I think IVF has cost me my friendship

poet123

From what you have said you have nothing to reproach yourself for. Your friend is being totally unreasonable.

myonlysunshine

Derby2..
Nothing to add to the great advice you have received, just wanted to say what a lovely considerate person you are and I wish you well with your IVF treatment, fingers crossed for you

ostrichnomore_2

Your 'friend' is horrible.

She's forgotten what is important. A child. A lifetime. A marriage (NOT a wedding day). Her priorities are all wrong and she is a bridezilla. She's the one who's damaged your friendship, not you. Her complaints are totally unreasonable in every way. How dare she complain about you having to leave the reception a bit early when you could have been miscarrying? I'd be really angry if I were you. This is no friend.

shrimpy_80

Hi Derby

I wonder if there is an element of fear and insecurity on your friend's part? You mentioned that your friend doesn't want to have children, perhaps deep down she is worried about what will happen to your friendship when you become a parent and is acting out in this way as a result?

I'm not in any way trying to excuse her behaviour which I agree is completely unacceptable, but if she is a good friend then presumably this selfishness is out of character? Either way you do need to prioritise yourself and do whatever will give you the greatest peace of mind at the moment, whether that is giving her some space or telling her how you feel. Just to reiterate though, you have absolutely not done anything wrong here. Your friend's behaviour smacks of immaturity.

Wishing you all the best x

emmaj30

Friendship is a two way thing. Her wedding however important to her and also to you , on that particular day wasnt at the forefront of you mind. It must of been worrying for you to get spotting that morning and for you have to gone through all this IVF your anxieties must of been heightened!
I agree with everyone that your friend is being completely selfish and thoughtless. The most worrying thing is though she seems to blame the whole thing on you when in fact the most important thing was for her to have a good day with her husband!!! Take care of yourself and hope everything goes well with your treatment. At the end of the day you have to think of yourself and if she continues to be !!!!!y or not listen to you/selfish then you need to consider if shes worth having as a friend!!