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StressedSteph

wantabetterlife wrote: »

Your in laws sound a bit like mine Steph. MIL is continually getting digs in and I can feel myself getting wound up the minute they walk through the door. It causes quite a bit of tension between me and hubby because when they leave I usually start giving off. It's that feeling sorry for themselves attitude that peeves me off the most. I have every sympathy ...I also think you are amazing!

Thanks wantabetterlife,

Yes that's the same as we have, although I guess we have it slightly easier, as it isn't hubby's mother, but a long term girlfriend. So when we leave we BOTH enjoy a good moan :rotfl:.

They are the type of people that talk and talk about themselves and Lady friend brags about her dead beat family, and then the moment I get a word in about my children or something we have been doing, you can tell they are not really listening, just waiting for the next opportunity to butt in and start talk about themselves again...Pfffft.

Thanks for saying I am amazing. I am far far from amazing, but it's nice to read it occasionally :D:o

Do you have to spend Christmas with your inlaws? I do hope not.
I am so glad we stood our ground last year and said we wanted Christmas on our own. It feels alot less stressful.

xxxxx

wantabetterlife

No we are having Xmas dinner here but will call with them in the morning time. The trouble is they live about half a mile away and it is very claustrophobic. They are the type that if something annoys them them they make a really big deal about it and it's always someone else fault. I can feel myself getting agitated even writing this. I have really tried to distance myself too to be able to deal with them. My sister in law ( their daughter) looks after our kids at our house whilst we work,but she is ok...it's just a bit akward at times. For example we pay SIL on the days she works not holidays etc as it is cash in hand. MIL is always getting jibes in about how everyone else has to pay for childcare even in the holidays etc. it really does my head in ahhhhh! Sorry for hijacking your diary but it's just been one of those days

supersaver1000

Hi Steph, just had to delurk to say my FIL exactly the same. Step MIL goes all out for her grandchildren, DD is just an afterthought. But they are otherwise extremely self centred people. I used to say 'how are you' when they used to ring but stopped bothering coz they never asked back. I have to go against my politeness and reel off a list of our activities and achievements pretending they have asked us questions as they would never say 'how is work' or 'how are you feeling' or 'what have you been doing today'. and if they ever asked DD how school was it would be a very short conversation as they are just not interested and it's hard work starting to explain things from scratch every time.

Contd... Please don't feel it's you, there are so many of us delurk in sympathy. As you say, they are OHs family not ours, but I seem to be the ones spending most time with them - how does that work. Oh well, just sending positive vibes in solidarity.

mummytogirls

OMG Steph, how rude of FIL, id be fuming too. Im not too happy with my inlaws at the moment, don't know whats going on with them all!! Obviously think we sit at home twiddling our thumbs all day!!! xx

StressedSteph

Wow its sooooo nice to know its not just us having issues with weird self-obsessed inlaws . Although I am sorry you are having to deal with it all too.

You are right Supersaver about them never asking about how we are doing. I first distanced myself from them this spring and Lady Friend knows I was on Anti-depressants and struggling, but she hasn't once asked how I am doing, if I am still on the meds. Nothing

Pah.....I have had a couple of glasses of Port so I feel alot calmer now. Hubby says "Stuff them" so stuff them i will.

Love you lot. thanks for taking the time to make me feel so much better. :smileyhea

supersaver1000

Port sounds good. Glad you're feeling a bit more mellow. We will never be right to them, I think it's called playing the victim or the guilt card. But as long as we feel that we have done our best that's all we can do and you'll feel no guilt - clear conscience, I think that's the best we can do.

Chrysalis1976

Families are so difficult at times, my in laws don't like my sister in law's partner due to a falling out they had a couple of years ago and of course she can do no wrong even though she was as much to blame.

My own sister stopped contact with me about 6 months ago for reasons I can't even to imagine why, she hasn't sent birthday presents for my kids and I'm not expecting anything over Christmas. I'm not even going to pander to her, but I'm certainly not going to play her kids off so they will recieve gifts from us as normal.

Whatever they think you know you're a good, hard-working family unit and deserve a happy and prosperous new year.

C x

dawnybabes

StressedSteph wrote: »

thanks for your reply Dawn, hope you are all ready for Christmas. What is Josh hoping for Christmas?. xxx

Lego, Lego and more ruddy lego !

Yes I'm ready - been shopping now just a few days relaxing :-)

StressedSteph

Afternoon all,

Weirdly, I feel almost ready for Christmas :j.

Jobs left to be done:-

Wrap last few pressie that were delivered yesterday.
[strike]Ice Christmas cake[/strike]
Put a few more decs up in Kitchen.
When hubby gets his wages pop to get mum some Slippers and bits and deliver them to her residential home on Tuesday.


Hubbys birthday tomorrow, but we have £22 left in the bank :eek:. So he will have to have a belated birthday celebration once his turkey wages come in. I was going to get him a piece of steak from the butcher for his birthday, but unless he gets some cash paid on Monday in time for me to nip out then we will have to have something else.

I have lifted out of the freezer a ham joint from one of the pigs we had last year, so will make sure that is cooked tomorrow so we can have ham, egg and chips instead.

Tesco delivered today. Already thought of two things I have forgotten .

Hope you are all getting organised and finding time for a sit down xxx

StressedSteph

Feeling ab it bored at the moment. Hubby is hogging the TV playing PS3, roast dinner is cooking, so thought I would post some of my ideas that are floating round my head.

Money earning ideas

Spa Treatments
Private treatments - Sort cheap advertising
Start new cleaning job - £20 cash per week
Follow up of offer of 4-5 hours per week cleaning job / Potential £40-£50 per week
Keep thinking of new money making ideas

Debt Busting Ideas

Envelope system for Food, Fuel, Fun and new home budget.
STICK TO THE BUDGET
Grow tonnes of veg this year.
Get some orphan lambs and weaner pigs to re-fill the freezer.
Visit friend with goats to look into feasibility of having some goats for milk, cheese & milk.


Will post again when i think of more ideas xxx