Not sending Xmas cards

Mrs.W_2

Next year, rather than sending cards, I shall donate the money I would have spent on cards and postage to the Alzheimers Society. It usually amounts to about £40.

I'll email the 'thank you' message from the charity to all thosed who would have received a card.

Many of us in my family started swapping Oxfam Unwrapped gifts as soon as they started that scheme. We're not in want, so why waste money on stuff we don't need?

Though, I have to say, watching my out-laws faces as they opened an envelope to discover they'd bought a family a pair of goats was priceless!

Ettenna

I dwindled my cards down to about 20 two years ago. I then separated from my ex and only sent about 10 last year. This year I haven't done a single card. I put a message out that I was going to do a donation instead to The Brain Injury Group who supported me after my daughters accident. Not a single person disagreed with the idea. In fact I saw that several people were doing the same, or similar. My birthday is close to Christmas as is my daughters so I have twice as many cards to display.

January20

noelphobic wrote: »

Good thinking - my mission for next year will be to find the least cheery card possible - assuming she is speaking to me by then lol!

Why should you send cards when you don't want to? Is there a law somewhere that says that Christmas cards are compulsory? I thought not! I think your friend is being childish! Unless, of course, she is one of these people who tries to get as many cards as possible because that makes her feel popular? A bit like people who will add anybody on Facebook so that their friends count is as high as possible!

I really don't get this Christmas card thing, particularly giving cards to people you see everyday, like at work. Why? when you can just say "Happy Christmas"!

I have been in my flat for 13 years, and the previous owners were there for 2 years at least and up to last year, there would be a Christmas card for a man who lived in the flat before the previous owner ie over 15 years ago. So, whoever sent the card had had no contact with this man for over 15 years (presumably as they didn't know his address!), yet still sent a card every year! What a waste of time, money, card as I put it straight in the bin as I have no idea who this person and where they live now!

olgadapolga

dawyldthing wrote: »

my dad always just puts a stamp on it and for 2 years i had to pay a pound and the fee . My aunty did the same as well this year.

My MIL used to do this, send cards without enough postage on them. I managed to cure her though by marking the card "return to sender" and handing it back to the staff at the delivery office. She got it back as she then gave it to us by hand a week later. My DH was mortified but I didn't see why I should pay £1+ to receive a card that I didn't want (no love lost between MIL and I ).

Desperate_Housewife_2-2

I send less and less every year, I only sent a few to old people I know who don't have internet access and are on their own. I put a message on fb saying I wasn't sending cards just donating to charity instead, if anyone don't like it ...who cares?

geoffky

I can honestly say there are too many cards up in this house and i have read none of them and never do.
I drove past Cheshire oaks yesterday and just shook my head at the long lines of traffic to get in,
All buying stuff they do not need..Its a disease.

peachyprice

Jeez, why do people get so hung up on cards, it's pathetic.

My MIL didn't talk to us for 3 months one year because we forgot to send her a birthday card. At the time my OH was going through a whole barrage of tests, next stop oncologist, (thankfully something was found before that), and had been off work, unpaid, for two months, the last thing on our minds was sending her a bloomin birthday card, I don't think he's ever forgiven her for her petty behaviour.

noelphobic

noelphobic wrote: »

Good thinking - my mission for next year will be to find the least cheery card possible - assuming she is speaking to me by then lol!

I've changed my mind about this, partly because of what another poster said, about how I shouldn't send someone a card just because they try to make me feel like I should. I also think that if she didn't like the card she would tell me! I could go to the opposite extreme and buy the fanciest soppiest card available but I think I'll stick to my no card rule.


It's her birthday soon - I do 'do' birthday cards!

January20

noelphobic wrote: »

It's her birthday soon - I do 'do' birthday cards!

I also do birthday cards. I actually enjoy choosing nice birthday cards for my friends and family but I can't abide e-cards, specially for a birthday.

I wonder if I should start a thread on my hatred of e-cards. especially as my birthday is in a about 3 weeks and my mother will send me one? :rotfl::rotfl:

coolcait

noelphobic wrote: »

When she texted and asked me where her card was I replied and said 'same place as everyone elses', obviously meaning that I hadn't sent one to anyone else (apart from my son and my sister). I'm pretty sure that she knows that I don't really 'do' cards. I have a niece and three nephews but have only received a card from one of them and I'm genuinely not bothered so am struggling to understand why it would be that big a deal.

She forgot my birthday last year!

Leaving everything else aside, the BIB demonstrates how communicating by text messages can gt badly wrong.

"Same place as everyone else's". What does that mean?

On the mantelpiece?

In the post?

On your to-do list?

Never gonna happen?

You're only "pretty sure" that your friend knows you do not 'do' cards, yet you assume that she will know that your text message means that you obviously hadn't sent a card to anyone else (except for the people that you did send a card to).

It takes a bit longer to type, but something like "You know I don't do cards (Bah humbug indeed - you got me!). But I hope you have a lovely Christmas"

Probably best not to mention that some people do get a card. Just not her.