Not sending Xmas cards

noelphobic

arbroath_lass wrote: »

Are you, possibly, being over-sensitive and she was just busy? Maybe not - it could be THAT important to her.


Send her a Happy New Year card. If it was important to a friend I think I'd send one - buy a pack of 5 or whatever in the sales and you're sorted for years!

She does seem to be genuinely miffed. I am sure she will have got loads of cards and if I thought she wouldn't I would have sent her one. I definitely wouldn't text someone to ask why they hadn't sent me a card and wouldn't want someone to send me one just because they were made to feel they should.


Lol at pack of 5!

HPoirot

noelphobic wrote: »

When she texted and asked me where her card was I replied and said 'same place as everyone elses', obviously meaning that I hadn't sent one to anyone else (apart from my son and my sister).

LOL that's a tad flippant if nothing else.

arbroath_lass

noelphobic wrote: »

She does seem to be genuinely miffed. I am sure she will have got loads of cards and if I thought she wouldn't I would have sent her one. I definitely wouldn't text someone to ask why they hadn't sent me a card and wouldn't want someone to send me one just because they were made to feel they should.

Me neither, I agree with you. And I don't "get" the whole card thing - they just get chucked in the recycling bin a fortnight later. If she was a good friend and it was genuinely important to her I'd make an effort (although the passive aggressive part of me might buy the least cheery card I could find). If not I'd ignore her texts and carry on as usual.

noelphobic

arbroath_lass wrote: »

Me neither, I agree with you. And I don't "get" the whole card thing - they just get chucked in the recycling bin a fortnight later. If she was a good friend and it was genuinely important to her I'd make an effort (although the passive aggressive part of me might buy the least cheery card I could find). If not I'd ignore her texts and carry on as usual.

Good thinking - my mission for next year will be to find the least cheery card possible - assuming she is speaking to me by then lol!

dandelionclock30

I'd just ignore it and not mention it again, if she brings it up at any point then I would just explain further that I didnt do cards etc.
She sounds like a bit of a silly cow tbh, to be bothered about rubbish like christmas cards. Surely what is important is how people treat one ad other throughout the year etc.
If shes that bothered about recieving cards then she should send some to herself, then at least she knows that she will be getting them.

Lequirk_2

I like to receive cards from close family members and friends, but i don't mind not receiving them from anyone else, though i do still give them to neighbours and people i am not close to relationship-wise.

noelphobic

Her (adult) daughter has a medical condition which I know a bit about because one of my family members has a similar condition. I bought her a book about it (a couple of months ago, not as a present for a particular occasion). I think that was more thoughtful than spending 30 seconds writing a message on a card out of a multi-pack!

mummyroysof3

I don't care if I don't get them or not and don't like writing them but do it as it's expected

This_Year

noelphobic wrote: »

When she texted and asked me where her card was I replied and said 'same place as everyone elses', obviously meaning that I hadn't sent one to anyone else (apart from my son and my sister).

I find this rude - texting to ask why a card hasn't been given!

I sent 3 cards this year. One to my aunts & uncles and one to next door as they sent us one.

DD doesn't expect one, OH doesn't want one.

noelphobic

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

I don't care if I don't get them or not and don't like writing them but do it as it's expected

I think a lot of people do, and I have myself in the past. However, I don't want anyone to send me a card because they feel they 'have to' and don't want to send anyone else cards if that's the only reason I'm doing it.


If someone sends a card and then complains if they don't get one back it just seems like they are giving to get, which shouldn't be the point at all.