The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

heath480

Wising you well at your meeting tonight stupotstu.


I have been going to AA since 2003,haven't needed to drink since my first meeting.

maman

Good luck with your meeting stupotstu. I hope you get the support you want and remember you have ours too.:)


I'm full of admiration for those doing Dry January but wanted to say how much I also admire those who've had the odd blip but are pressing on regardless.:T Any AF days are progress if you haven't had any before. Any lurkers who think they've blown it, there are still 10 days left to add to your total or even start!!


I'm declaring for today. I'm going to the theatre tonight and I'm not having a drink in the interval (and I'll do my best to stay away from the ice cream too;)).


8 AFDs please Shaggy.

Poppety

So, yesterday was a bum day at work, frustrating and demoralising. I came home to find my youngest son had failed one of his A level mocks completely and that led to a minorish but slightly damaging exchange of words. I went downstairs to grab a drink but went for a walk in the cold and dark instead. I calmed down but still fancied a drink.
When I got home I tried to talk to him again. Bad move. I ended up at the fish and chip shop this time, not having the energy or inclination to cook.
Returned home to open a bottle of prosecco. Now this is the point where I would normally have no problem finishing off the bottle. But I didn't. I drank exactly 3 units and no more. Bottle now in fridge door to share with my daughter on Friday night.
Whilst I'm really hacked off for having any, especially when it's down to stress levels, I am cutting myself some slack ( not something I often do) and congratulating myself for stopping at the right time.
Tonight I am meant to be meeting an old colleague for a drink and a catch up in the pub. It was meant to be one of my two drinking nights this week. however, having slipped off the AF last night I sent a text to my friend saying I would be on the orange juice and explained why. Guess what's? She said she'd be the same because she had a few last night too. Pressure off. If I hadn't declared it to her I think we would have both been drinking tonight.

Sorry for the long post but I feel that if I explain then I have got it off my chest. And as no one is the least judgemental on here, I feel brave enough to do so.

Thank you everyone and I hope the AA went well for you stupotstu.

Kind regards
Poppety

[Deleted User]

Sending you best wishes for your meeting stupotstu and massive congrats Poppety on showing such restraint with just the 3 units, don't be too hard on yourself you did brilliantly, I'm not sure I could have been that strong willed!

I have a hacking cough today so there's no way I will be thinking about wine o'clock today so on that note I'm calling an early21/31

gien

Good luck for the meeting Stupotstu, come back and tell us how you get on.

shaggydoo

Afternoon :hello:

1 more AFD for yesterday.



Shaggyx

shaggydoo

January:

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF
= 28 days AF

= 31 days AF

= target achieved


Alcohol Free Days

Alex 2/28
Barny1979 16/25
CathyBird 20/31
CountingPenniesClaire 16/27
DansMam 18/31
DebJay 20/31
DizzyImp 20/31
Doshwaster 17/24
Effyb4 8/20
[Deleted User] 21/31
Gien 18/20
Honey Bear 21/31

HR_money /31

JHiggins 3/23

Jjef /18

JulieTheMuse 18/24

Lincs 4/31
Mackeroo 8/10
Maggie 7/15
Maman 8/10

Mari 1/20
NewMe 16/23

PenniesFromHeaven 6/23
Piggles 9/18

Poppety 3/11
Pricey 14/20
Satchmo 19/31
SandyPan 14/29
Shaggy 9/17
SmallHoldingSister 19/31

Smiley_77 6/31
StuPotStu 17/31

WBF 2/10
Yellowmonkey 20/31

Alcohol Low Days

Shaggy 16/23




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piggles1

Honey_Bear wrote: »

For anyone who's surprised by how much more they're eating while doing Dry January - don't worry. You're not damaging your system, you're topping up your sugar levels because your body is used to absorbing a shedload of calories from the booze. If you try to tackle more than one bad habit at a time, your chance of failing skyrockets.

