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Habibiboo

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Aww, thanks lovely ladies ...

Tilly_MFW_in_6_YRS wrote: »

Hi Habibiboo, glad to hear you're feeling better.

Re the grey could - it's a long old journey we're on and I know Mr T and I have ups and downs. Whatever downs there are though, at least we are all heading in the right direction

Hope the new students are OK. Will they be from the new company?

Tilly x x

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Thanks Tilly, yes it's a long road but I'm sure we'll get there. Thanks for sharing.I'm feeling a little better today, just tired.
Students will be from same company as these ones as I told the new company we wouldn't have room until 19th August (although apparently we may have as DSD is house sitting for friends for 2 weeks so she won't be in the other room). Just have to see what happens all round.

Alchemilla wrote: »

Can yor Mr not just move jobs?
Am I misunderstanding?

Sorry things are hard for him.

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Thanks too, Alchemilla, it's not just the job there are other factors at the moment all,of which are conspiring. I guess it also doesn't help that he's freely admitted that his cheery old dad turned into a right grump with age and he feels he might have inherited the trait, despite not being that old really!

He's always said he won't leave his school unless he's asked to but he is building contacts at the local uni and college as we speak! x

Goldiegirl wrote: »

Sorry to hear it's a bit of a slog at the moment.

I felt a bit like that around about March time.

I think I'd spent a Wednesday making sure I'd baked enough bread to see us through until the weekend, done a load of batch cooking and made a cake. I was knackered and nearly abandoned the project, with the attitude 'stuff this, next time I'll buy sliced bread, a stash of ready meals and a Mr Kipling fruit cake.

But I did pull back from the brink, I think the thing that got me back on track was starting my own diary.

From everything you've written, it's clear you and Mr H are a solid team, so I'm sure you'll pull through:)

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I appreciate you sharing that GG, we're ok deep down just not managing too well with the day to day, I need the end of term grumpiness to lift for him and a bit of the anxiety to lift for me. Hopefully payday Thursday and a night to ourselves tonight will help! x

Alchemilla

Hope the hols will be healing for you both.
Was Mr HBB's Dad grumpy or stressed/depressed?

I feel for him. I feel like I have never worked so hard while getting so little credit.

Habibiboo

Alchemilla wrote: »

Hope the hols will be healing for you both.
Was Mr HBB's Dad grumpy or stressed/depressed?

I feel for him. I feel like I have never worked so hard while getting so little credit.

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Thanks Alchemilla, yes I really feel for him too but I think it's a case of the ones who are closest cop the fallout. End of term was awful and he's never stayed so wound up and well, bally grumpy for so long. Trying to be fully supportive but darn it he's not making it easy!:rotfl:

:cool: Like yourself he's also working extremely hard but, as you know, refusing to play silly games when it comes to data and contradictory / wooly management, he's sticking to playing the straight, long game for his kids and it's causing him problems. Ironically he has lost responsibilities except for one major one as the new broom has a preferred team (the responsibility he's kept is the one no one else wants). This isn't just Mr. Hbbb ... a very dedicated member of staff, one of the loveliest people you could wish to meet, was pooped on from management height and replaced in her role of responsibility she's had for two years just before the end of term, which has affected the established staff badly ... it's just like the playground thing of picking on someone who doesn't deserve it just to display power (think I've shared before my theory about parallels between staff and student psychologies).

Re his dad, mostly after retirement as far as I know ... he passed away before I met Mr Hbbb. Grump is the word Mr Hbbb uses to describe him and it also describes poor old Mr Hbbb to a tee too! You're right he does need healing hols, I just thought it would have started by now, instead he has developed a couple of health issues so you can tell he's still stressed and under par.

I'm sorry you're experiencing the same, I just don't understand how such dedicated people doing such valuable jobs can be treated so badly and devalued to the point they have to look elsewhere. I hope the hols are happy and healing for you too.

Apologies for this Eyeore post! Think you touched on something there Al that needed to come out! It's made it even more important to do what we're doing with the mortgage but somehow the road just became that bit more of an uphill struggle, really, so I guess we're both feeling the pressure.

