The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

Barny1979

21/25 AFDs today, third smiley of the month

maggiesoup1

10/15 for me please Shaggy.

Honey_Bear

cathybird wrote: »

I hope no one minds my going on at length about stuff - it's actually really helpful to put it down and reading everyone else's thoughts is very motivating. Not trying to suggest anyone else should tackle it the way I do - it's just about what I find useful.

No one minds, and if it helps you, you should post as often and as much about anything you want or need to say. This thread is a safe place where people can say whatever they want about themselves and give support to anyone who is going through a tricky time. None of us will ever know if what gets said here helps anyone who may read and run without contributing, and there are a lot of lurkers on the thread.

Personally, without this thread and the contributions that people have made to this and the older ones, I seriously question whether I could have stopped and stayed stopped. It all helps.

Dizzy_Imp wrote: »

I am reading everyone's posts but not in the right place to offer anything constructive, so keeping shtum. 24/31 please Shaggy. I'm going to do this whole month even if it kills me.

I bet you can't wait for January to be over, Dizzy, but good on you for staying strong. (((hugs)))

Poppety wrote: »

I think it's wonderful that people come into this group and are able to say what they need to say. This is serious stuff. We're not talking about whether to watch corrie or eastenders, we're talking about stuff that changes lives. And in some cases potentially saves them. Out of control drinking is not good. That's why we're here and why we it's important that nobody feels they need to say sorry for long rants, or worry that people don't want to listen or understand.

So hearing your stories like visits to AA, like bad relationships, sad illnesses is all essential to our mutual healing. People's fears and worries can be seen more clearly by the author of them and it brings relief both to themselves and to those who tread the same path.

I for one embrace all the different threads of your lives and feel a great respect for anyone trying to help themselves. Inevitably there will be slip ups, trip ups and some tremendous tumbles along the way, but it's the getting up and trying again that makes us stronger.

Thank you everyone for sharing.

Kind regards
Poppety:)

Just wanted to say - I echo every single words of that, Poppety. Well said.

It's true, Stupotstu and Alex, the relationship isn't the same after a really bad drink-fuelled incident. However, if we're with the right person and work at dealing with what's gone wrong in the past, it can recover and be something else.

In my case, it's better. I'm finding hidden depths of strength in our revamped relationship and it's much, much better than in my drinking days.

It's completely worth it. As for never drinking again, Stupotstu, it didn't take me long to realise that what had been an impossible idea at the beginning was actually an ideal idea. I truly, truly don't mind in the slightest that I won't have another drink, and don't want to go back to being or living like that. (I know, I know, never say never and all that, but it's as close as I can get to that.)

The cravings go with time and if we accept that there are things in life we have to work at, we're up there with Olympic athletes, people who have PhDs and anyone and everyone else who's ever been good at anything.

shaggydoo

Morning :hello:

1 more AFD for yesterday.



Shaggyx

shaggydoo

January:

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF
= 28 days AF

= 31 days AF

= target achieved


Alcohol Free Days

Alex 6/28
Barny1979 21/25
CathyBird 24/31
CountingPenniesClaire 20/27
DansMam 21/31
DebJay 24/31
DizzyImp 24/31
Doshwaster 17/24
Effyb4 9/20
[Deleted User] 21/31
Gien 21/31
Honey Bear 24/31

HR_money /31

JHiggins 3/23

Jjef /18

JulieTheMuse 18/24

Lincs 4/31
Mackeroo 10/10
Maggie 10/15
Maman 8/10

Mari 1/20
NewMe 18/23

PenniesFromHeaven 6/23
Piggles 14/18

Poppety 6/11
Pricey 14/20
Satchmo 23/31
SandyPan 14/29
Shaggy 11/17
SmallHoldingSister 23/31
Smiley_77 15/31
StuPotStu 21/31

WBF 2/10
Yellowmonkey 24/31
Alcohol Low Days

Shaggy 18/23




Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

Please highlight your AFDs in Red

Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!

shaggydoo

Roll up, Roll up. A New Month, A New Challenge.

SET YOUR

29 days up for grabs!

Everyone Welcome!!!

New_Me

19/23 for tonight
Feb target of 20 days please

Thanks

smiley_77

Hi and happy Monday (is there such a thing?).

I have had my first weekend of non drinking this weekend and I feel great! I am going to do the same thing this weekend too (if I write it down then it will be true-yes?).
Today is 17/31 for February 29/29 days.Eeek

debjay

25/31 for tonight please. Aiming for 29 days for Feb please Shaggy. Thanks as always for keeping score.

satchmo1

Drat. Wrote a longish post and lost it.


24/31 AFDs today.


Can I set a target of 29 AFDs for February - 2016 is a Leap Year. As Easter comes early this year, there's a ready-made reason to give to family and friends for abstention, if you want/need one. Ash Wednesday is 10th February, Easter Sunday is 27th March.