Nice People Thread Number 10 -the official residence of Nice People

lemonjelly

zagubov

hjd wrote: »

My SIL was very sick with her first pregnancy, was hospitalised on a drip at one point.
She had a boy.
Second pregnancy she was sick, not as badly, and had a girl.

My mother had me, then 2 boys, so wanted another girl last time - ended up with non-identical twin boys. Wasn't sick during any pregnancy, which is very lucky as that was the time when they were giving out thalidomide for morning sickness.

You're the same age as me. My mum did take it.

PasturesNew

I randomly stumbled across a programme on the telly in the past 2-3 days called something like "Weird Eaters", I'd missed the start, but it seemed as if this bloke had never eaten a meal. He was mid 20s or so, I think he even worked in a kitchen.

It came down, in part, to the fact there was a sibling who died, aged 3, before he was born. So some over-anxious mother issues had started it off.

Programme finished with him sitting at a table with his whole family, while he, and they, ate a full fish in sauce with veggies meal in front of them. The first time they'd ever seen him eat proper food.

PasturesNew

lemonjelly wrote: »

And now he's the butt of Internet jokes

Wheezy_2

lostinrates wrote: »

We have a plum tree down in back garden

I just finished walking doggy, got caught in a hailstorm while driving back home and when I got home the apple tree on the green in front of our house was down.
It's a pity, looks a bit bare now.

Edit : Last Saturday, not today

Wheezy_2

bugslet wrote: »

CK, good to hear you are busy, it's a slooow start here this year and currently falling out with Belgians that don't understand the need for info. Grrr.

Those Belgians...tsk!

lemonjelly

PasturesNew wrote: »

That's down to parenting and letting them know who is boss. There is a time to let it go and see if they will grow out of it - and a time to insist they stay at the table until they've eaten it.

There are also parents who can't cook .... and the kid's refusal is really saying "Your food tastes horrible, learn to cook"

I agree.

Not an easy comment to make to the parents though...:eek:

tomterm8

GDB2222 wrote: »

Does anyone know what the going rate is for pay for a carer living with an elderly person, with own room provided? The carer would need to work 6 days a week although the work is fairly light most of the time. DW has found someone to look after MIL, and is interviewing this afternoon. So, any info about pay levels before that would be really useful, please.

What kind of carer? If it's a registered nurse it will cost a lot of money, if it is a bogstandard carer sort it doesn't need to. Agency carers work for around £8 per hour (the agency gets a lot of the money you pay them), and you'd be offering food and board.

I don't think this is a position for one person, though. You'd really need two people.

And there are risk implications to this scenario that are kind of obvious, because you're leaving a vulnerable individual in the care of someone alone for that length of time. How you get around that I don't know.

tomterm8

PasturesNew wrote: »

My sibling would only eat yorkshires and roast spuds.... taken to the Dr, Dr said "that's fine, she'll grow out of it" - and she did .... aged 18 when she left home and went to teacher training college and had dinners with friends there.

My mother didn't have enough money to mess around. No one had to eat everything she provided but if they didn't they wouldn't eat.

lostinrates

lemonjelly wrote: »

I agree.

Not an easy comment to make to the parents though...:eek:

Hmm. I actually think its really hard for parents. I think its easier for people who AREN't parents who have care of the kids because the kids while we care for them don't have that same way to guilt us.

Also, I knew the kid is going to get no negative association with its mum if I pretended not to notice a grimace about finely sliced onion or whatever. It wasn't mums fault.

Then,,,...mum had in her armoury......you ate it for her.....!