Action plan needed

Person_one

katy721 wrote: »

Complaining would be a bit awkward at the moment due to the nature of the job I do, and the fact I am currently job hunting. It shouldn't matter at all as it should be treated professionally, but unfortunately in reality things do not quite work like that.

I cannot rate the Samaritans highly enough though, they have been absolutely brilliant and are top of my list of charities to raise money for this year.

A complaint is confidential, I work for the NHS and I've complained about other parts of it.

Its up to you, if you feel up to it or not, but I would encourage you to at least have a chat with someone from the advocacy charity, or maybe with a Samaritan just to explore the issue a bit.

Good luck with everything whatever you decide.

Wellyboots6

Bottled it
Had the opportunity of a doctors appointment this afternoon to talk things through, but declined it. The mental health team were going to write to my GP to say what had happened so now I am worried the GP will think I am making it up.
I over think things

bagpussbear

Sorry to hear you are having a difficult time. These are my thoughts which I hope help, but of course take them or leave them :-)

Tackling Issue 3 first - I am wondering actually whether its worth being in a relationship at this time? It seems to be giving you an added pressure of worrying you're not being able to be physical with him/causing pain when you do, and because he is away a lot doesn't seem to be able to provide the emotional support you need. To be honest, I don't see what you are getting out of the relationship at this time and if I was in your shoes, and I wasn't yet in love with the man, I think I would call it a day.

Issue 1 and 2 - Any good GP will want to help and listen to their patient and get the best results, but also realise its a two way conversation. Long gone are the days (or should be) that the patient should feel they cannot question the doc. The GP is a human being at the end of the day, doesn't know everything. Having said that, you have been through tests and seen a specialist, is there anything you think they have missed or you expected a particular test and didn't happen?

Mental health has an effect on the physical body, so its possible that nothing is 'wrong' as such but your body is manifesting pain and problems because of it. It's possible that when you get in a good place with your mental health, your physical problems may improve/go away. I speak with a bit of experience here.

Also, try investigating alternative healing therapies, there are a ton out there which might help? Make sure you are eating well and/or getting supplements.

Ring the service place again and ask when you will get an appointment. Say to them you feel you are going downhill very fast now, and are in desperate need to see them. Being polite and patient doesn't always help you get want you want quickly sadly. I won't be personal and ask if you have thought about suicide, but if you have for god's sake tell them, and things should move much quicker.

Issue 4 and 5 - would looking for another job, better paid be the answer to both these worries?

Wellyboots6

Thanks bagpussbear.
I had thought the same about the realtionship, but then wasn't sure if it was the depression talking. I have been in relationships previously where the bloke has ended it as he needed 'time to think' etc. I always thought it was a man-excuse and so didn't want to do the same!

I had also thought about the link between mental and physical health. Both seemed to deteriorate at a similar time, when I had a traumatic event so I am pretty sure they are linked.

I have thought a lot about suicide, which is why the first service wouldn't work with me and I got referred on. At my last session he asked if I had thought about it since the assessment and I told him I had, more often. His response was 'well everybody thinks like that at times'. Did not help at all!

I am applying for other jobs, so hopefully that issue will come good in time.