OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

JustKeepSwimming_2

They do seem to enjoy making life more difficult than it needs to be, don't they Horace? I don't blame you for having a moan - MSTM is right, coming off the dole & going into work is a difficult time financially without all the additional shenanigans you seem to be going through.

Each time I hear stories of all the palarva JCP etc put people through, I remind myself to be more grateful to have a job (even with all the H&S issues :rotfl:). I really don't know if I could cope with all the b o l l o c k s that you have to put up with.

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

..... Havent been able to find any of them for some years now...no more "invest £100 in a building society and wait a couple of years and they'll give you a hundreds of £s payout for being a member" stuff any more.....I still keep my eyes open for any further chances that might come my way to earn reasonable lump sums of money, but cant recall how long ago the last opportunity was there..

Think the carpetbagging years are well & truly over MSTM.

Some rare good news from me - my ex has been lax in getting my share of his pension paperwork sorted; admittedly not all his fault but there was a mix up in the documents & the court/his solicitor made a mistake somewhere along the line & never submitted it to his workplace. First we knew was when I asked for a forecast & was told there was no share for me :eek:

Long story short, hes been a bit slow in sorting it out over the last few years (when we found out) as it was never a priority for him & he never really wanted me to have a share anyway. But now hes been told he can't receive the pension & lump sum he was banking on getting in 2 months time when he leaves the forces until my share has been sorted :rotfl:

Guess who now has to get off his butt & sort it out - but even if he works really quickly & sorts the paperwork, it'll still takes months to process by the forces

Am I wrong to find this so amusing?

Our "chat/lecture" went OK thankfully. I'm looking forward to the day when he doesn't have any control over my life when our 2 have grown up. I'm sure he is too.

mothernerd

Congratulations Horace. Commiserations for those having difficulties. Not sure which category I belong in.

I have moved to the small house and the big one is now up for sale (though not sure about the Estate Agents). First full day at home as I had my total hip replacement operation last Thursday and came home at 5pm last night. Had quite a good day but so frightened of doing one of the many 'banned' movements (which would cause the new hip to 'pop' out).

Managed the scary first time walk downstairs this afternoon and otherwise just taking things slowly.

Horace

I hate accepting help from anybody but I have learnt to accept the offerings of my parents with good grace. The house came about because they hated me paying rent and they had savings sitting there not earning much and as it will eventually be mine anyway it was decided that they would buy a house for me. Alas we had the vendors from hell who took months and even after accepting the offer put the house back on the market, mum went round to measure up one day and the agent let slip that he had been showing people around the house the day before:mad: Needless to say words were had and a further exchange of strongly worded letters were sent by her solicitor to their's - it could only happen to me. My ex OH was pretty mean when we divorced (I did the divorce myself as I could not afford a solicitor) and didn't give me the money that he promised and I stupidly did not get a proper financial settlement through the court. He still has some of my stuff but to be honest I cannot be bothered now - he still has my record collection that I had since aged 9 but I have nothing to play it on. At least I have my furniture.

I spoke to mum tonight and she was pleased that I had managed to give them a kick up the pants. She is having a tough time with dad at the mo - he had a hospital appointment today and she got him up at 11am and although he was supposed to drink a lot before his scan by 1.30pm he had only drunk a cup of tea and still wasn't dressed - the appointment was at 2.15pm. Mum had to do a lot of shouting to chivvy him along (he is very deaf). It seems that now he is no longer interested in thinking for himself and leaves everything to her but when it comes to driving he insists on doing it so mum has to be devious. She goes shopping early in the morning before he even gets out of bed otherwise he would be up and trying to drive. She rang me a bit later to ask if I had sent a card to my cousin Jo and I confirmed that I had so she said that when she gets a present for the baby, she will include me as the giver.

JKS Glad that you managed to sort your ex out and now you are going to have a share of the pension.

Northern Sorry to hear that you have had your hip replaced and only came out of hospital yesterday - please take it easy and hope you feel better soon.

mum2one

Northern you take care, hope everything goes on ok.

JKS Wll done, - bet you wished you could have been a fly on the wall, I totally agree re the control ex's have - for me it feels like an invisable rubber band, - although in my case DD has never met him, and the courts wont let him have access, parental responsibility, he has indirect access but doesn't bother, yet its a hold that wont break till DD 18..

moneyistooshorttomention

Horace...there seem to be a noticeable number of vendors like that (ie still taking viewers for their house AFTER they have accepted a firm offer from the buyer). My last house was whipped off the market that day literally by my estate agent automatically the second I accepted the offer on it, so I was "doing the moral thing" there myself. But I found out the vendor of my current house was still intending to have viewers on it after accepting my offer:eek::mad: and had to "lay down the law" very firmly that that malarkey was to stop and stop right now myself. Just as well I did in the event, as someone else did try and view after my offer acceptance and were only prevented from doing so because I had "laid down the law" that morals were to be observed or else.

MotherNerd - best wishes for a swift recovery from your operation. You've certainly had more than your fair share of recent problems. Hopefully a few weeks recovery period and changing house will now bring an end to it and you can have "a period of peace" at last.