Just be amazed at how well you're doing on the booze front and enjoy the chocolate/crisps/whatever, and be proud of what you've achieved so far.

Slightly worried we haven't heard from Piggles for a day or three.

21/31 please, Shaggy.

thanks for thinking of me Honey Bear

I'm drowning here, not in alcohol fortunately although that's has a bit of a look in but in things that need doing.

I've still got the funeral to go, and the journey fills me with panic, although I can see the good side of being with all the people and seeing if the close ones are ok. I have to do lots of things that I never do because they're too traumatic for me. I'll be with people, but not sure how many I know, and I'm trying not to think about it too much, or the journey. Where most people would think ooh! complicated! I think massive danger. Even my therapist said cliches about the actual event and didn't give me any coping mechanisms to get there

As with all counselling I have they start to forget about the actual reason I'm there and talk in general cliches they think apply to everyone instead of dealing with the actual things I suffer from. I tried to get more in depth therapy but that's not available.

I also tried to join a waiting list to move where I probably need to for therapy, but that's a no go. I've tried to start packing but got not much enthusiasm for it because I don't know where I'm going. I had a parcel for delivery of all the packing stuff to get that over with but it's got delayed by an extra day and clashes with something else.

After that I've got 4 appointments all in quick succession so no let up, and two aren't that near, and in the middle more housey applying. I'm pretty worn down now and not even finished with it all.

I've tried to not drink but after two days AF I drink again. Not I don't think to the extent of thinking I'll drink as much as I want, which is good, but a tiny bit too much. It's a case of rather a lot going on I think and struggling with my sleep.

I didn't want to post such a miserable load of stuff so fell silent I was awake at 7am this morning and my garden was all white with frost, and the sun was rising and the sky red. It looked lovely small things I can appreciate in the middle of huge bothers!

I wanted two smileys but last night was another day I had wine. Tonight I hope not to be but I won't count it yet. Ergh, feel a bit better just typing this out.

Thanks for the sugar levels comments as well Honey Bear. I've got through no end of choccy biscuits and I never had a sweet tooth before! But each biccy must mean I haven't had sugar from alcohol so that's a nice reminder.

13/18 AFD please shaggy

maggiesoup1

Sorry to hear of your troubles Piggles1 but don't beat yourself up . You will find the right time to stop for longer. Not sure if you want to give up completely but, as suggested by another poster, I'm in the middle of the book "Your 6 Week Plan" by Lucy Rocca (I think she was on the recent Channel 5 documentary "My name is... and I'm an alcoholic" It's very good and I can relate to it on so many levels.

I've never let things get too out of control with drinking, ie passing out, arguing with people, off work sick etc., it was mainly just hurting me / my health but I was drinking many times over the Govt guidelines and feeling crap every morning so I knew I had to take steps to cut out or cut back. Only time will tell. I'm seeing a friend tonight and intend to have Bicardi & cokes so it will be interesting to see how my brain reacts as I've had very little to drink in the last 2 weeks. I've had almost 10 AF days since the beginning of January which, a month ago, I would never have believed!!! I too also never ate chocolate but am now nibbling on chocolate fingers with my tea every night, it's worrying how much I look forward to them but hey ho, it's better than a bottle of wine and 3 bags of crisps! Good luck for the immediate future, one day at a time....

Well done Poppety, been there, done that, got the tee shirt. Being a mum is indeed the hardest job in the world.

Good luck Stupotstu, I've driven passed our local AA meeting place hundreds of times and thought about going in but always too embarrassed that I might know someone. I'm not saying I wont in the future, but time will tell.

Shaggy, I'm missing one night, I should be 9/15 thanks!

maman

piggles1 wrote: »

I've got through no end of choccy biscuits and I never had a sweet tooth before! But each biccy must mean I haven't had sugar from alcohol so that's a nice reminder.

What a brilliant thought!!:T
Thanks for posting piggles. You do have a massive amount on your plate at the moment but you'll get there:).