The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

gien

Well Done Shaggy on the full monty:j:j

that's real an achievement.

Can I set my target to 23 for May please? Today I had wine with my dinner (it's a holiday here for Mayday), so nothing to add yet but tomorrow should be AF I hope.

good luck everyone with your targets

graemecarter

Slowdown wrote: »

And why? Stress, take the edge of things, help relax. I feel I have let myself down but I really don't know how to do something else in that situation.

Sorry for rambling, just had to get it off my chest. Hoping for a more civilised day today. A trip to the gym tonight should keep me off the red stuff tonight.

Before I changed my thinking and my actions, I had no way of letting off steam unless alcohol was involved. The thought of not drinking was an unpleasant one, and I thought I'd be stressed and uptight all the time without drink.

That's not the way it has turned out luckily, but the desire to drink is centered in my mind, so it's my thinking that I needed to change.
My alcoholic mind cannot just cure itself (bad thinking cannot cure bad thinking) so it was actions that I needed. Good actions leads to good thinking.
I previously had disdain for anyone who used meditation, talking to others, walking, etc to let off steam, but these are the methods I
employ myself now...

Alcohol told me that I needed to drink, but that's a load of nonsense. Alcohol is a liar!

Guinness-Cat

Managed to finish April on 6/15 so not a total disaster.

No drinkies last night, so starting May in a positive way 1/15

Best wishes to all

satchmo1

Hi GraemeCarter, your wisdom has been missed x

Fruball

Ruby58 wrote: »

1/16 for me please Shaggy.

WBF yes I appreciated your post about rambling. Also I'm with those who drink at the end of a stressful day and to escape feelings when they are too much. I think we know it is no good in the long term but very tempting in the short term. I have resisted coming on here and rambling when I'm struggling. Perhaps I should and maybe it will help me get a better total. My best friend passed away last year and I don't really have anyone I confide in anymore.

I'm away now for the next 3 days visiting family and friends. Just wondering could I make at least one of those days AF? We'll see.

Have a great bank holiday weekend everyone.

Sorry to read about your best friend passing away. Losing your confidant is so hard. Hugs x

satchmo1 wrote: »

Hi GraemeCarter, your wisdom has been missed x

Agreed! Thanks for sharing your sober wisdom with us! It is much appreciated

Barny1979

2/25 AFDs tonight

debjay

Barny1979 wrote: »

2/25 AFDs tonight

Snap 2/25 for me too

satchmo1

1 AFD to kick start May, I haven't yet set a target but will aim for 20 please

Slowdown

graemecarter wrote: »

Before I changed my thinking and my actions, I had no way of letting off steam unless alcohol was involved. The thought of not drinking was an unpleasant one, and I thought I'd be stressed and uptight all the time without drink.

That's not the way it has turned out luckily, but the desire to drink is centered in my mind, so it's my thinking that I needed to change.
My alcoholic mind cannot just cure itself (bad thinking cannot cure bad thinking) so it was actions that I needed. Good actions leads to good thinking.
I previously had disdain for anyone who used meditation, talking to others, walking, etc to let off steam, but these are the methods I
employ myself now...

Alcohol told me that I needed to drink, but that's a load of nonsense. Alcohol is a liar!

You are, of course, right with your words of wisdom. I do need to change the way I think about alcohol. It's a crutch. A friend. Self medication. It's not an enjoyable supplement to life. It's more of an essential than that. I have a stressful day and I think about having a drink and it helps me get to the end of the day.

I have never needed a drink to get through the day but I have needed a drink at the end of it.

I am pleased to say I had a couple tonight but stopped at 9.30 and had a cuppa. I really didn't want more. Not sure what will happen tomorrow. I'm hoping to stay off it so my next planned night will seem more enjoyable.

Thanks for listening everyone. I do appreciate it.

Kind regards
Slowdown:)

Wanna_Bee_Free

1/14 AFD to start May off so far.