly had 'mates rates' from electricians, solicitors, financial advisors from friends connections not husbands!

They can very much offer support. A neighbours sis-in-law died unexpectedly whilst on holiday in Asia, and her brother, a freemason at another lodge was having to cope by himself as flights out weren't available and he couldn't come straight back. A call to his lodge meant they contacted a lodge close to where he was holidaying and members from there came to where he was to help out.

They are also big charity givers. I think husband told me that the masons were the 2nd largest giver to charity after the national lottery. I can't remember if that was in general or to one particular charity though. Why they don't blow their own trumpet more about this I don't know!


What they do at meetings is a secret but DH used to leave his booklets, papers lying around - usually in the loo where he'd been reading them and I used to pick them up and look through them and there is absolutely nothing of interest in them. Just a load of lines to be spouted. A 4 year olds Nativity play has far more interesting lines in them - honestly!

Rachylou1981

It's lovely to hear of the support they give to one another, even from different lodges. Especially touched by your neighbour's BIL's story on holiday Spendless.

Wish more people in the world were like that.

My friend says she is not interested when we try and get some info but not sure how much of that is true or it's because she doesn't know.

It really is all hearsay with me so I'm sorry if this gets people's backs up but what annoyed me about them (if true) is that I heard that FM's can pretty much get off with some crimes because of them being a FM due to the high powered jobs that some other FMs have i.e. police, magistrate - the fact someone said it had to be declared if they were one made me remember being told this