The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

maman

5 AF for me as of today, please Shaggy.


I think this month a smilie is about all I can hope for.

Honey_Bear

satchmo1 wrote: »

I went to a very energetic Zumba class tonight - why does that make me want to eat sweets (I resisted).

I noticed that when I used to go to Aquafit, when I came home I used to have the most massive breakfast - totally useless in terms of losing weight. Apparently it's quite normal to eat like a little piggywig after vigorous exercise.

Much safer to just stay at home and exercise gently by lifting your right arm to swig your AF tipple of choice and when you really feel the need to do something - not that this happens very often with me - doing the washing up. I tend to have a quick rub down with the Radio Times and a lie down until the feeling passes, anyway.

10/30 please, Shaggy.

Barny1979

Double figure day 10/30 AFDs

safehouse

Hello everyone and well done on your quests, I don't know if this will make me feel any better but I thought I should write this down, also I am not so sure what people might make of it, but here goes. My OH is a lovely man, he works hard, running his own business, which can be stressful beyond belief at times and loves us, myself and our DS also very much I’m sure. The problem is he has a severe alcohol problem, he has had for years and so we have had our major ups and downs especially when it comes to him being sensible with money, I believe the cost must total around £200 a month if not more on alcohol alone. About 10 years ago I started having nightmares they always involved us losing our house, these nightmares plague me even now. When these nightmares started I knew I had to do something I love my house it truly is my little castle. P has no idea what our income is and what our outgoings are, he just leaves things to me, so it’s easy to put every spare bit of money to one side without his knowledge.I know this sounds terrible, it’s totally deceitful but P refuses to get help, he refuses to admit there is even a problem which is why I resorted to saving without his knowledge. I love P very much and hate that I have gone behind his back, I feel guilty beyond belief, but if he knew the amount of cash I have saved for the mortgage I’m sure he wouldn’t be so inclined to go to work and stay at home , which means more time to drink. I feel nasty even writing this but I have to look out for our future and our son’s future. I have been storing away money like a little hamster now for years, it is in a bond and in my DS name in case anything happens to either of us. The last 10 years I have worn mainly second hand clothes, I hardly go out, but if I do I wont spend much and I rarely treat myself as this would be totally unfair to P. We have an interest only mortgage and 14 years to pay it off, or that’s it out on our ears. We will be almost 60 then and probably too old to get another mortgage so what else could I do. I have a shortfall now of 27,590 and I really believe with a lot of determination, frugal living and hard work I can be mortgage free in 5 years. Another 5 years of keeping this secret that is what is going to be the hardest. Believe me I am doing this for my OH interests at heart, and pray for the day I can finally tell him the mortgage is paid in full and we own our house hopefully 2020. If this makes me a bad person I don’t know……..


CC 5,976.84 MORTGAGE 27,590

WantToBeSE

Hi Everyone

Not having an AF day today, as my friends are coming for dinner so i bought a few bottles for us to share. I am sure i'll have a couple of glasses.

Alchemilla

God bless safehouse and hugs.

10/30 AF. Thanks for the smiley Shaggy!

debjay

8/22 for tonight please.

satchmo1

Sending you big hugs, Safehouse. You are carrying the heavy burden of a loved ones alcoholism. Have you checked out AlAnon?

safehouse

Thanks for your lovely replies xx

newroadahead

((((((Hugs )))))) safe house I really hope you situation will improve
Well I cant believe I had another AF last night maybe due to one of my best friends and I chatting on the phone for nearly 2 hours :rotfl:
So that's 5/10 for me

Have a good day all
NRA xxxx