Feeling really sad today

rocketqueen

Hello everyone.

I got through xmas relatively well, by throwing myself into work. Although it was weird to be on my own after work on the day itself and have no presents to open.

Today I'm feeling really down again - guess as its new years eve. I just want everything to go back to how it was this time last year but know that wont happen. Just sitting on my sofa crying at moment.

Just want to run away so I dont have to deal with all this anymore.

CH27

I'm sorry you are so down RQ.
I think you have accepted it's all over so start the New Year making plans for your new, happy life.

spirit

CH27 wrote: »

I'm sorry you are so down RQ.
I think you have accepted it's all over so start the New Year making plans for your new, happy life.

^^^ agree with this.

Time to move on now.

((hugs)) and best wishes for a bright new year.

Person_one

Does anybody else in your real life know yet? Are you carrying this all by yourself?

dandelionclock30

Time to move on and tell him to go. What type of man wouldnt buy his parter a present even if he were asked not to? Someone who doesnt give a toss.
Start making plans for doing all the things you want to do with your life etc. Dont waste anymore time thinking about him, just get all the practicalities sorted etc.
Best wishes.

rocketqueen

Thanks everyone.

Some of my friends and colleagues know the majority of it (but not how low I'm feeling at moment. ) My mum also knows but all she keeps saying is "you two will sort it out.." - not very helpful really.

I'm bit scared to admit how low I'm feeling as have suffered mental health problems in past and don't want everyone to panic and think I'm not coping etc.

Think I'll feel bit better after tonight and tomorrow are over as it's hard to not think of past and my future on new years eve. Its just so hard to know I'm going to leave my home, my cat, my security and up until a few months ago my best friend, husband and the man I thought I'd grow old with and have babies with. But at same time know my marriage is over and that I need to leave.

thanks for the support I appreciate it.

Person_one

Sorry to be blunt, but why are you still there? Or why is he still there?

paulineb_2

rocketqueen wrote: »

Thanks everyone.

Some of my friends and colleagues know the majority of it (but not how low I'm feeling at moment. ) My mum also knows but all she keeps saying is "you two will sort it out.." - not very helpful really.

I'm bit scared to admit how low I'm feeling as have suffered mental health problems in past and don't want everyone to panic and think I'm not coping etc.

Think I'll feel bit better after tonight and tomorrow are over as it's hard to not think of past and my future on new years eve. Its just so hard to know I'm going to leave my home, my cat, my security and up until a few months ago my best friend, husband and the man I thought I'd grow old with and have babies with. But at same time know my marriage is over and that I need to leave.

thanks for the support I appreciate it.

Why do you need to leave? Im aware this has probably been covered in other threads as well

What strikes me is that this is the third thread you have posted about this and nothing much has changed, you are living in the same house, youve made the decision that its over, but you are now just being with one another and just going through the motions

And thats ok, you cant just end a marriage and have a new place sorted out overnight. But if hes not making any effort to say sorry and mean it and try and make things right again, then yes it sounds like splitting up is the best thing.

It doesnt matter what other people think or what other people say, you are suffering this, they arent. If you have made the decision to end the marriage, then for goodness sake get some separate living arrangements sorted as soon as you can, this living in limbo wont be doing you any good.

Some people arent the people we thought they were, that is fact. You can make a new life for yourself and yes its ok to feel low, but its another day, its what you do tomorrow that counts and so on, make some changes.

NinjaSavingKat

Why start the year with a man you probably won't finish it with. Start afresh and more out! New year, new you?

marisco_2

My advice is to focus on the present and to do what it takes to make this time as painless as possible. Lean on those closest to you for support when you need to. They wont think you are weak, asking for help is a sign of still being strong and a refusal to let yourself go under. People will respect you for that.

Don't dwell on the past or look too far into the future and feel scared about it. Try to accept that what you will actually be leaving behind next year, is an existence that is leading you to feel this low and unhappy. Things can only get better even if that involves some major changes and upheaval.

Keep in mind that you are striving to get to a point in your life where you feel happy, content and secure. Having read your threads I think you have the resilience and strength of character to achieve all that. Believe that there are far better things ahead for you than you possibly dare imagine right now and go after them. I hope 2014 will be really good to you.