single at christmas

marisco_2

newcook wrote: »

Why do some people seem to think you need to be in a relationship over Christmas?!

I think some people have a genuine dread of being single, and struggle to understand how others can be happy and content to be so. So they project their own fears of a situation onto another person. At a time when many spend time with loved ones and do a lot of socialising, it probably seems odd to these types that a person has no issue with turning up to gatherings or social occasions alone. Maybe they lack the confidence to mix and mingle when they are not on someone's arm.

Person_one

scooby088 wrote: »

I always think it best to to split at xmas then you don't have to buy any presents

Or immediately after, so you're still in time to get a refund.

The best thing about being single at Christmas is that you don't have to meet any in-laws or family friends for pictionary and arguments.

Saturnalia

January20 wrote: »

^^ This ! It drives me insane, but the cynical part of me thinks that the people who try and make me believe I should be in a relationship are unhappily married and seriously jealous of my freedom and happiness!

My real friends accept the way I wish to lead my life!

I have noticed this! The couples I know who seem AFAIK to have the kind of healthy happy relationships I'd like to have one day are great about my single state, it isn't a subject of discussion (unless they are giving me a bit of friendly nagging to actually ask out men I like rather than mooning from afar! I'm so inept in that situation!)

OTOH, the couples who do the Smug Married thing every chance they get* have relationships I wouldn't last a day in.

*Two couples, including the one where the husband, who spends all his time bragging about his wonderful wife and family, pesters me for sex. :eek:

Needless to say I don't spend any more time with these people than I have to for mutual friends' sake. And definitely never alone with the would-be-cheat anymore. Shame as we were close pals once.

Delree

We'll I'm 34 and I've only ever spent one Christmas in a relationship. It's the total norm for me. I spend it with work friends, friends and family. To be honest I don't get enough time on my own. Being an introvert I need days where I see and speak to no one.

Only people who need to be in a relationship at Christmas need to be in a relationship at Christmas.

tayforth

aileth wrote: »

It was especially bad as my parents had bought them tea and drunk it since the break up because they thought that they'd never see them again, and they got me a purple satin purse with tassels on that would only suit a cowboy drag queen.

Funny looking back now, horrifying at the time

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

paulineb_2

Ive been single for loads of christmases now, the last 9 I think.

Before that I was with a complete !!!! for far too long, single is absolutely preferable.

Reams

newcook wrote: »

So, me and the guy I was seeing broke up a couple of weeks back (my choice – that ‘spark’ wasn’t there for me) but a lot of people seems to be concerned that I will be single for Christmas!

Personally, I am more than ok with this! Its not my first Christmas in singletown and I look on the bright side that there is 1 less present to buy. I will also be spending it with my family and friends so its not like I will be sat at home on my own drowning my sorrows!

Why do some people seem to think you need to be in a relationship over Christmas?!

HELP!!!!! MSE is sinking.

neverdespairgirl

PasturesNew wrote: »

Better off on your own. No present to buy, no fake glee to create when you open yours .... and no juggling whose house you're going to or what you're doing/where/where etc.

Person_one wrote: »

Or immediately after, so you're still in time to get a refund.

The best thing about being single at Christmas is that you don't have to meet any in-laws or family friends for pictionary and arguments.

Or do as I have done - relationship with someone from a different religion. My parents' place for Christmas and Easter, he picks a venue for Passover and Yom Kippur / New Year, and no hassles either way.

nickcc

Many years ago bought my then fianc!e loads of Chrisie pressies, when it was time to exchange got absolutely nothing in return and informed that you shouldn't give to receive. Perhaps she was right but got rid straight after. Now my Wife and I buy more or less anything the other wants as long as we can afford, it especially as we have a joint account.

no1catman

Why refer to it as back to being 'single'??


He was your boyfriend, wasn't he? So you weren't married, hence you were both single i.e. you were still 'Miss'.


Rant over, just don't like 'single' being used instead of 'unattached'!!