Should I stop

SimonSays

Years ago me and my family fell out. I was accused of stealing money. I didn't had proof where I was but my family was hearing none of it. Even my own gran cut me off.

I was homeless. I got back on my feet and every year I've sent them a christmas card and I send my neice a cheque for her birthday and christmas. Although last year I sent her some toys from amazon but I got a refund notice from amazon saying they were returned to sender.

Should I stop sending them a card and move on and in 13 years time send my neice a letter explaining whats gone on.

I know they still live there. Ive seen my parents come out of their house when Ive been near and my brother is still at the same address still.

Own_My_Own

I would stop.
I have no contact with most of my family.( see my Dad once every few weeks) . It was a release. Why torture yourself. You have moved on and so have they.

Carry on with your life and be happy.

SimonSays

I know I should stop I just hoped they would see sense with all the proof I left them

Own_My_Own

They will never see it, and you are only torturing yourself by trying to proof it.

Are you happy with your life now ?

Stephb1986_2

Let them get on with it forget about them enjoy your life don't let them have a hold of you any more.

Steph x

SimonSays

I am happy-ish just hate the being on my own

Own_My_Own

I think you just have to except what you have. It will never be like it was before. If you did have contact, you would feel watched all the time and uncomfortable.

I miss the family I had when my grandparents were alive. But I know the family out there now is not the family I remember.
I have 2 children and still feel lonely. But I would rather be lonely than uncomfortable and on edge all the time.

kelpie35

I think you would be better enjoying the life you have made for yourself.

I don't think you should use up any more energy on a family that has no interest in you.

As long as you have a clear conscious you have done nothing wrong, then forget about them. As for your niece, if she wishes to get to know you when she is older, then that will be a bonus.

I am a great believer in karma.

SimonSays

I don't think my niece will ever know about me. Don't think I'll ever be mentioned anywhere.

Stephb1986_2

SimonSays wrote: »

I don't think my niece will ever know about me. Don't think I'll ever be mentioned anywhere.

I know how you feel, I have a niece I've seen her a dozen times at the most in the whole of 9 years. There is nothing you can do about it, why should I spend my hard earned cash on a kid that I don't even get to see? I know some people will see that as harsh but she only lives about 3 miles away from me but I don't see her from one year to the next apart from when it's her birthday and christmas which are right near each other.

Gigglepig

I would continue sending cards and presents to the niece, the falling out had nothing to do with her and in time she may see and appreciate the effort.