How Life Pans Out

jemb

Nicklt wrote: »

Depends how you look at,

I'm 25 and I would say there is a high % of people from my generation that think everything will fall into their lap and they don't have to try for anything. If you take this approach that "everything will fall into place" then you will go nowhere.

Look at it from another view that if you work hard and do your best and try and achieve then everthing (hopefully) will pan out for you.

When I was 16-20 i was lazy, entitled, unfocused tw*t. Then I had my daughter at 20 and things started changing. I have worked really had over the past 5 years and now have a good job, nice home etc.

But like I said. Take approach of everthing will fall into place/my lap, which a lot my age and below expect you will ultimately end up and go nowhere.

I blame TV and the world of "Celeb" for that attitude.

I dont think it's fair to generalise though. I'm same generation as you and was always taught to work for what I wanted. That's why my Husband and I have a business, 4 bed detached house, 2 cars neither on finance and oldest is a 5 year old Audi. I think that sterotyping any generation or socio-economic group is unfair. Everyone starts out with the same chance unless there's a silver spoon involved.

lavalamp

I read this to mean that in general people today worry about what might happen rather than focusing on what they want to happen. For instance, people worry at age 20 that they will not be able to afford a house one day rather than going out and doing something about it to make sure they can. They put more effort into the worry than into action to do something.

Pollycat

Cotta wrote: »

Hello Everyone,

The older generation when offering advice often say that the younger generation often worry too much often about things that generally never happen and that everything pans out the way it should in the end.

Do the older generation really say that?

I'm not sure that I believe it.

I'm another one who thinks the younger generation seems to want everything (the latest mobile phone, ipad, cat, designer handbag etc) now - right this minute and sod the final cost.

Cotta wrote: »

Just addressing this to the more senior members (and junior if they have examples etc) I was wondering do you agree with such sentiments?

Obviously not from my reply above.

Tancred

lavalamp wrote: »

I read this to mean that in general people today worry about what might happen rather than focusing on what they want to happen. For instance, people worry at age 20 that they will not be able to afford a house one day rather than going out and doing something about it to make sure they can. They put more effort into the worry than into action to do something.

But in many cases you can do nothing about it. The trouble is that modern society is too materialitic and all about 'keeping up with the Jones's' and all that stuff. One should focus on (1) physical survival, (2) health and (3) mental health and peace of mind. Anything on top of this base is a bonus.

Person_one

jemb wrote: »

I dont think it's fair to generalise though. I'm same generation as you and was always taught to work for what I wanted. That's why my Husband and I have a business, 4 bed detached house, 2 cars neither on finance and oldest is a 5 year old Audi. I think that sterotyping any generation or socio-economic group is unfair. Everyone starts out with the same chance unless there's a silver spoon involved.

Your last sentence is patently untrue.

Tancred

Person_one wrote: »

Your last sentence is patently untrue.

I agree. And how do you define 'silver spoon'? I come from a really poor background and had some terrible career problems early in my working life, but somehow managed to crawl out and drag myself up. At 47 I have a new £20k car, bought for cash, and a mortgaged 3 bedroom detached house worth over £300k - I don't need anything bigger as I have no kids. It took me a long time but I feel settled now. However, I'm sure that if I had gone to a private school and had been gifted some £££ upon graduation my path would have been a lot smoother. Even in modern Britain your background does matter.

Buzzybee90

Nicklt wrote: »

I maybe wouldn't go that far. But younger people do need to learn to take more responsibility for themselves and realise you really need to work hard to get anywhere.

Now you basically go through a pre-planned path from primary school through to Uni so 4-24 and don't really need to make any massive decisions yourself.

Most people finish uni at 21.

I personally think it's much harder for us that people of my parents age.

And yes, OP, I have much more worries than my parents did at my age.

This thread will go off on one as younger people believe older people had it much easier and older people think every young person is a spendaholic with no worries.

Cotta

lavalamp wrote: »

I read this to mean that in general people today worry about what might happen rather than focusing on what they want to happen. For instance, people worry at age 20 that they will not be able to afford a house one day rather than going out and doing something about it to make sure they can. They put more effort into the worry than into action to do something.

Yes I was looking at it from a point of personal development and sense of achievment such as relationships and fulfilment.

mgdavid

Person_one wrote: »

The people who say 'everything pans out in the end' tend to be the people for whom everything has panned out in the end.

There are so many factors that influence what will happen in your life, the circumstances you were born into, your upbringing, your personality, but the biggest factor is usually plain old luck..........

a tiny number of people appear to be very lucky or unlucky without any external factors. For the majority in the middle I firmly believe that you 'make your own luck'. Examples being understanding and playing to ones' strengths, having a positive attitude, choosing with care who you marry, taking calculated risks; what we used to call common sense.

DigForVictory

I'm with this chap:
F. L. Emerson: "I'm a great believer in luck. The harder I work, the more of it I seem to have."