The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

Barny1979

14/31 AFDs and second smiley day

jimmy*c

5/21 please shaggy. Unfortunately failed with smoking... it was so very hard to kick both at the same time but hey ho, managed 4 days.Still no beer woooo!

Dizzy_Imp

13/24 for me please

graemecarter

jimmy*c wrote: »

5/21 please shaggy. Unfortunately failed with smoking... it was so very hard to kick both at the same time but hey ho, managed 4 days.Still no beer woooo!

Understandable. Quitting both smoking and drinking simultaneously is extremely difficult, and I don't think it would have been possible for me to do that , no matter what the doctor said to me.

I smoked ciggies when I started being alcohol free (was about 15 a day) and the advice I was given was that

• Ciggies will not cause you to lose your job. Alcohol will
• Your wife won't leave you beucase of smoking. She will if you carry on drinking
• By themselves, cigarettes will not give you a huge hangover, make you vomit, wet yourself, behave inappropriately towards people
• Cigarettes are unlikely to kill you in the next few years. Alcohol is far more likely

I was told to tackle the addictions that are killing you the quickest.
Thus I stopped drinking (with help) and then a year and a few months later, tackled the smokes.

I am still addicted to both, though no longer crave either and haven't put alcohol or nicotine in my system for a few years now. It is possible.

Just my experience. Good luck.

Honey_Bear

shaggydoo wrote: »

My boobs gotta clean bill of health - so that's that done for another 3 years :j



Having a long weekend away from tomorrow - so won't be posting until Monday.

Shaggyx

All marvellous stuff and thank you for telling us you'd got the all clear. Have a lovely break.

satchmo1 wrote: »

5/12 AFDs for yesterday. Husband isn't any better/nicer. We had tickets to see Gregory Porter for last night, which we've had since it was postponed from November last year. I knew he wouldn't go. At just after 6pm, I asked him what time we should set off (in order to make him tell me what he was doing without actually asking him if he was going). Of course he told me he wasn't going.

I spoke to the ladies on the box office and said I had a ticket to sell. At 7:25 a lady bought the ticket, hurray. Now, my dilemma is, do I give husband the money (after all he paid in the first place) or keep it because he was prepared to lose the money anyway??? Conscience says give it to him, hurt feelings say keep it.

I thoroughly enjoyed the concert, the lady who bought the ticket wasn't chatty (I tried) but the lady on the other side of me was so we laughed and commended and cheered together.

As I was going to my car afterwards, I had a voicemail message from a very confused/upset mum, who had gone to sleep (I guess at about 8.30) and woken soon afterwards but because it was light thought it was morning. She's in respite care atm. I rang her back and talked with her until she was calmer - I think the best thing I did was to say the Our Father prayer with her, remembering that that had often helped when she was ill last year. I know it helped me last night.

The power of prayer. I'm never too sure about my religious beliefs but I know that praying works and a prayer is never wasted.

Tricky one about the money. There are several considerations that spring to mind. It was his money when he spent it - but he chose to spend it that way and then chose not to use the product purchased which was time-limited and therefore of no value at all once the concert finished. If you gave the money to a charity that you support would that satisfy your conscience because that way you don't profit from it personally - other than a feeling of knowing you've done some good? You were the one that went to trouble to ensure the experience of enjoying the event went to someone who appreciated it, so if you give the money back to him, he's free to let you down again, and he 'profits' from it. Just as an additional consideration, did he buy the tickets as a treat for you to look forward to, or is he too ill to understand that he would have enjoyed it because it was something he wanted to do when he was well but now can't.

Whatever you do, it has to be something that leaves you feeling good about yourself.

Jimmy, Shaggy's nicotine withdrawal information is spot on. Apparently, the secret to stopping is to never give up on giving up - eventually, you will succeed. I don't know anyone who stopped the first time they tried. Once you've realised you want to be a non-smoker it is only a matter of when you stop, not if.

Calling early agian, 15/31 please, Shaggy. Now that OH is away I'm going to bed really early with a good book and getting a lot of sleep; I'm not even bothering with B3ck$ B1u3 even though there are two or three in the fridge. (A complete transformation from this time last year.)

satchmo1

Thank you for your wise words Honeybear xx

Barny1979

15/31 AFDs and 3kgs lost too!!

debjay

Forgot to post last night but on 8/20 for last night please.

Startinglate

Nothing to add I'm afraid (must do better). I have a very social weekend coming up so I don't think tonight, Sat and Sunday will be AF. Although saying that; I haven't had a drink yet and that's unusual for the end of the working week. I think it's probably because my husband is out this evening and I'm going to have dinner on a tray; could I do it? Probably not but I'm definitely going to drink less than I usually do this evening. Anyway I just wanted to post to wish support to all of us on this journey.

Fruball

satchmo1 wrote: »

Feeling alone. Husband is being hateful. I've asked mum to go to respite care so that she doesn't have to endure this poisonous atmosphere, and so that I'm not torn between them. Ashamed to say I've taken refuge in the wine bottle, which I'll pay for in the morning

How are you feeling now Satch? Sending hugs ((( )))

1 more for me please making 8 total.

Liver test came back slightly raised as I expected. It was last time too and I wasn't a drinker then! My Dad always had higher than normal liver test results and he didn't drink. They said that the fact I am 4st overweight would contribute to the results and the fact i am dieting (8lbs down so far) will help.