Do you have a favourite child?

itzmee

Both my boys would say I have a favourite. Eldest (17) says that I favour his brother (10) especially when they are fighting as I am always shouting at him for picking on his brother! Youngest ds complains that I always give his older brother loads of money while he gets nothing!

fluffymuffy

I have one that I am most proud of. And with good reason.

marisco_2

I have two children who are polar opposites both in their looks and personalities. I will admit that I find it much easier to get on with one of them than the other. Only because that one is very similar in character to me and we share the same sense of humour. The other child totally intrigues me and is an interesting challenge, requiring a very creative approach to being raised. I love them both equally with all my heart and don't have a favourite.

troubleinparadise

I am fortunate in that I have two children - and one is my favourite son, and the other my favourite daughter (work that one out!)

Phew, that gets me out of any squabbling!

NoGoodNamesLeft

I don't have children, but I do have a half sister who gets on much better with my mum than I do. That's not because she's necessarily the favourite, just that she is very much like my mum, in looks as well as temperament, whereas I take after my dad.
I do have a favourite niece, but I would never tell either niece or my sister (their mum) and I try to treat them equally.

neverdespairgirl

I'm the eldest of 4, and I've never felt my parents have a favourite out of us - nor have any of the others ever said so, either.

My mother calls my son her "favourite grandson", but as she only has one grandchild, that's not saying much (-:

Laurajo_2

I don't think either of my parents loved one of us more than the other.

However, I do think my mum feels closer to my brother than me, and vice versa with my father. (They're divorced - but split up when we were adults, ifyswim).

Whilst I don't feel my mum favours my brother, they seem to be much more on the same wavelength - they are both practical, outgoing with similar views on the world. My dad lives dahn saaaahf, so I only see him a couple of times a year. We are both more academic, quieter and probably more pretentious too! I was always a daddy's girl growing up and I'm afraid to say my mum bore the brunt of teenage angst.

That said, I do love my mum very much, and get on with her well, it's just sometimes it's painfully apparent that we aren't on the same wavelength...xx

thorsoak

I loved (and still do love) my children equally. As someone else here said, sometimes I didn't LIKE one of them at one time or another ....never the same one, you understand!

However, as children, how we reacted to each other was different - and therefore it could change the perception of other people. For example:

Each week, we would always buy the same amount of "extras" - crisps/penguin biscuits/choccy bars/snacks etc . Put in one specific cupboard, and all 4 offspring would know that there was enough for 1 each per day. Cue the day I caught No 2 son, picking out 3 packets of crisps ....went into the spiel of how disappointed/being greedy/not fair on the others, yada, yada, yada. No 1 son or No1 daughter would have immediately gone into defensive "well I wanted to make sure that I got these this week, etc etc etc" and it would have resulted in a Big Scene.

What did No2 son do? Turned to the cat and said "see - I told you we'd be in trouble!" What did I do - apart from making him put the other packets of crisps back? I laughed.

Not good parenting, methinks! He could always deflect a lecture! And the others knew it. I had to make sure that he got the same wigging that the others would get!

loracan1

Mine both think the other's my favourite...

wik

I have 3 darling monsters, and they are all my faves for different reasons...
I can remember being in the hospital the night before my 2nd (1st daughter was born) and thinking how will I love this baby as much as my son? Well 24 hours later the midwifes came and took her to the nursery so I would sleep!...
It was an instant love - in a totally different way... and when my 2nd daughter was born 3 years later.. again... total love again in a different way... they all all their own special character... and I totally adore them all xxxx