Have you ever received gifts you have given someone, back as a gift?

*max*

springdreams wrote: »

You are entitled to your opinion, and I am entitled to mine.

No need for you to ! at me :mad:

Pardon? Are you cross because I used an exclamation point?

Top_Girl

GlynD wrote: »

I've never had the same present back but I found myself in the situation this year just gone whereby I'd given someone the same present as they gave me, which was embarrassing.

My best friend and I give each other multiple presents but always up to £30 so it tends to be one biggish gift and a couple of bits.

One year, we both boosted the pile with a Desperate Housewives book from the pound shop! Luckily it's a 21 year friendship so we both just cracked up

Top_Girl

This year I was given a smellies set from a family member that had blatantly been opened and resealed. I know this because the list on the back of the contents was upside down.

I binned it. Shame as they give me smellies I can't use (sensitive skin) every year and I usually give them to a charity raffle at work but I don't think I'd be comfortable giving them something that had been opened.

springdreams

*max* wrote: »

Pardon? Are you cross because I used an exclamation point?

The tone implied by your inclusion of "actually!" is very unfriendly.

This is abrasive and unfriendly, and suggests that I said no-one or most people don't have a problem with re-gifting, when what I said was I don't have a problem with it:

I do think there is something wrong with re-gifting, actually!

This would have been friendly:

I do think there is something wrong with re-gifting.

Georgiegirl256

*max* wrote: »

I do think there is something wrong with re-gifting, actually!
If you don't like something, you smile and look grateful, then maybe put the gift away. It would never, ever cross my mind to give someone something I was given previously, nevermind on purpose - even if I hated it. Maybe all of you get so many gifts from so many different people that you can't tell who it's from after a while. Even so...

I really don't get why anyone would think regifting is wrong? IMO, what use is a gift having been shoved in a cupboard or draw? It just sits there not getting used, might as well give it to someone who will use it.

I once got a handbag off my BIL & SIL which to anyone who knew me (apart from them obviously!), could see that it was not my taste or style. So, I gave it to my Mam who loved it, and still uses it all the time years later. Much better than having it sit in a cupboard.

Goldiegirl

I don't think re-gifting is exactly wrong, but I think, especially at Christmas, there's a lot of gift giving for the sake of it. Most of the time it seems as if people are giving anything they can lay their hands on for gifts, regardless of whether it's suitable for the person it's being given to.

I have visions of things being passed from hand to hand until someone finally likes it, or bins it.

Buzzybee90

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I really don't get why anyone would think regifting is wrong? IMO, what use is a gift having been shoved in a cupboard or draw? It just sits there not getting used, might as well give it to someone who will use it.

I once got a handbag off my BIL & SIL which to anyone who knew me (apart from them obviously!), could see that it was not my taste or style. So, I gave it to my Mam who loved it, and still uses it all the time years later. Much better than having it sit in a cupboard.

I'd have a problem if I'd spent time and effort (not to mention money!) on someone and they just gave me something they had received before and disliked.

That's not the same as passing something on because you knew someone would like it, even if you didn't (e.g. Not as a Christmas/birthday present).

Sally22_2

I have seen something I bought for someone in my family in another family members house. I knew it was what I had bought as it was quite unique (not generic smellies for example) and I was a little upset as I bought the original person the gift as I thought they would like it, spent time money and effort to get them something they would like for them to just give it away!

I think they thought I wouldnt find out but I didnt confront them about it. Just thought to myself that I wouldnt make effort or spend as much next time!

JELLYBABY_2

I gave my sister one of those large mugs complete with hot chocolate powder, marshmallows, chocolate spoon - I'm sure you know what kind of thing I mean. All wrapped up prettily in cellophane and a bow.

I received it back the following year. Recognised it immediately. Kept my face neutral, did the whole 'Oooh yummy, hot chocolate' speech.
Obviously that made it worse as she retorted quite loudly that it was indeed lovely but she couldn't possibly have it as there was a mention of nuts in the ingredients.

My sister is not allergic to nuts!

I think nuts were the last ingredient on the list and probably some sprinkles or something.

It's true what they say, you can choose your friends but not your family.


I would stop buying presents; they are obviously not worth your time or effort. Such a lot of passive aggressive people out there nowadays!

motherofstudents

Sally22 wrote: »

I have seen something I bought for someone in my family in another family members house. I knew it was what I had bought as it was quite unique (not generic smellies for example) and I was a little upset as I bought the original person the gift as I thought they would like it, spent time money and effort to get them something they would like for them to just give it away!

I think they thought I wouldnt find out but I didnt confront them about it. Just thought to myself that I wouldnt make effort or spend as much next time!

I agree with this. I received a gift at Christmas that I had given someone the previous year. I don't think it was deliberate but I had gone to a lot of trouble choosing it and thought they would really like it. In fact I remember being in the shop deliberating on whether I should get it as it was quite expensive. So in future I won't go to so much effort. Maybe not quite the Christmas spirit but there you go