Anyhoo, holiday hugs! Back to report money stuff later, now off to scrub hen house and meet 1 pm project deadline. x

Alchemilla

Probably just as well to say it here!

How are the school getting away with removing people's responsibilities??

Trying to think what helps me...

apple_muncher

And you also have chooks that get you up at silly-o'clock. And you are sharing your house and lives with the students who you are also cooking for and generally looking after. And you are being bitten by all biting critters. And you are still doing your 'normal' job.

You are not getting much peace and timeout for yourselves, it seems! Do take care xx

Habibiboo

Alchemilla wrote: »

Probably just as well to say it here!

How are the school getting away with removing people's responsibilities??

Trying to think what helps me...

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Usual methods of asking people to step up to "add capacity" or cover long term absence,with the promise of promotion and then making them re-interview at a later date or adding the responsibility to a newly created post, or just plain passing people over -anything goes lately!

Thanks though, he's a bit more pragmatic today but it worries me that he's a week into his holiday and still checking work emails and talking about it all.

I appreciate your help Alchemilla but I don't want you putting your head there in the holidays ... yours has only just started after all! Let's not think about school until September, let's talk frugal sofa makeovers ... x

Habibiboo

apple_muncher wrote: »

And you also have chooks that get you up at silly-o'clock. And you are sharing your house and lives with the students who you are also cooking for and generally looking after. And you are being bitten by all biting critters. And you are still doing your 'normal' job.

You are not getting much peace and timeout for yourselves, it seems! Do take care xx

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Mum, is that you ...? :rotfl:

You're right of course A*M ... Alarmingly you've just managed to sum up life as we know it! So, on reflection I've blocked out Fridays and weekends in my work diary through August just to build in a bit of us time and head-space, students or not!

Thanks x

apple_muncher

Habibiboo wrote: »

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Mum, is that you ...? :rotfl:

You're right of course A*M ... Alarmingly you've just managed to sum up life as we know it! So, on reflection I've blocked out Fridays and weekends in my work diary through August just to build in a bit of us time and head-space, students or not!

Thanks x

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Good decision girl! Now we'll all we watching to check that you keep to it .

Habibiboo

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I hope everyone's Ok and enjoying this sunshine again!

MFW actions:

* NSD
* £30 cash back from utilities switch received and £50 MOP, so another £80 towards the greater good ...

SMASH day 60 / 100 = £ 2,588 / £ 3,000

Grey Clouds:

Lovely two students have left, tears from one of them, passport panic from the other (found it behind the chest of drawers but thankfully before he left)! But ...

Silver linings:

New pair arriving this evening, one is settling in as I write, seems a very chipper chappie ... I forgot how much variation there is between 14-15 year old boys (not a nationality thing, just a height, size, maturity thing) ... this one seems very young but superbly chatty!

Daily declutter:

Mr. Hbbb's "I'm saving that one" newspaper collection has been recycled up to the henhouse instead of burgeoning from the undersides of the coffee table. Total = 247 / 365

Simple pleasures:
* Meeting new people
* Looking after others
- sorry, I realise this is starting to make making me sound like a Miss World contestant, I'll start on about small animals and saving the planet next ...!
How about ...
* Fixing a blind which has been annoying me for 2 years, at no cost whatsoever!
* Having to use my schoolgirl Spanish to explain to said new person that he can't hijack the neighbours' Wi-Fi but must use the password I'm trying to give him so he can log into ours for his phone. Yes, I know he's here to learn English but jeez, have you ever tried to do get that point across in the manner of charades because the poor poppet's here to learn the lingo, he doesn't actually know that much yet!
Happy hump day to everyone and happy spreadsheet day tomorrow! x

Goldiegirl

That's great that you and Mr H are going to have long weekend 'down time' in August. I hope Mr H will get some respite from his work concerns.

It's entertaining hearing about your students. Most young people seem to get a bad press in the media, but I think most youngsters know how to behave when they are guests in someone's house

Hope tomorrow is a good day