How Life Pans Out

Saturnalia

I might have read the phrase wrong, but I've always thought it was a "don't give up" kind of platitude, rather than saying things will come to you with no work required.

It doesn't matter how hard you work or how well you plan, things come out of nowhere and sideswipe you, and saying "it'll work out okay in the end" is encouragement to keep going, that this is a temporary setback. Maybe it'll take a lot longer than originally planned, maybe you'll be forced to re-think the goal entirely, but somehow you'll get to a place where you are happier.

Yes, work is required, but if you don't have the faith that things can improve, you won't make the effort and will just sink. And I often think keeping that faith strong is tougher than any other sort of work that goes into it.

uk_american

Cotta wrote: »

...the younger generation often worry too much often about things that generally never happen and that everything pans out the way it should in the end.

Great topic to get people thinking.

I do wonder if we're all worrying about the wrong things...

When I was 23 my mother passed away from a 1 in a million incurable cancer at age 53. I had no preconceived notion to be worrying about that one.

My cousin passed away at 32 from an accidental drug overdose, after being clean for over 2 years. Missed that one coming too.

I do think we might all be worrying about the 'wrong' things, or the things that don't matter. At the end of the day, the things we should worry about are the things we can do something about, such as education, money saving, relationships and family. And then we should do something about those things, rather than dwell on them.

justme111

Worrying is not a good thing. When you remember what you worried about 5 years ago on a particular day it will not seem that significant now. Life is not about achieving monetary wealth or status. I am not religious but looking at a couple of religious people I know I see what looks to me as an inner calm and strength that comes from their faith and makes their lives better. If you believe good things will happen they will. Not necessarily good as we imagine them but we so often are wrong in what we think is good for us .. concept of serendipity comes to mind. I would interpret the op as having an open mind and welcoming whatever life brings , not fretting over it not going "by plan" and not having fear

marisco_2

justme111 wrote: »

If you believe good things will happen they will.

It takes far more than belief, or faith or hope for that matter, to bring good things to your life. Sitting back and thinking happiness, luck or good fortune will fall into your lap is a fools game. Like the saying goes 'If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always got'

Being willing to always keep learning, adjust, compromise, bounce back and strive is the only way to reach your full potential and have the life you really want.

unholyangel

I'm not of the older generation (technically not even middle aged yet!) however apparently I have the viewpoint of a much older person (my friends mum laughs about it as she says it took her 60 years to get that way and I got there in less than half the time!).

I do think people worry too much. I remember at school as a teen, the head and deputy came into our class and started telling us we had to pass these exams, that we'd end up as criminals or junkies if we didnt (they didnt word it quite like that but they did actually say that would happen!). And (i've always been outspoken in situations like this) I said that I didnt think them saying that was a good idea as it was unduly putting pressure on us and that it wasnt the end of the world if we failed or didnt do as well as we planned as we could always take them again.

I do believe that things will turn out how they are meant to to a certain degree but my gran always used to tell me "whats for you wont go by you". That doesnt mean sit on your !!! and dont try to achieve anything. It just means if you didnt get something you really wanted, perhaps you're just meant to have something else.

It makes disappointment almost non-existent and life virtually care free!

sunshinetours

Cotta wrote: »

Hello Everyone,

The older generation when offering advice often say that the younger generation often worry too much often about things that generally never happen and that everything pans out the way it should in the end.

Just addressing this to the more senior members (and junior if they have examples etc) I was wondering do you agree with such sentiments?

As you get older you will work out worrying about things you can change is important and not stressing about stuff you cannot.

Relying solely on good luck to get you through life is not a good life plan, There is a big difference between being lazy and helping shape your own life which can help create situations others may see as lucky

mincepiemonster

Unfortunately, I am a born worrier. I try to channel the energy constructively, and do what I can practically to alleviate those worries - but they're still there. I'm 25 and already on my second Will. We have life insurance beyond what we would ever "need." We have income protection insurance too. I find these things make me feel a little calmer about stuff.

I think being a worrier can bring its own positives. We have lots of savings, because my fear about being crippled financially means I prioritise saving. We make sacrifices which enable us to have the lifestyle we want, because I live in fear of having regrets in 20 years time. I worried so much about my exam results that I ended up with some of the best results in my year at all stages of my education. Rather than allowing the fears and worries to overtake everything else, I try to be empowered by them, which in turn can lead to an outward appearance of luck

roswell

When life gives you lemons make lemonaid - best advice i ever recieved.

Life will be good and bad to you, what you make of the bad bits is what sets you up more than what is good to you.

Tancred

mincepiemonster wrote: »

Unfortunately, I am a born worrier. I try to channel the energy constructively, and do what I can practically to alleviate those worries - but they're still there. I'm 25 and already on my second Will. We have life insurance beyond what we would ever "need." We have income protection insurance too. I find these things make me feel a little calmer about stuff.

I think being a worrier can bring its own positives. We have lots of savings, because my fear about being crippled financially means I prioritise saving. We make sacrifices which enable us to have the lifestyle we want, because I live in fear of having regrets in 20 years time. I worried so much about my exam results that I ended up with some of the best results in my year at all stages of my education. Rather than allowing the fears and worries to overtake everything else, I try to be empowered by them, which in turn can lead to an outward appearance of luck

Worry is a salutary thing. It shows that you care about your life and want to succeed - which is good. What isn't so good is to worry about things that you have no control over and for which there is no satisfactory mitigation. You also need to consider and weigh all risks in life - having lots of insurance will merely deprive you of cash and line the pockets of insurance companies.

justme111

marisco wrote: »

It takes far more than belief, or faith or hope for that matter, to bring good things to your life. Sitting back and thinking happiness, luck or good fortune will fall into your lap is a fools game. Like the saying goes 'If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always got'

Being willing to always keep learning, adjust, compromise, bounce back and strive is the only way to reach your full potential and have the life you really want.

Actually happiness is something which is entirely in.our heads , one does not need to live.in a certain.house or drive.certain car to be happy, there was a study which showed that increasing earnins beyond certain number )I believe it was about £40 000) has not been correlated with increase in reported happiness in general public. Think about richest people on the planet and how unhappy/disastrous their lives come across.