Relative jangling 'wedding tackle' in public.

sulkisu

paddy's_mum wrote: »

Has anybody got any ideas on how best to address this issue, whether politely or not!

I have a male relative, now in early 40's, never been married and never been overly careful about courtesy or personal hygiene.

Lately, he has taken to standing in the room, spreading his legs and with a hand in his pocket, shall we say 're-adjusting' the contents of his underpants.

I find such behaviour contemptuous of onlookers especially as he works for a large supermarket chain and (presumably) would never get away with such behaviour in front of customers.

I don't especially want to cause a scene nor kick off a huge intra-family row and would welcome any advice, put-downs or to-the-point jokes which might focus his mind on something other than his genitalia!

If he's doing it in your home and you find it offensive, then have a blunt but quiet word with him. If he's doing it anywhere else, then I would say nothing and let him get on with it - it reflects on him, not you.

lemontart

I worked with a guy that was shall we say somewhat overt at doing this to the point I did say something - yes all guys do it and many fiddle with their flys as walking or from to the loo too (this was pointed out to me by a work colleague and of course I watched to see for myself)

Georgiegirl256

paulineb wrote: »

Ive worked with some men who've done that in the workplace. I think for some people its just a habit, cant say it bothered me one way or another.

Yeah, it never bothered me either.

Tbh, I can't see what the OP's problem is? If it's just a quick readjustment then that's ok, but if it's a long grope then that's when it crosses the line into being indecent!

Person_one

Well, what a disappointment. From the thread title I was expecting something a lot more scandalous!

paulineb_2

I dont think theres enough info in the opening post to be honest. Where he is doing it, whose house, who he is doing it in front of, kids for instance. A quiet word in the ear just to say could you do that elsewhere as theres kids around etc, not making a big drama of it.

Dare I say it, if someone was bothering me that much, Id limit the time I spent with them, but I appreciate every family is different and you might have lots of family gatherings or whatever.

The person who did it in my workplace, you could tell it was just a habit, certainly wasnt being done to offend me, he was in his early 40s oddly enough and had a gf. Just one of these habits some men seem to have.

meritaten

He IS causing offence - to the OP! and to me that's enough reason to have a word with him about it. she could address the issue as a joke or could have have a 'serious chat' with him - she knows the circumstances and should be the one to gauge which response is appropriate.

AcidHouse

Buy him a pair of better-fitting trousers & undergarments for his birthday!

In all seriousness though, if his bits are stuck, he has to move them, or walk out of the room like he's soiled himself, in pain. It's his call to decide. Which one would you rather see him do?

Or it could just be a habit. Something to do. Probably does it without thinking.

If he's a relative of yours he's just comfortable enough to carry out the adjustments in your presence.

The fact that he hasn't got a wife is a bonus. He can adjust himself as often as he wants without someone giving him a disapproving nudge

Tiglath

You pick your timings - I readjust my boobs in my bra frequently, but I don't do it in front of other people!

itch_for_a_glitch

Take it as a compliment.

That he feels enough at ease to do what all blokes do, when the need arises.

I'm doing it now as I watch City.

AcidHouse

itch_for_a_glitch wrote: »

Take it as a compliment.

That he feels enough at ease to do what all blokes do, when the need arises.

I'm doing it now as I watch City.

"itch for a glitch"

your username couldn't be any more appropriate for this thread to be fair :rotfl: