Nice People Thread Number 10 -the official residence of Nice People

SingleSue

I have memories of being sat at the dinner table with my plate and the dreaded green veg in front of me, going cold as I wasn't allowed to leave the table until they had been eaten....not good memories and something I remembered when it came to having my own children.

I think the trying one mouthful is a good idea but if a child distinctly does not like something, then I believe they should not be forced to eat it as it can (in some), lead to problems with food later on.

It got too much for me in the end and I just stopped eating to regain some control, this went on for weeks with not a morsel passing my lips, only fluids so I kept hydrated and although I was persuaded to start eating again, I have had a lifelong unhealthy relationship with food, either to excess or not enough. I joke that I am like a bullimic without the throwing up, going days sometimes without eating and then going mental with food...but then, it really isn't a joke is it?

I rarely sit and eat with the boys now, they are used to me cooking their meals and then having a cup of tea while they are eating, or if I do eat with them, only having a small plate and eating a small amount of it...most of my eating is in private, away from others.

GDB2222

Does anyone know what the going rate is for pay for a carer living with an elderly person, with own room provided? The carer would need to work 6 days a week although the work is fairly light most of the time. DW has found someone to look after MIL, and is interviewing this afternoon. So, any info about pay levels before that would be really useful, please.

Nikkster

GDB2222 wrote: »

Does anyone know what the going rate is for pay for a carer living with an elderly person, with own room provided? The carer would need to work 6 days a week although the work is fairly light most of the time. DW has found someone to look after MIL, and is interviewing this afternoon. So, any info about pay levels before that would be really useful, please.

These might (or might not) be useful:

http://www.ecil.org/index.asp?pageID=59.
http://www.saga.co.uk/care/saga-guide-to-care/saga-guide-to-care-landing-page/saga-guide-to-care/the-options-for-long-term-care/care-at-home.aspx

From a google, but picked what should be reputable links.

lostinrates

SingleSue wrote: »

I have memories of being sat at the dinner table with my plate and the dreaded green veg in front of me, going cold as I wasn't allowed to leave the table until they had been eaten....not good memories and something I remembered when it came to having my own children.

I think the trying one mouthful is a good idea but if a child distinctly does not like something, then I believe they should not be forced to eat it as it can (in some), lead to problems with food later on.

It got too much for me in the end and I just stopped eating to regain some control, this went on for weeks with not a morsel passing my lips, only fluids so I kept hydrated and although I was persuaded to start eating again, I have had a lifelong unhealthy relationship with food, either to excess or not enough. I joke that I am like a bullimic without the throwing up, going days sometimes without eating and then going mental with food...but then, it really isn't a joke is it?

I rarely sit and eat with the boys now, they are used to me cooking their meals and then having a cup of tea while they are eating, or if I do eat with them, only having a small plate and eating a small amount of it...most of my eating is in private, away from others.

I certainly think sitting someone at a table with no other engagement with something they hate, no choice and involvement is a poor recipe for changing their mind.


I started with something the child liked eating and making home cooked versions, getting them to help. Home cooking for parents who are at work for example, really developes a sense of acheivement and pride. Going out and buying the food, choosing it, being praised for finding good...big bright peppers, or the tenderest stems of something, ....its as much much more about, um.....carrots as sticks

If you say ' sit here eat this plain white fish and chard and plain boiled potatoes most kids will blanch, and while as an adult its a pleasing idea of a meal to me it wouldn't have been when I was six. Its not hard to remember being six and think about how to make fish less horrid.

Some cabages etc actually have something that tastes extra repellant to children's taste buds. We do well to remember and respect that. They have more taste buds than us I think. And so much more is new, and some people, what ever age, new is scary. That's ok, But its only new the first few times! And its always new if they never get to experience it.

Your tales about the boys always make me smile.

GDB2222

Nikkster wrote: »

These might (or might not) be useful:

http://www.ecil.org/index.asp?pageID=59.
http://www.saga.co.uk/care/saga-guide-to-care/saga-guide-to-care-landing-page/saga-guide-to-care/the-options-for-long-term-care/care-at-home.aspx

From a google, but picked what should be reputable links.

Oh thank you, Nikki! That's really helpful. You're a star.

lostinrates

Over eight years I've 'known'some of you lot. That's a bloody long time!

GDB2222

lostinrates wrote: »

Over eight years I've 'known'some of you lot. That's a bloody long time!

If that's a bad thing, I'm sorry. On the other hand if it's a good thing, then :T:T:T

bugslet

lostinrates wrote: »

Are their any old wonves tales about really bad sickness through pregnancy, like ...they give you lots of trouble during gestation but they'll be easier afterwards or anything like that?

I didn';t realise you were still suffering without the pills:(

Generali wrote: »

I went to a supermarket today, not a convenience store, which doesn't sell fresh fruit, veg or meat.

I asked where the veg was and the woman looked at me like I was an idiot.

Mrs Generali's mum is going to hospital on Thurs for a while. BP is 198/119. She wins the blood pressure prize I think.

My friend went out to Oz for two years and she's a veggie, found it very difficult and said that she found meat was cheaper than veg - one of many reasons she never really got to grips with Oz.

Mine was 216/130+ at one point. Took a good few months to get it anywhere near normal. I think I was supposed to take time off work, but you don't do that when you work for yourself.

michaels

lostinrates wrote: »

Over eight years I've 'known'some of you lot. That's a bloody long time!

There is something I find very comfortable about the thread, you can dip in when yyou want, give it as much time as you want and even better than a real get together if it is a topic that doesn't interest you you can just bow out, you don't have to go out in the cold or buy expensive drinks to chat to your mates and being ust slightly less intimate there is no judgement or 'advice' that would happen if it were irl.

I still think if we had a really good fictional writer in the group (mewbie?) there would be the makings of a great chick lit novel intertwining stories around the thread(s).

PasturesNew

lostinrates wrote: »

Seriously, when you move, please get a freezer!

E.g. I am the only person in this house eating white bread. (No one else would ) so I buy it and put it straight in the freezer and use as toast.

Other things to do with left over bread.....

Bread is about the easiest thing to use up though, with no dietary restrictions.

Croutons for soup/salad. An individual fruit Charlotte. Seasonal variations on summer pudding or bread and butter pudding (though I am not a fan RP is ) bread pudding, (I am a fan so make it vary rarely, last did about four/five years ago!) crimps for grating or coatings, or whatever.

DH and I , before this bread thing, just don't eat that much bread, so its not an issue here.

I'll get one of those before I get a bed!

There are tons of things one could do with bread, but you still have to finacy those things

It's easy to accumulate more half loaves than you can ever use.... sometimes you just fancy fresh bread - and not toasting frozen bread.

I'd make some potato cake style things and use the breadcrumbs to coat those, but again, it's a question of how many potato cake things one can eat.

There's no shortage of ways to use up bread - the issue is whether you can eat enough of those things to actually get through all the bread.

Now, I LOVE bread pudding, but realistically I'd eat 4 pieces per year.

I do plan on using rolled/decrusted bread to make some samosa-style bakes. But, again, how many can be eaten? If you make 20 and stick them in the freezer and eat 4 once a week, it'd still take 5 weeks to get through the lot... and meanwhile, more bread could be accumulating.