Action plan needed

Wellyboots6

Yup, been to gynae and they couldn't work out what was wrong either so said to come back in 3 months and see how I am then.

Maybe I am just being impatient and expecting too much too quickly.

Writing it down is a good idea

Nicki

Have you changed either your eating habits or your contraception? I had trouble with constant bleeding which started a few weeks after starting a low carb diet and it is a common side effect of this with women. Some women also have this side effect to hormonal contraception. Sometimes it wears off which is possibly what your gynae is waiting to see. If not a mirena helps some women and might also be suitable if you have started a new relationship anyway?

barbiedoll

OP, depending on what is causing your constant bleeding, there are almost certainly treatments available which would help.

The tone of your posts says to me that you are not a particularly confident person (at least at the moment) and you may be giving off vibes at the GP's and at the hospital, which suggest that you aren't actually suffering too much. I work in a medical field (not qualified at anything, I hasten to add!) and I know that patients who complain long and loud, will be listened to. Those who try not to make too much fuss, will be fobbed off. I know it's terrible but the NHS is under pressure, as are many of the staff. You need to make a bit more of a noise!

Go back to your GP, or a different one if you have a choice at your surgery, and tell them that your condition is making life unbearable. Let them know that you have no love life, it is making work difficult and is detrimental to your mental health. Sit there and refuse to move until you have been referred to a specialist. I know it's embarrassing, having to make a fuss, but it works, I have done it myself.

Call the MH team, if you don't, you won't know what is happening.

Speak to your partner, you don't have to go into full details but let him know what is bothering you, he may be more supportive than you think.

Jobwise...worry about that when it happens, although it won't hurt to have a look around.

Money worries.....can't help too much with that, I'm as poor as a church mouse myself at the moment, that's why I'm on here on a Saturday night!

As for the state of your paperwork....I know how that feels, I have a pine cupboard in our bedroom which is so full of old paperwork (I'm talking 6 year old gas bills :eek:) that the bottom has fallen out of it. Out of sight, out of mind! :rotfl:

Wellyboots6

No change in diet that I can think of.

They have suggested the mirena but then decided against it due to various reasons.

Tomorrow I will make a list of exactly what is happening health-wise and how it is affecting me, and then when I am next at the doctors (got to go for blood results) I will do some assertive list-reading!

It is on my to do list to call MH team on Monday.

I have just gutted all of the cupboards that were bothering me and was quite ruthless in throwing stuff away. I now have a HUGE pile of bills and other envelopes I have never opened covering the sofa ready to work through.

Kinda feels like a bit of a mental sort-out too, rather than hiding everything behind closed doors I am actually getting it out in to the open to deal with (oooh bit deep for a Saturday night!).

My evening is going to consist of wine and paperwork sorting it seems, living life on the edge as usual

kittendothroar

I don't have much experience with heavy periods - am on cerazette pill and not had a monthly since March could you consider something like that? I really do sympathise as a young woman with bleeding and frustration with Dr's not seeming that bothered... remember even the occ health chap saying 'oh well its not really something to get upset about' (how to make you feel even worse!) I had 2 years with on and off then constant bleeding from piles - until it got to the point I fainted several times and then they decided something more than cream and banding might be required! I felt so unfeminine and it really does affect you mentally, once it was finally fixed in the form of surgery after yet another faint and plumeting iron and hb levels my life really did start getting back on track as it had got to the point I didn't want to leave the house, mainly as could bleed without warning onto friends sofa's etc! Go nag them!! Don't take no for an answer and stand your ground.

Make sure you call the MH team and chase them if needed after!

Having a good clear out is great for the mind and you can then deal with things practically. Hiding things in the cupboards both mentally and physically is never a good idea in the long term as one day those cupboards have to re-open.

Wine is good, in small doses at least, just relax, try and enjoy life and remember things constantly change and you have to roll with it - you can't help but move forward as backwards isn't possible!

Good luck x

fredtheguava

katy721 wrote: »

No change in diet that I can think of.

They have suggested the mirena but then decided against it due to various reasons.

Tomorrow I will make a list of exactly what is happening health-wise and how it is affecting me, and then when I am next at the doctors (got to go for blood results) I will do some assertive list-reading!

It took me nearly ten years of complaining to get anyone to listen to me about the constant bleeding. Finally I made a list of all the many reasons why it was making my life a misery and took it in. We went through each one in turn, and I got the help I needed. For me, it's the Mirena. I know it's not perfect and it has some well-known issues, but it has changed my life. I've also had surgery for endometriosis... Which is another story...

I kept being told there was nothing they could do because I was young/gay/didn't want kids/blah but if you force them to help, you may just get somewhere. See a different doctor if need be. I had one that was AMAZING and I couldn't have done it without him.. After seeing one who told me periods really couldn't be as dreadful as I was making out, and another who told me it was 'every woman's dream to have children' and the aggressive treatments I was suggesting were not appropriate for me as a childfree by choice person as I might change my mind one day.

It's a fight, but it has improved my quality of life no end and made issues 2-5 (or my own equivalents!) much more bearable. Especially the *ahem* type one...

hazyjo

Definitely see a female doctor for a start (sorry fellas, but you don't always understand what us women go through!).

Secondly, how old are you? (Contraceptive pills may be an option.)

Jx

Tamara_2

Never posted before, but your problem struck a chord with me.
My sister had exactly the same as you - constant, heavy bleeding and scarcely any 'time off' between periods. She saw many different specialists, both NHS and private, and had all the tests but no explanation could be found.
She lived with it for about four or five years and then moved to Spain. Strangely, the bleeding stopped and became 'normal. She returned to England for an extended length of time - the constant bleeding started up again. Once more it stopped when she returned to Spain.
My sister's convinced it's something to do with chemicals that are added to the water here, but obviously we don't know for sure. She now only drinks bottled water when she visits the UK and has had no problems since. The poster who suggested it could be something about your diet might be on to something?

skattykatty

How are you katy???

I have had my share of gyne problems and started arming myself with lists of what was happening when and questions questions questions...it's really shocking how some gps try to fob you off. How does bleeding every day not affect your life?

Hope you are ok.

Wellyboots6

I have tried every contraceptive pill under the sun, and most of those it turns out I shouldn't have been taking as I have bad migraines and my mum had a brain aneurysm which could have hereditary links.

Today, without going in to too much detail is a 'good' day!! And I feel sooo much better for it. I don't know how long it will last, but even one day makes me feel like I can re-charge my batteries a little.

Tamara- I don't know if it is linked, but this all started not long after I moved house. At the moment I can't afford to use bottled water, but next month if I re-jig my budget it may be worth giving a go. It's not something I had even considered, so thank you!

Mental health team have not been answering the phone today, so it is on my list of things to do tomorrow.

OH gets back from his jollies on Wednesday so I will give him a few days to settle back in and then see about broaching certain subjects with him. It's the mental health stuff that I am really worried about telling him, he knows most of the other anyway.

Thanks for all your replies, it really does help. I don't have many people to talk to, so even just being able to have a grumble on here helps stop me driving myself potty!