Everything Leads Into The (new year) Elite thread

EMMAP

Yeah surely the biggest lesson he'll learn is to take care and that people are !!!!!!. Treating him like a kid isn't going to help matters- let him learn a very grown up lesson.

TrulyMadly

buyitall wrote: »

Could any of you give me some advice please?
Have just found out that my 14 yr old son was stupid enough to take his wallet to school yesterday (he needed £2, was running late, so just picked up his wallet). Wallet contained £200 - all of his Xmas and birthday money. He was also idiotic enough to leave it in school changing rooms while he played in a basketball match after school. Needless to say - wallet stolen
He has confessed to DH while they are out, he will be back in approx 30 mins and I am totally furious with him - all kinds of sanctions are running through my mind - grounded for X amount of time/ no more basketball for the rest of school year/has to do chores to the value of the money lost etc etc.
Do you agree that he should be punished for leaving his wallet unattended?
All sensible suggestions considered ....
Thanks for any advice, I am really struggling to rationalise this one. Obviously the thief is to blame, but son does know that things get stolen from school changing rooms. Will ring school tomorrow, but he has told teachers today and I don't think anything can be done xx

Oh dear...think he will need lots of hugs from you:o

He will feel terrible enough losing all his money without further "punishment"........my opinion only:o

I would suggest a serious talk and lots of love and support. He will look back on it as one of those life's lessons.....learning the hard way unfortunately:o

So sorry it's happened but just try and find some positives....a lesson learnt......and help him to get over it

locarr

buyitall wrote: »

Could any of you give me some advice please?
Have just found out that my 14 yr old son was stupid enough to take his wallet to school yesterday (he needed £2, was running late, so just picked up his wallet). Wallet contained £200 - all of his Xmas and birthday money. He was also idiotic enough to leave it in school changing rooms while he played in a basketball match after school. Needless to say - wallet stolen
He has confessed to DH while they are out, he will be back in approx 30 mins and I am totally furious with him - all kinds of sanctions are running through my mind - grounded for X amount of time/ no more basketball for the rest of school year/has to do chores to the value of the money lost etc etc.
Do you agree that he should be punished for leaving his wallet unattended?
All sensible suggestions considered ....
Thanks for any advice, I am really struggling to rationalise this one. Obviously the thief is to blame, but son does know that things get stolen from school changing rooms. Will ring school tomorrow, but he has told teachers today and I don't think anything can be done xx

Unfortunately it's one of those things that he/you will have to chalk up to experience...frustrating that it is....punishing him won't really make any difference and he's prob feeling pretty carp already....

hope you get the money back!!:)

Enterprise_1701C

BIG_MOC wrote: »

Aah bless him.. I don't usually comment but I'm sure he feels bad enough and losing the money is quite a harsh punishment on it's own

tell me to shut it if you wish

I have to admit I was thinking the same.

TrulyMadly

streetlights wrote: »

Hi TrulyMadly is that the one were you start false laughing and it's just meant to catch on. some team building exercises are made to make you squirm I am sure there is someone getting a kick out of them .

Yes it was hideous:eek:

diluvsdiscounts

My quidco cashback has now tracked and I have entered my bank details and it says it will be in my bank within 5 working days.

I have looked in on this thread over the past few months but found it impossible to keep up with but whilst off over christmas I have tried and up until now I seem to be keeping up.

I managed a green redeem voucher but cannot find any leaflets in store but we don't have a self scan anyway.

Can I ask what 10 ways is?



I must also apologize that I only remember to press the thanks button every blue moon but I am getting better at remembering.

buyitall

Thanks for the advice, I know how great the advice always is on here which is why I asked :A:A
It is probably a good thing that he is out and I have had some time to think about it - OH is much more level-headed than me (which is probably why he chose to tell his Dad first!)
He has previously had a watch stolen from school changing room, which is why it is so frustrating. He says that yesterday he handed his watch in for safe keeping but forgot about the wallet as he usually doesn't take a wallet to school and left that in his blazer pocket :mad::mad:

Shortfatscotsbloke

buyitall wrote: »

Could any of you give me some advice please?
Have just found out that my 14 yr old son was stupid enough to take his wallet to school yesterday (he needed £2, was running late, so just picked up his wallet). Wallet contained £200 - all of his Xmas and birthday money. He was also idiotic enough to leave it in school changing rooms while he played in a basketball match after school. Needless to say - wallet stolen
He has confessed to DH while they are out, he will be back in approx 30 mins and I am totally furious with him - all kinds of sanctions are running through my mind - grounded for X amount of time/ no more basketball for the rest of school year/has to do chores to the value of the money lost etc etc.
Do you agree that he should be punished for leaving his wallet unattended?
All sensible suggestions considered ....
Thanks for any advice, I am really struggling to rationalise this one. Obviously the thief is to blame, but son does know that things get stolen from school changing rooms. Will ring school tomorrow, but he has told teachers today and I don't think anything can be done xx

I think only you know the right thing to do.

I'd be thinking, does he take his wallet to school all the time and like having cash on him? If yes, throw the book at him.

If he normally leaves his wallet at home and is happy to go to school with just a couple of quid, this is a complete accident and hopefully he will learn from it when he can't buy himself the playstation or xbox games or mobile phone or whatever.

As I said, I think only you know whether this was down to absolute stupidity or a complete accident.

Thankfully my kids are only 5 and 7 so I don't have to cope with this kind of thing yet..:D:D

rebeccalb

buyitall wrote: »

Could any of you give me some advice please?
Have just found out that my 14 yr old son was stupid enough to take his wallet to school yesterday (he needed £2, was running late, so just picked up his wallet). Wallet contained £200 - all of his Xmas and birthday money. He was also idiotic enough to leave it in school changing rooms while he played in a basketball match after school. Needless to say - wallet stolen
He has confessed to DH while they are out, he will be back in approx 30 mins and I am totally furious with him - all kinds of sanctions are running through my mind - grounded for X amount of time/ no more basketball for the rest of school year/has to do chores to the value of the money lost etc etc.
Do you agree that he should be punished for leaving his wallet unattended?
All sensible suggestions considered ....
Thanks for any advice, I am really struggling to rationalise this one. Obviously the thief is to blame, but son does know that things get stolen from school changing rooms. Will ring school tomorrow, but he has told teachers today and I don't think anything can be done xx

Take it from someone who did the same thing when they were a teenager (£100 not £200 though). He's going to feel absolutely terrible. Comfort him cause shouting will make him feel worse, it made me did. Talk to school, they may say something in assembly.

locarr

buyitall wrote: »

Thanks for the advice, I know how great the advice always is on here which is why I asked :A:A
It is probably a good thing that he is out and I have had some time to think about it - OH is much more level-headed than me (which is probably why he chose to tell his Dad first!)
He has previously had a watch stolen from school changing room, which is why it is so frustrating. He says that yesterday he handed his watch in for safe keeping but forgot about the wallet as he usually doesn't take a wallet to school and left that in his blazer pocket :mad::mad:

I would ask the school why the changing rooms aren't locked/supervised too...

some proper scumbags about unfortunately....