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Nice People Thread Number 10 -the official residence of Nice People
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Just had a chat with my Dad, who is feeling (unusually for him) pretty low....much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0 -
Unfortunately that's the way the cookie crumbles, if the wills are valid they're valid and the first set of kids are out in the cold. If they aren't valid the legal costs would probably be more than the estate anyway.“The ideas of debtor and creditor as to what constitutes a good time never coincide.”
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If I had children I would leave to children with protection for spouse for their lifetime. Seen it in family and friends families now several times over leaving to spouse when remarriage and children of another marriage join or subsesequant children. Its never, ever straight forward. I feel if I did what I want with mine it would leave my partner to leave theirs equally between all loved children, theirs and theirs of heart .0
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neverdespairgirl wrote: »Don't quote detail, will delete:
Why do people do these things? Some people are so idiotic in their wills.
Don't quote next paragraph please:
I know of a similar situation. <Details deleted>Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.
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Unfortunately that's the way the cookie crumbles, if the wills are valid they're valid and the first set of kids are out in the cold. If they aren't valid the legal costs would probably be more than the estate anyway.
That's why Dad's feeling a bit low about it all. Family argument over a will wouldn't brighten anyone's day....much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0 -
lostinrates wrote: »If I had children I would leave to children with protection for spouse for their lifetime. Seen it in family and friends families now several times over leaving to spouse when remarriage and children of another marriage join or subsesequant children. Its never, ever straight forward. I feel if I did what I want with mine it would leave my partner to leave theirs equally between all loved children, theirs and theirs of heart .
While we were married, my will left everything to LNE (although I changed it when the divorce was imminent). I hate to think what he would have done with my money if he'd got sole possession of it without me around to stop him blowing it all on stuff he didn't need. I'm sure DS & DD wouldn't have been anything like as well provided for as I'd have wanted them to be. With hindsight, I wonder how I could have been so naive, when I knew he wasn't really responsible with money.
OTOH, my mum left everything to my dad, and if he were to marry again, I am 100% sure he would work something out that was fair to the new wife and to us kids, and to her kids too if she had any, because he has such a conscientious sense of duty to the family. Not that I would let it cause a rift in the family if he didn't. There are more important things in life than money, and although I obviously know that my dad has quite a lot of it by my standards, I make a point of thinking about my future without assuming that I'll inherit anything. After all, he may need it all for care home fees or something. I hope he lives at least as long as his mother did (ie to 103, which would be 16 years from now) and although I know that it's in the nature of things for him to predecease me, if I inherit anything that's a bonus, not an entitlement.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
Deliberately not quoting anyone! L, its not about not trusting DH for me, its about trusting him to want to do right for everybody in his life at the time, yet knowing he'd feel torn and confused p. having a sort of first hand experience of this, though no new siblings, he has a new sibling by marriage, and expects to see nothing of his parents' money, which is also fine by me, but truthfully DOES rankle DH and his siblings, especially as the relationship is ...not easy.
I know DH has a big heart and if he met/meets someone with children those children will be people he considers 'children of his househould' and loved and cared for and he'd want them, and any subsequent child treated equally. If we had one I'd want them to know, in a way DH and his siblings don't always feel, that they were thought of in a way to make secure and loved and provided for specially. I think that of the first left everything to the children of the marriage so the second could of they choose leave everything equally to every one, it is the easiest of a difficult dividing up of goods. Luckily, love, support...the really important things...never need to be divided!0 -
Don't read NDG, you don't need the mental imagery to he,p ypu...
This evening DH made me laugh so much I was a bit sick. Trying to be sick while laughing is extremely ridiculous and that was making me laugh more, which made DH laugh which made me laugh more.0 -
vivatifosi wrote: »What sort of thing do you like to do when you are away Spirit? You could do some great city breaks that time of year, but that's only if you like city breaks.
We need something relatively restful as OH is very busy a the moment - and will be away most of May with very little time off before then after this break. We like cities - galleries, buildings, churches, music.I've just been to Lisbon. First time for 20 years.
It's a great place to visit :T
Thanks - OH has been a few times but I have not.Doozergirl wrote: »We did Sharm at Christmas. Loved it. The sea is warm, the snorkelling was unbeatable.
We also got the most amazing deal, bought flights from Easyjet and the hotel I researched for ages and found the right level of service etc at the right price and even managed 10% cashback through Quidco. I would happily recommend the hotel The food quality and variety was fabulous. No trips to Cairo etc again now, but it's as far from Sharm as Belgium is from us, probably, but the opportunity is there for a bargain.
In laws have a place on the coast near Lisbon. It's lovely. We should go more.
I went downstairs for the first time in neary a week to try and eat with the family. It was like trying to eat really tasty red hot pokers. I have retreated, defeated.
When I do get to go there, I will ask for details. Were you OK about security? That is OHs bug bear at present - he is working a lot in a place where security is an issue at present and does not want additional exposure.
Sorry about the red hot pokers. Mr Spirit has a good few stitches in his gums, yesterday he had yoghurt a soft roll and celery soup. For today I made him veg soup and pea and ham soup so that he would not starve. However we had roast pork for lunch...and he insisted on having this too - including (a small piece of) crackling:eek:.
This is not because I am concerned for his welfare, more that I am protecting our investment in his dental work. Very MSE.
Will investigate Lisbon. We do not want long haul, it is only a week max.0
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