*Stop The Cavalry* It's The 2014 Christmas Chatter Thread

msgigglewick

Just rushing in before off to reclaim my living room.. but poundland have a frozen range of bath products and kiddies nail polish and lip balm. Rather sweet looking. Perfect if you're doing a frozen hamper. No doubt there'll be chocs/sweeties themed this year too.

pixtotts

RUTH_HONEY Happy Birthday! (sorry its late )

Well the country fayre was ok... sold all my carrot cakes, and a fair few of my sisters bracelet but not a single tea cup went with them priced at £5 and £3 sad times. But to be honest it seemed to me the only things that were selling was edible or drinkable. I know my uncles neighbours were selling burgers for the village hall fund, they made over £1000! that is a lot of burgers!
It was so hot and muggy though was glad to get home.
A lovely lady gave us some samples of some natural fire lighters she makes I'm very excited to try those I hope they are good because they look so pretty would be lovely to have a few in a little basket by the fire rather than the box of normal firelighters...

Back to the teacups I'm helping the WI with this annual event thing they do, this year it's "plate painting" someone had the idea and someone else said oh Charlotte does that... so yeah I got lumbered with it lol! But thinking I'll take them along to that as demos and see if I can't sell them there.

If anyone hears of ebay free listing weekend could you let me know please, I know they just had one I always find out too late, they don't seem to email me about them only had time to get a couple things on.
As it was fathers day we booked a slot up the lake took my uncles boat, so dad and him were happy bunnies doing their water skiing it was lovely though there were a few swans and it has a nice little shelter for people watching with showers and what not.
x

quidsy

ebay give you 20 free listings month now.

his_missus

Own_My_Own wrote: »

Today's quote

Think I'll live in the second row - it still looks a laugh but nobody has to see my knickers

Thanks Freespirit, I'm just going through all those firsts. Just had my first birthday without dad (was strange getting a card just signed by mum) and my first fatherless father's day. First wedding anniversary tomorrow (mine) and then the majority of firsts are done. Already had his birthday, mum's birthday and their would-have-been anniversary. Christmas will be the next biggie!

Was slightly annoyed yesterday that only MIL and a friend (who lost her dad just after I did) checked in with me to see how I was. Neither of my best friends or even Hubby mentioned it I've always made the effort with friends on such occasions, annoyed no-one felt the need to return that favour. people probably either didn't want to mention it or thought I'm doing well enough but it's really annoyed me.

Sorry, I'm that way out today.

pixtotts

his_missus wrote: »

Was slightly annoyed yesterday that only MIL and a friend (who lost her dad just after I did) checked in with me to see how I was. Neither of my best friends or even Hubby mentioned it I've always made the effort with friends on such occasions, annoyed no-one felt the need to return that favour. people probably either didn't want to mention it or thought I'm doing well enough but it's really annoyed me.
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Sorry to hear you've had a difficult weekend

It's worth remembering it's a difficult subject to deal with, for everyone, do you mention, do you not... It could just be that their coping method is different.
I prefer not to talk of the dead, I find RIP/birthday/death day/anniversary/mothers day/fathers day remembering on facebook to be of very poor taste. I have one friend that always does them "RIP nan 5 years now, so sad you never got to meet my daughter" I'm left thinking really.... your nan probably didn't use facebook when she was alive I can guarantee she doesn't now she is dead.
And would probably avoid people on those days. But then I am also someone who is very much against lying flowers at roadsides and on graves, especially when people never go back for them when they are dead and brown (< that bit actually makes me very angry).

But what I'm getting at is that they aren't bad people, and it's probably not that they don't care, it's probably just that they cope differently, and it's human nature to base what to do on what they themselves would want other people to do... they might just think it's better not to keep bringing things up especially if they might upset you.
We all find our own ways of dealing and more often than not they don't mesh, some people want more people around them others want less it's hard to know what to do.

Sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear, but I'm not good at sympathy and I'd hate to think that my friends think I don't care because I'd rather be left to my own devices so would allow them the same...
x

mrs-moneypenny

afternoon all
hope everyone is well

sorry the afternoon teacup sets didnt sell

love the quote, i agree i'd think ill settle for life on the second row ie having a laugh without showing my knickers LOL

busy morning, had a meeting in school, then work, did dob in the post office so books have been posted.

bought 2 lovely round wicker baskets at the carboot on sunday to use for hampers 2 for £3 so really pleased.

off to do stuff and catch up now.

his_missus

pixtotts wrote: »

I prefer not to talk of the dead, I find RIP/birthday/death day/anniversary/mothers day/fathers day remembering on facebook to be of very poor taste. I have one friend that always does them "RIP nan 5 years now, so sad you never got to meet my daughter" I'm left thinking really.... your nan probably didn't use facebook when she was alive I can guarantee she doesn't now she is dead.

And would probably avoid people on those days. But then I am also someone who is very much against lying flowers at roadsides and on graves, especially when people never go back for them when they are dead and brown (< that bit actually makes me very angry).


x

I agree with both of those points. Dad didn't use FB so I didn't post a message to him on there. I understand people don't always know what to say or how to act but these are friends I've known for years, they should have some inkling of how I am by now.

My annoyance is that as I've always sent them a text on those significant days (even if they did want to be left alone, they were free to ignore/not read the text) surely they would realise that a thought on those days would be appreciated by me because that is what I have done to them in the past. I know this is coming across as self-indulgent and I'm probably not explaining myself very clearly. I guess all I wanted to know is that someone was actually thinking of me for a change instead of them always expecting me to be their shoulder to cry on, gosh that sounds even more self-centred. I can't explain it.

Back to Christmas talk, please.

princesskitty29

Hi all, had a couple of days to catch up on so sorry in advance for the long post!

mothernerd and freespirit thanks for the 'frog' explanation! I suspected that was what it was. That means I also eat a lot of frogs! mothernerd sorry you're feeling frustrated, hopefully it won't be long until your leg is better. Enjoy the photography course, it sounds interesting. Don't forget to show us a couple of pics!

chirpychick I put together a curry hamper last year that included a little curry cook book, rice, poppadoms, mango chutney etc. Unfortunately for various reasons I couldn't give it to the recipient in the end so I will happily send the cook book to you if you'd like? It's only a little one, I think it's 101 Curry Recipes. I have plenty of cook books so don't need another one!

freespirit yay glad you're free to watch the football, you enjoy it! I hope your DD is taking it easy and feeling better, I know from my own experience that it's easy to forget when you're pregnant that you can't do everything you usually do. I'm not great with the heat even when i'm not pregnant so i've been trying to hide inside! I usually sit in my kitchen with the patio doors open so that I get the best of both worlds! We had the massive thunderstorm too, although it's funny because only a few weeks ago I was complaining that we never had good thunderstorms - then we get one at 3am when i'm desperately trying to sleep! Honestly, Mother Nature could have planned it better! Wow your challenge list is long, so does your son set the challenges for you then?

mrs-moneypenny I missed what your hospital appointments were for but I hope you're ok. What an awful experience for your son, glad to hear it was sorted swiftly and they got their phones back. Honestly, these people who steal from honest, hard working people make me mad! :mad:

Pixtotts sorry you didn't sell your plates, but keep persevering as they're lovely!

newthrift love the sound of your wedding gift! I would have loved something like that.

nitnurse i'm going to follow your example with the cards, and I too get sucked in my all the little gifts everywhere! I hope you had a lovely weekend, the suite sounds amazing!

Feisty I feel for you with the tarts, I have been in that situation so many times! It's so disheartening and you just want to give up but you can't! Hope it all turned out ok in the end.

Opee92 sorry to hear things haven't been great but I do hope they improve now.

OMO massive well done for hitting the £1k mark! :T:j:beer: Truly inspirational!

quidsy good luck with the clear up - I find the more space I have the more stuff I find to fill it! It's like that with handbags, the bigger the bag the more stuff I seem to carry around!

his_missus sorry to hear you've been having a hard time recently, I do hope the upcoming years get easier for you. I do know what you mean with your friends, I am similar in that I always think about these things and try to be as thoughtful as possible with people, but don't always get the same back. I'm sure it doesn't mean they don't care though, perhaps they just don't know what to say or whether they should say anything at all. x

Hello Lotti1982 :wave:

Happy belated birthday Ruth_honey! _party_

freespirit66

his_missus wrote: »

Thanks Freespirit, I'm just going through all those firsts. Just had my first birthday without dad (was strange getting a card just signed by mum) and my first fatherless father's day. First wedding anniversary tomorrow (mine) and then the majority of firsts are done. Already had his birthday, mum's birthday and their would-have-been anniversary. Christmas will be the next biggie!
Was slightly annoyed yesterday that only MIL and a friend (who lost her dad just after I did) checked in with me to see how I was. Neither of my best friends or even Hubby mentioned it I've always made the effort with friends on such occasions, annoyed no-one felt the need to return that favour. people probably either didn't want to mention it or thought I'm doing well enough but it's really annoyed me.
Sorry, I'm that way out today.

Oh HISMISSUS the firsts are the worst because it just feels so strange, like you say the card with just mum in it, just them not being around doing the usual things they did, it is still early days so give yourself a break, i know you must have felt hurt that no one else bothered to just let you know they were thinking of you, and i agree totally sometimes you just feel bl**dy fed up of thinking of everyone around you all the time, you just need to feel that people think the same of you, you are not being self indulgent/self centred at all, and at these sad times these feelings are heightened, but i do agree with PIXTOTTS i think people just dont know what to do or say so just do nothing, i feel the same as you they could text etc but are they thinking it will upset you rather than comfort you. People do react differently, i remember my BFFs son died in a tragic accident and i was her rock (her words not mine) in those dark days that followed, but she was furious that people were sending sympathy cards and refused to put them up, i was shocked because i thought it was the done thing to do and people treasured these, and the thought of upsetting someone just by sending a sympathy card really surprised me, but she said she would much rather a handwritten letter, so it is so personal i think people would rather just stay quiet, but im sure some did think of you yesterday x

pixtotts wrote: »

Well the country fayre was ok... sold all my carrot cakes, and a fair few of my sisters bracelet but not a single tea cup went with them priced at £5 and £3 sad times. But to be honest it seemed to me the only things that were selling was edible or drinkable. I know my uncles neighbours were selling burgers for the village hall fund, they made over £1000! that is a lot of burgers!
It was so hot and muggy though was glad to get home.
A lovely lady gave us some samples of some natural fire lighters she makes I'm very excited to try those I hope they are good because they look so pretty would be lovely to have a few in a little basket by the fire rather than the box of normal firelighters...
Back to the teacups I'm helping the WI with this annual event thing they do, this year it's "plate painting" someone had the idea and someone else said oh Charlotte does that... so yeah I got lumbered with it lol! But thinking I'll take them along to that as demos and see if I can't sell them there.
If anyone hears of ebay free listing weekend could you let me know please, I know they just had one I always find out too late, they don't seem to email me about them only had time to get a couple things on.
As it was fathers day we booked a slot up the lake took my uncles boat, so dad and him were happy bunnies doing their water skiing it was lovely though there were a few swans and it has a nice little shelter for people watching with showers and what not.
x

Oh PIXTOTTS sorry you didnt sell any of your lovely afternoon teasets, you just cant tell what will sell and what wont these days, your day at the lake sounded lovely


MRSMONEYPENNY thankyou will let you know when they arrive

newthrift

pixitotts - sorry to hear the teacups and saucers didn't sell, I thought they were fab!! I can think of someone they would be great for Christmas for too you never know they may sell another time.
hismissus - sorry to hear that you haven't had a great weekend, I have not been through this myself with a parent, but I have friends who have and sometimes people don't know what to do or say (as people have already said:o) but I understand where you are coming from and I would put money (not very MS:money:;))on that people didn't mean to make you feel as they did! I'm sure most would of had a thought for you. As you say back to chirstmas talk...191days 7hours 33minutes (as I wrote this):xmastree: