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katiechoc_2

nutella meant to ask how you're doing after the house nightmare?

lazywife

Cake4brains wrote: »

Hi everyone, haven't been on in ages so Hi to any new mummy's


I would like people's opinions if that's ok. We have been invited to a relatives wedding (not til August) that is at a large hotel about 15 miles away. Most of the family are staying overnight at the hotel but I'm concerned about how this will work with the girls .


The wedding party will be going on until the wee hours but the girls go to bed around 8pm on a normal night. I have checked with the hotel but they don't have a listening in service . My OH said we should take the girls to bed as normal and just keep popping back to check on them throughout the night. I'm not comfortable with that . Someone else suggested leaving OH's mobile phone in the room after calling my phone so we could use it as a kind of monitor


How would you all deal with it?


Sorry for only ever popping on here with questions, I just never get time to keep up with this thread!

Hi Cake. Hope you and the girls are doing ok. I think if you were prepared to use a listening service, then leaving OH Philemon in room calling yours would do a job (you'd have to remember to turn the call volume right down though or they would get their own mini disco in the room. I personally wouldn't leave them. Bedtime never seems to go to plan when they're somewhere new and it may well be a little noisy, so they won't be as settled. Would it be practical for one of you to sit out the evening do to be in the room with the girls (an evening of iplayer and headphones may well suck though knowing the other is partying downstairs).
I think if it was us and important for us to go to the evening do then I'd ask my Mum and Dad over for babysitting. Take the girls to the day do. Then bring them home get them settled with grandparents (or a friend) then head back over to the evening do, enjoy yourselves and even possibly stay over.

L.xxx

wendz86

Hi,

Sorry coming out of lurkville but we are going to a wedding in april with my lol who will be almost 3 . WE are planning to let her stay up till she is tired and then take it in turns to go up and sit in hotel room (my parents will be there too).

WE got married last July when she was just over 2 and she stayed awake till 11 eek but that was special circumstances.

sunshine_1988

Hi Cake, I wouldnt feel happy leaving A in the hotel room alone either. We had a similar situation when he was smaller and we took the pram, he eventually wore himself out and crashed out in the pram. After that we put the pram in the bar bit of the reception where my grandad and afew older relatives were sat. It was only in the next room and they were happy to sit there, we just kept popping back to them but he slept soundly. Would something like that work? Most receptions we go to, people of a certain age usually retire to the quieter areas when the music gets a bit much!

Hi everyone, hope everybody is well x x x

Beckyy

If something happened you'd never forgive yourselves so for that reason alone I'd let them stay up a little later then take it in turns to mind them.

Cake4brains

Thanks for your replies everyone


I cant ask my family to babysit as they will all be there. And OHs family aren't interested in even seeing the girls. His sister has seen them twice since they were born and she literally lives up the road from us . His parents passed away before we met so that only leaves his 2 grown up sons who we hardly see despite trying v hard to keep in touch with them (but that's another story!)


The girls are such light sleepers I don't think it would work having them in the pushchair in a quieter room. I think we are just going to have to take it in turns to sit with them in the bedroom.


Like katiechoc said we might be surprised how much they enjoy it and want to party! Though I'm dreading the 'sleeping' they will no doubt not want to do, cos they always sleep terribly if we have a late night.


Hope everyone is having a lovely weekend x

lao_cat

Cake so the hotel have a bank of babysitters that they can recommend? Or as the hotel is local do you have someone you could bring with you to watch the girls?

lobey

Cake, could you get your other family members who are already there to take a few shifts upstairs of 30 mins each? If they could stay up to say 8pm maybe it would only mean 3 people helping. Just an idea.

Crabapple

Bangton - me and DH are veggie and so is our 2 year old (although obv not by her own choice - we will explain when she is old enough to understand and she can decide what she wants to do then).

We thought of offering her meat and fish but we aren't confident with knowing how to prepare it either and we do know how to get a balanced diet with lentils/beans/quorn/eggs etc. She has the veggie options at nursery too. It's simpler for us to stick to what we know. As long as your baby gets a balance of protein sources then there is no need to worry if you want to avoid giving meat for a while or at all. To start with many foods you give are fruit/veg anyway.

Cake - I would agree with the keep them up if they can cope and then alternate with hubby to sit with them, or other members of the family if they will. We had my brothers wedding when my daughter was 5 months and we kept her with us until she had to go to bed, put her down, and then my mum sat with her while we returned to the party for a bit. It was hard to settle her somewhere different and I wouldn't have wanted her to wake up alone in a place she didn't know.

*Nutella*

katiechoc wrote: »

nutella meant to ask how you're doing after the house nightmare?

Thanks for asking And big thanks to everyone else too for your kind words. I had the week from hell - after our vendors pulled out on Tuesday, we managed to negotiate them back in by offering them another £15k and an additional month before completion. So we were then all set for exchange on Thursday, when they started dithering again, and on Friday morning they pulled out again! :mad: We've had a million and one excuses, none of which make sense, and it feels like I spent the whole week on the phone forth and back to the estate agents and solicitors - all of whom were absolutely fab and tried their very best I feel particularly sorry for our buyers, who had already exchanged on the flat they're selling and will have to move into rented accommodation now. Boo.

I do feel a strange sense of relief though - all the ups and downs and forth and backs have been absolutely draining. Onwards and upwards...

OH is abroad for another week (he's been away for two weeks already), and I'm quite ready for him to come back now! But LO and I have had a lovely weekend - she's so much fun at the moment (despite the odd tantrum), and is saying new words every day, as well as starting to combine words into sentences. This morning, when she'd finished her kiwi, she said 'no more! oh dear - not nice!' :rotfl:

Hope everyone else is well too - sorry I've been a bit absent recently x