MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 3

WalkingOnADream

Long time no post! I've been reading when I can but lo is coming up to 11 months and keeping me very busy. I've come on for a bit of a whinge and some advice really.

I've been back at work for a while now but finding it really challenging to juggle everything. The house is always a tip and I'm constantly running around in circles and never seem to get on top of it. I'm condensing my work hours too so I'll work longer days but less of them so we will pay less childcare.

This has led to some disagreements beyween OH and I as I'm only working slightly fewer hours than him but will have several more days off - he keeps referring to these days off like some kind of luxury when infact I have to look after lo - to be honest I'm finding going to work easier than staying at home at the minute. I deal with all the night wakings and put lo to bed all nights bar the days I work until very late when oh has to - maybe 2 a week at most. Cue oh complaining about how tired he is and usually going to bed early the next night. But if I moan I'm tired after being up all night on a bad night I get no sympathy as I can rest on one of my many days off?! Is it just my OH that doesn't get it or have others had similar battles?

On another note I have a very erm curious?? little boy but other parents from baby classes are making me feel worried/upset. LO is very active crawling at speed, confidently pulling up and cruising and really enjoys exploring. To the point of surveying the surroundings wherever we are and finding the most dangerous thing to play with - plug sockets, wires, objects hidden from the children (none if whom notice them bar my lo). So I'm constantly pulling him away from stuff, stopping him from crawling over other children in his way, stealing their toys etc all whilst being looked down upon by the parents of the other children who are sitting there and being well behaved. I'm pretty sure a 10 month old can't be naughty and I'm certain I can't be the only person with a monkey for a child, this is normal right?

Welcome to all the newcomers.

CD can't help with MIL issues sorry as my in laws are fine, it's my family that I have issues with. However I'm with you on the no visitors in the evening issue, I don't allow people to visit in the evening as it's very hectic and sometimes lo is in bed very early. But my family would have you believe this is some kind of criminal offence and turn up anyway!

Hope little ones are all doing well.

WalkingOnADream

I forgot to ask, does anyone have any good cake recipe suitable for lo's? I'm planning on making the cake for his first birthday but I haven't baked in years so needs to be easy. I was thinking something along the lines of lemon or carrot?

Thanks in advance.

lazywife

WOAD I feel your pain! T is very active, inquisitive and frankly just a danger to himself. There are definitely some days when I wish he was the one that sat on the towel at swimming after he'd got out... not made a dash for every corner of the changing room, that brings a toy over and investigates it with you rather than yelps with excitement then tries to fling it at you / his head/ anther unassuming child... then tries to climb on the other child as he makes his way to the table with the drinks on that no other child can reach, but he has figured that if he scales your chair leg by using your foot as a leg up he can reach the corner of the tray... just enough to cause havoc. And plug sockets... oh yes... who knew that they were so exciting. The worst part is I'm actually a subdued, lazy person (as my name!), I don't know where he gets it from.
All I can say is that it is just a personality thing. We rarely stay in one place for very long, if he's eating he will stay still for longer. We spend alot of time out side. Very little time at playgroups or non activity places (as I have to just chase him around). Tend to do meet ups at the park, he does like his swimming. I know yours isn't fully walking yet, but they can still make a dash can't they!

As for cake, T just had a simple Victoria Sponge (3 eggs, 6oz self raising flour, 6oz caster sugar, 6oz Stork marg, 1tsp baking powder, 1tsp vanilla essence - throw it all in mixer until light and fluffy) sandwiched with jam. He didn't have loads and all the LOs liked it so wasn't too fussed about special children's cake.

L.xxx

lazywife

Oh and as regards to DH. As I went back to work it was made clear from the start I expect him to do some of the night stuff as I'd not really fussed about him doing any until then.
The housework is done when it can be. I try to hoover and dust at least once a week, but the bathrooms are less well attended (!eeek)... apart from a niggle I have about clean toilets, so I tend to do a quick once round before bed if needed. I do more now whilst LO is awake (used to try and do it whilst he was napping). But I find it easiest to tell DH at the beginning of a Sunday at some point today I need 90mins to do what I need to do and insist that he takes him for that.
L.xxx

Saffagal

Hi ladies...
First off please tell me if I am being unreasonable: I am on the whole very happy with the nursery we chose. A has settled very well (so much so I had to carry her out screaming last week as she didn't want to leave!) But, today they had a professional photographer in to take pictures and they changed her out of her not very nice clothes she went to nursery in this morning into a PINK emergency top that I keep in her box because I don't !Ind if it gets lost/ damaged as it is on its third owner. I don't know if I am more upset that they didn't tell me or that they put her in pink. Had I known ahe could have worn a non-nursery outfit. I feel almost irrationally upset about this as it will be her first ever official photo and she is wearing a scruffy pink T-shirt, and navy and red leggings!

Thanks for the reassurance about tantrums and chattering lol... Much to look forward to. I do think though if they can at least tell you why they are tantrumming it will be slightly easier?

My OH also thinks I have the easy life as only work 2.5 days, never mind that I work 22hrs over those days - longer than his days - and have A all the time I am not at work. He has still never had her for a full day, never gets up to at night and has never put her to bed. Yup... I have it easy! Like last night when she had me up from 3:15 until 5:30 and I had to get up at 6 to be ready to leave the house for work... Leaving them both still asleep.

I try to do one area a day re cleaning, that way don't have a huge lot to try and do though if I feel OH hasn't been pulling his weight I will ignore it and make him help at the weekend.

lazywife

Saf, I would be a bit miffed too. T has a super scruffy spare outfit (that lives in his bag) and then goes in basic clothes to nursery that I don't mind get wrecked. If I knew they were having proper photos I would send him in something nicer. See how they turn out, if their horrid, I would take her to Max Speilman (sp?) to get some done and keep them. They would then represent the same age for her first proper pictures, but would be worth keeping!
L.xxx

minimuffin12

Hey guys, not logged on in agesss but been reading along and keeping up to date. My ds is 14.5mths now, his walking has come along this past week and so he got his 1st pair of shoes at the weekend. He has settled well at nursery altho we did have a very bad clingy phase but it seems to have passed...for now! Gosh toddlers are so energetic and destructive, I hate taking him to peoples houses that aren't baby proofed, its stressful!

Woad, I work compressed hrs, 4days 10hrs each and I do the housework when I can. Usually try to get the hoovering done on my day off but I also take ds out so it gets done when it gets done! I do get stressed tho if the house is a tip, usually dh leaves things lying around and it does my head in!

Saf I would be annoyed too, see how it turns out and if not great then maybe plan another for Christmas?

Hi to everyone else! Congrats little miss on oliver, can only echo what the others have said infacol and gripe water worked for us. Also when baby was windy I would sit him up and rock him to and fro gently to put pressure on his tum (if that makes sense?) My ds was ff tho. Enjoy the snuggles as the newborn phase will fly in xx

dizziblonde

WalkingOnADream wrote: »

I forgot to ask, does anyone have any good cake recipe suitable for lo's? I'm planning on making the cake for his first birthday but I haven't baked in years so needs to be easy. I was thinking something along the lines of lemon or carrot?

Thanks in advance.

Have you tried looking on the cbeebies website to see if there's anything under the I Can Cook pages?

nessie216

WalkingOnADream wrote: »

I forgot to ask, does anyone have any good cake recipe suitable for lo's? I'm planning on making the cake for his first birthday but I haven't baked in years so needs to be easy. I was thinking something along the lines of lemon or carrot?

Thanks in advance.

What about these?

http://www.homemade-baby-food-recipes.com/healthy-first-birthday-cake-recipes.html#bananablueberrycake

katiechoc_2

Morning ladies I've dropped G off for week3 at play school. He burst into heartwrenching tears as I said bye bye, the manager and another staff member were closeby ready to help and went straight to him - I peeked through a window as I walked away and he was already sat on her knee giggling like a loon! Fickle little creature

Re cake I just do normal cake and G has a little bit. I figure every so often for a special occasion won't do him any harm. Although for his 1st bday I did cupcakes and he burst into tears at the sight of them!

Oh and Dizzi I feel your pain with the Toot Toot garage! We actaully sold all his huge collection of it a few months back - he didn't play with it much and it drove me potty. Lego and Brio are winners here. Can't beat the classics. And thankfully they don't sing hideous little songs at full volume!