MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 3

Mrshaworth2b

Yep yep yep yep yep haha. We were going to wait and do a gender reveal cake at the meal of the wedding because we only have close family and friends coming to the day, but we've decided we can't even wait a few days to do that. Haha xx

lazywife

Tee hee, love that you're so excited to find out that you can't hold it in for a few days. You'll have to make sure you fill us in too

Mrshaworth2b

Having another boy

Saffagal

Aww MrsH, that's wonderful and Congratulations for your wedding too!

I told my manager this morning as although it is very early, I need her to be aware due to the nature of my job; she was very excited and is happy for me to refer any patient's I can't see onto a colleague. She's also fine if I need to go in later/leave early depending on how I am feeling. But then she told me that she is also pregnant - 10weeks!! I'm just as pleased for her as she is for me; we've both had losses in the past so share similar fears during these early stages.

Only down side is that one of our colleagues is going to be GUTTED when she learns that we are both pregnant and (god willing) will be off at within a month of each other.

lazywife

Yey MrsH, boys are lovely aren't they

ashtray_heart

Went to GP about LO's umbilical hernia. Essentially will likely need an op but she is too small atm. Need to watch my diet carefully as gas pushes it out and she is a windy baby. Infacol definitely helping with wind. Doc suggested I co-sleep to get some rest as am BF and she still won't go in moses basket. Does anyone co-sleep and have advice?

Bangton

Congratulations saffa and MrsH! Fabulous news

lazywife

Sorry ashtray heart, we never co-slept. I think Saffagal got on well though, she'll pop on soon enough I should think.
xxx

BeNiceToMySelf

Ashtray Heart I co-slept, especially when LO went through a sleep regression at 4/5 months which lasted abut 2/3 months. Waking up about every half an hour!

Can you BF in side-lying? If not then you can go to a local baby cafe or lactation consultant for advice. Side-lying is easier to BF in. I put myself in a recovery position so I couldn't roll over onto baby when I feel asleep with him attached. If he was in bed I always kept a dim light on so I could see what I was doing and I was more aware & awake that he was there - a touch lamp can be good too.

The safety guidelines are - don't drink alcohol, don't get overtired, chuck men out the bed as they are less aware when they're asleep and don't cover baby with duvet or pillow. You can check the ISIS website for guidelines.

I think a single duvet would have been great for avoiding covering baby.

Saffagal

Ashtray Heart, lazywife is right - I did co-sleep as it was the only way I could stay sane.

I read online about all the safety guidance: never do it if you've had a drink, smoke, taken any drugs. Ensure baby doesn't get covered by your duvet/pillow and dad's can be less aware of baby than mom is. It is also safer to cosleep if you are breastfeeding than not as you are more aware of baby.

I also bought one of these that I had on the side of my bed and would put up whenever she was in with me as OH was on his side, I was in the middle and A was beside me on the outside of the bed.

I would tuck our duvet around my waist, wear a button down pj top and if necessary (more so in winter) tuck a cot blanket around my upper body to keep myself warm.

I never set out to co-sleep but initially A would not sleep in her moses basket. I started out with her sleeping on my chest whilst I was propped in a semi sitting position but this soon got uncomfy. Learning to breastfeed in side lying was definitely a lifesaver. I would lie on my side with a pillow supporting my back and A lying with her head on my upper arm and my lower arm tucked around her. To switch boobs, I would put myself in the recovery position thereby allowing access to the other side for A but preventing me from rolling onto her.

To keep her warm, I wrapped her in a blanket and as soon as she was big enough to go into a grobag she did.

I tried every night to get her into her moses basket but it was only once she was in a grobag (or equivalent) that I ever managed it. She would sleep there for a few hours then come in with us when she woke up for a feed. Once she went into her own room (outgrew the moses basket) at 12 weeks, I would do the first night feed in her room, but bring her in with me if she woke again...

Hope this is helpful, but if you've any other Q please feel free to ask x

AFM, I have been shattered this week... barely able to stay up to have a chat with OH once A is in bed. Looking forward to this tiredness easing up a little. I don't remember being this tired with A, but I didn't have an energetic small person to chase after either!

Hope that everyone has had a lovely day today