LavenderBees

Hi, All

Well I never! A little bird has reminded me that this weekend holds the day that I "decreed"(:rotfl:) months ago to be "Singlies Day" :eek:

A day that prompts us to focus on ourselves, our hopes, our aspirations, our need for a rest from responsibilities, our need to DO SOMETHING THAT MAKES US FEEL BETTER.

This came about because as we all know, it's a bloomin tough life being a Singlie, and I think we too often ignore that we need a bit of a pamper, a bit of a treat. A bit of time to focus on ourselves and reflect on what we are achieving (a helluva lot, ackershally ), and mostly pretty much achieved on our own. A bit of time to focus on what we want to achieve....

...or not....maybe just some quality down time, and a good sleep?

So, whether it's a long soaky bath with a glass of wine and a good book, as few chores as possible, a walk in the sunshine...a lovely Sunday roast....whatever floats your boat... I am now declaring "SINGLIES DAY IS OPEN" :T

Go to it...Singlies of the MSE World...what will you do with YOUR day? :beer:

I have (by sheer chance as I had completely forgotten about this ) been moving chores forward on evenings this week to keep busy as it is my Mam's birthday today, and I am again feeling the emotional exhaustion, but need to keep busy. So, an almost but not quite chore free weekend awaits me...I aim to -

1. Go back to bed both days with a cuppa, choc biscuits and a good book

2. Go for a walk in the sunshine, and come back to a lovely hot soaky bath, light the fire, and relax in my PJs

3. Maybe visit a NT place before my membership runs out

4. Pootle in the kitchen with a glass of wine and produce a lovely roast Sunday lunch

5. Play with the chooks and the pusses - real quality time I rarely seem to have.

So, nothing exciting, but strangely, I am excited. It's going to be proper "me" time....I can't wait.

LB xx

fiftyeighter_2

I knew nothing about this day but all up for it.
So today is a really lazy day. I've done the normal chores but that's it.
Tomorrow weather permitting I'm out for my normal walk with friends along the river. Will go to IKEA tomorrow just to treat myself to a day out. It's an hours drive away from me. But I want to get a sunnan lamp. Peeps have said they are £10!on special offer. I want them for my little hoard in preparation for snow, electric failure or any other SHTF episode.
Well I hope every singly enjoys there pampering what ever you choose to do. X

moneyistooshorttomention

A day just for us has gotta be a good idea:T.

After all, there's Mothers Day and Fathers Day...so why not Singlies Day indeed?:):beer:

Horace

Hello gang

The Singlies Day is in my diary but I fear that I won't be doing any slothing.:( I am trying to teach my body to wake up at 6am and leap out of bed then otherwise I will be stuffed on Monday when I have to get up for work. I have my SW class in the morning and I have a chicken carcass to turn into a soup.

I have been out for most of the day, nipped to the work programme office where they gave me a bus pass (it cost them £57) and it expires on 18 December. I managed to speak to my advisor and lost my temper because I was hearing yet more tales about my induction so I told her to sort it out. She whined at me to just ask a member of staff when I got there so I reminded her that I wasn't stupid and that she should do her job and find out for me. She then mithered about me signing off so I said that wasn't going to happen until my hours had been confirmed. I told her that she was unprofessional as were the rest of the staff:mad: I have to be there at 9am on Monday and I need to take my ID so I have refused because they already have my ID as I took it to the interview and it was copied then.

Need to get the bus at 7.14am which means I need to leave the house at 6.45am. When I get to the other end I have a choice of two buses which run every 6 mins and I am dropped outside the entrance to the retail park.

Did a recce today - even going inside the store to find the lay of the land. I 'mystery shopped' them too because I decided to have lunch there. I then wandered into the huge Home Sense store next door - managed not to spend any cash in there despite seeing stuff that I liked:j Discovered that the bus back terminates at my local railway station which was handy as I needed to go into Mr S's to use their loo and to buy some birthday cards.

ellie99

Hope you're feeling okay today Lavender Bees.
I remember you talking about singlies day ages ago, when it seemed like November was a long time away.

LavenderBees wrote: »

So, whether it's a long soaky bath with a glass of wine and a good book, as few chores as possible, a walk in the sunshine...a lovely Sunday roast....whatever floats your boat... I am now declaring "SINGLIES DAY IS OPEN" :T

Go to it...Singlies of the MSE World...what will you do with YOUR day? :beer:

I like all these ideas

I've had a long day at work, and to put it politely, feel too pooped to do anything, even pampering myself. Flat out refused to cook, so DS1 put pizzas in the oven.

Therefore I'm going to have my own personal "singlies day" on Sunday (working tomorrow too). I like the idea of a whole singlies weekend

I may do something creative for a change. I've been making a big effort the last couple of weeks to get all the must do jobs done in the house, to give me more time to do stuff I want to do. I'd like every room in the house to be "finished and tidy" at the same time, that's not too much to ask, is it? Have managed to get a lot done.

Think I'll also dye my hair, and go out if the weather's good.
Might have takeaway as a treat (don't tell the dieting thread!)

Haven't done anything worth reporting recently, but have been trying to read along. I crave a quiet and peaceful few weeks, but have adult children who have different ideas. Tomorrow they and their friends will spend the day at my house...they're big and they make a mess and they eat a lot :rotfl:

And as a singlie parent I feel totally outnumbered :rotfl: