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Friend is going to be really hurt-what to do?

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  • shegirl wrote: »
    Honestly?He has cheated on her a couple times over the years.He has needed 'breaks' where he lives away but is still with her because he was struggling with family life (they do have a daughter together).He does try but he struggles.

    They got engaged at christmas a couple of years ago (no ring though..just a card lol) then he changed his mind etc etc

    Thing is,she will often makes jokes about his cheating with him so it looks like she doesn't care.

    Sounds like she'd be better off if she got the charm from you and no bracelet from him. She might wake up and see the mug she's being taken for then.
    Trying to be a man is a waste of a woman
  • shegirl
    shegirl Posts: 10,107 Forumite
    Sounds like she'd be better off if she got the charm from you and no bracelet from him. She might wake up and see the mug she's being taken for then.

    In all fairness, you are probably right.I wish she would,but she won't :( never does
    If women are birds and freedom is flight are trapped women Dodos?
  • jemb
    jemb Posts: 910 Forumite
    COuld he get one of the leather plaited ones? I've a gold coloured leather plaited one and it's really nice. Like this http://www.pandora.net/en-gb/explore/products/bracelets/590705cpk-s#!590705CBN-S come in different colours and are less than £50. HTH x
    Married the lovely Mr P 28th April 2012. Little P born 29th Jan 2014
  • FatVonD
    FatVonD Posts: 5,315 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 1,000 Posts Combo Breaker I've been Money Tipped!
    I was going to suggest putting it on a chain too but see it has all been resolved.

    What a lovely friend you are, Shegirl :)
    Make £25 a day in April £0/£750 (March £584, February £602, January £883.66)

    December £361.54, November £322.28, October £288.52, September £374.30, August £223.95, July £71.45, June £251.22, May£119.33, April £236.24, March £106.74, Feb £40.99, Jan £98.54) Total for 2017 - £2,495.10
  • DaftyDuck
    DaftyDuck Posts: 4,609 Forumite
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    The best present she's going to get this - or any Christmas - is having such a good friend as you!


    :xmassign:
  • Sounds to me like he's the one who needs the charm.
    Reason for edit? Can spell, can't type!
  • Anselm
    Anselm Posts: 7,009 Forumite
    Make sure you get your £30 back! :eek:
    "Nothing, Lucilius, is ours, except time." - Seneca
    Moral letters to Lucilius/Letter 1
  • maman
    maman Posts: 30,552 Forumite
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    mandragora wrote: »
    Sounds to me like he's the one who needs the charm.

    :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

    I'm sure you have the best of intentions OP but I can't imagine getting involved in someone else's relationship at that level. I think you need to take a step back in future. It sounds too much like a soap opera to me.
  • shegirl
    shegirl Posts: 10,107 Forumite
    maman wrote: »
    :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

    I'm sure you have the best of intentions OP but I can't imagine getting involved in someone else's relationship at that level. I think you need to take a step back in future. It sounds too much like a soap opera to me.

    Umm,it's quite common for friends to assist ohs with presents
    If women are birds and freedom is flight are trapped women Dodos?
  • maman
    maman Posts: 30,552 Forumite
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    shegirl wrote: »
    Umm,it's quite common for friends to assist ohs with presents

    Sorry, didn't mean to offend. Apologies if I sounded sharp.:)

    I'd agree that helping out is common but not to the extent where you have to twist his arm to get the money out of him, offer to help him pay and be party to their financial/emotional tensions.
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