How Life Pans Out

Cotta

Hello Everyone,

The older generation when offering advice often say that the younger generation often worry too much often about things that generally never happen and that everything pans out the way it should in the end.

Just addressing this to the more senior members (and junior if they have examples etc) I was wondering do you agree with such sentiments?

Nicklt

Depends how you look at,

I'm 25 and I would say there is a high % of people from my generation that think everything will fall into their lap and they don't have to try for anything. If you take this approach that "everything will fall into place" then you will go nowhere.

Look at it from another view that if you work hard and do your best and try and achieve then everthing (hopefully) will pan out for you.

When I was 16-20 i was lazy, entitled, unfocused tw*t. Then I had my daughter at 20 and things started changing. I have worked really had over the past 5 years and now have a good job, nice home etc.

But like I said. Take approach of everthing will fall into place/my lap, which a lot my age and below expect you will ultimately end up and go nowhere.

I blame TV and the world of "Celeb" for that attitude.

Tancred

Cotta wrote: »

Hello Everyone,

The older generation when offering advice often say that the younger generation often worry too much often about things that generally never happen and that everything pans out the way it should in the end.

Just addressing this to the more senior members (and junior if they have examples etc) I was wondering do you agree with such sentiments?

I'm 47 and would never give this advice to a son/daughter or nephew/niece. I would tell them that life is a bl**dy hard slog and nothing will come easily. You need to make it happen. Of course if you've been to Eton and are on speaking terms with royalty then you should be fine, but for the rest of us.........

Tancred

Nicklt wrote: »

Depends how you look at,

I'm 25 and I would say there is a high % of people from my generation that think everything will fall into their lap and they don't have to try for anything. If you take this approach that "everything will fall into place" then you will go nowhere.

Look at it from another view that if you work hard and do your best and try and achieve then everthing (hopefully) will pan out for you.

When I was 16-20 i was lazy, entitled, unfocused tw*t. Then I had my daughter at 20 and things started changing. I have worked really had over the past 5 years and now have a good job, nice home etc.

But like I said. Take approach of everthing will fall into place/my lap, which a lot my age and below expect you will ultimately end up and go nowhere.

I blame TV and the world of "Celeb" for that attitude.

I blame the loss of corporal punishment in schools and the abolition of national service in the early 60s. Too many youngsters aged 16-20 just pi**ing about doing nothing.

Hermia

I'm not sure this is true of the older people in my family!

It also depends what you mean by pan out. Often when people say that something has turned out for the best they are just trying to accept what happened, but that doesn't mean they like it. For example, when people fail at their dream career and have to do something else they will often say it actually worked out better for them. Sometimes that is true, but sometimes it's about trying to save face and feel better about yourself.

I think a lot of my older relatives haven't had the life they want and are unhappy in some cases. But they won't come out and say it. Whilst it is silly to just worry about everything I do have some relatives whose laid-back nature when they were young stopped them getting the life they wanted.

Nicklt

Tancred wrote: »

I blame the loss of corporal punishment in schools and the abolition of national service in the early 60s. Too many youngsters aged 16-20 just pi**ing about doing nothing.

I maybe wouldn't go that far. But younger people do need to learn to take more responsibility for themselves and realise you really need to work hard to get anywhere.

Now you basically go through a pre-planned path from primary school through to Uni so 4-24 and don't really need to make any massive decisions yourself.

Soleil_lune

Tancred wrote: »

I'm 47 and would never give this advice to a son/daughter or nephew/niece. I would tell them that life is a bl**dy hard slog and nothing will come easily. You need to make it happen. Of course if you've been to Eton and are on speaking terms with royalty then you should be fine, but for the rest of us.........

THIS ^^^^^ :rotfl:

Person_one

Cotta wrote: »

Hello Everyone,

The older generation when offering advice often say that the younger generation often worry too much often about things that generally never happen and that everything pans out the way it should in the end.

Just addressing this to the more senior members (and junior if they have examples etc) I was wondering do you agree with such sentiments?

The people who say 'everything pans out in the end' tend to be the people for whom everything has panned out in the end.

There are so many factors that influence what will happen in your life, the circumstances you were born into, your upbringing, your personality, but the biggest factor is usually plain old luck.

Teenagers aren't really any different than they've ever been, but they'll always get a certain amount of flack from adults who've forgotten what it was like.

Alikay

Nope, I'm 53 so could be classed as older generation and I have always worried for England! Luckily, in my life everything pretty well has turned out OK, and most of my biggest worries haven't come to fruition.

The thing with getting older is that many of those major life events such as finding a job you like, meeting someone special, getting your own home, having children etc are achieved, so you don't worry about them anymore.....they're "in the bag". You find new things to worry about if your that way inclined: Pensions, health, grandchildren or whatever.

I really don't think us oldies become more chilled, our lives just moved on and so we have different concerns. My MIL is 81 and yesterday was really worried about whether she'd like the new toilet seat when the housing association refit her bathroom in a couple of weeks!:rotfl:

Tancred

One of the things that do annoy me about the oldies is that they keep harping on about how hard it was in their days and now we have it all nice and easy. For example, I was discussing house prices with my 76 year old mother-in-law and she was harping on about 13% interest rates in her day etc, while ignoring that you had MIRAS back then and house prices were a lot lower when compared to incomes. It seems that when you reach a certain age you detach yourself from reality.

Vicky123

It's a difficult one because hindsight is all that's needed and that won't happen until everything has or hasn't happened:D
I do know I wasted a ridiculous amount of time trying to force something to happen when it was never meant to be, that usually relates to relationships.
Aim for the sky and you might get the tree tops and trust your instinct.